Should I confront him on ignoring me?

[Anonymous]

We Haven't talked in about 3 weeks. Should I confront him today about why he hasn't answered my texts? I sent 2 texts within those 3 weeks and we used to text at least 4 times a week. I don't want to come off as upset but I'm just curious what's going on. Do you think I should do this? or is that annoying

[nealjames]

Not only is that annoying, but it's clingy and desperate. You should not have even sent him the second text to begin with. Text's don't 'get lost' and people don't 'forget to respond to them'. If you confront him about why he hasn't texted back you most likely get a response along the lines of one of those. You should move on and find other guys that you would consider dating. It's always good to be the one with options, not the other way around. Goodluck!

[Asker]

Thanks! But I feel like he shouldn't get away with just deciding not to respond. that's messed up and he should own up to whatever the problem is. I also want to know what it is that made him stop texting..dont you think I should know this?

[nealjames]

I think in the bigger picture this absolutely does not matter. Think about it, you're not gonna marry the guy. What I always do is put myself in their shoes and picture the worst possible outcome. What I mean is this, imagine you kind of like this guy and all of a sudden he starts getting kind of clingy so you don't respond to him and he texts you again. Although your situation may not be exactly like this, it's highly possible that's how he perceived it. Do you understand what I'm saying?

[Asker]

yeah that makes sense. I was actually in that situation before and it was horrible. I didn't want to be mean but it was so annoying. Thank you

[nealjames]

No problem! I'm glad I could help.

[Anonymous]

I wouldnt, no matter how hard it is not to know why. But I think it will put him on the defensive and most likely he wouldn't tell you the truth anyhow.

I guess if you went about it really nice and sweet and showed concern about it," are you alright? you haven't been texting me lately."

But don't give the the third degree about it. :)

[Asker]

Yeah, thanks! I just hate when guys do this, like they can just decide to stop a friendship out of nowhere. I mean I would be cool with it if he just let me know. but not ignore me. that's high school stuff..