I'm a very shy man?

[Anonymous]

Gues im new in Europe alone and lonely , i want to ask guys how do you find new people new friends and i can't even have a girlfriend im too much shy at first and i dont believe i have confident to talk to a girl i like in garden or street.. its getting hard here

[AvaRay]

Try be confident when talk to people..

Be yourself in a good, proper n respectful way..

Doesn't mean that u hv to approach directly by talking to whomever u meet while u walking on the street / when u sitting at the park..

Just when u pass people, u can put sincere n warmth smile n looks on your face, at least by that people can get the vibes that u r approachable n friendly person..

Most importantly, enggage yourself in a community where u can meet a lot of people there.. I m sure u ll find a good friend n also your right one

Try to open up with small convo.. it's ok, better try a bit bit rather than never at all.. cheer up, u can do it I believe in u tho 👊🏻☺️

[Asker]

Thank you thats a good comment and advices i have a weird question if you dont mind... suppose you been in the park.. garden.. or anywhere and a guy talked to you starting then he said he find you attractive and wants ur ig for ex.. whats ur reaction?

[AvaRay]

Well, I ll 1st say my gratitude for a sincere compliment that person give me..

Then I ll ask them what make that person see me attractive tho?

N from that we can start Convo a bit to get to know each other in a proper manner ofc..

N by that we can see from their reaction of responding us, their body gesture like what..

Then we can decide ourself , we wanna proceed further as a friend / drop it..

[AvaRay]

Asking my IG username never be issue for me personally..

But to give my personal num, well that only to people that I m feel really save n trust..

So for a while we can talk on IG to build up that trust , n if the person is in same area we can meet up also interact in real lets see the connection..

Not in sexual stuff..

[InknKink]

Shyness is a cultivated trait.

You need to expose yourself to social discomfort to overcome it. It's as easy, and as difficult, as exactly that.

There is no secret sauce. There is not an immediate solution. Consistent discomfort is the one way forward.

Step out of your comfort zone over and over until you're boundaries expand.

But you know this. You're simply avoiding it. Which is the crux of your shyness. Avoidance. Get confrontation.

[Hardon-Collider]

You're shy because you were born from your head. It's a spiritual fact. If your head grew slowly in the womb, you are born 'from the head.' You are an alien in your body, an observer, not a participant. The shyness is the natural result of this process.

[Anonymous]

If you're shy you're at a disadvantage. The ONLY arrow you have in your quiver really is, "making yourself visible". You need to create a situation where women are most likely to approach you. This best done by attending concerts and music festivals. Places where women are relaxed, alcohol is flowing and women are making poor decisions. YOU can be that poor decision!😆

[beefcakebradybatson]

Are you handsome, because a lot of us really good-looking guys seem quite bashful?

[Asker]

Yes i have a high value bashful and i put my dignity first... thats my first problem haha 2nd im shy 🤭 😅

[Asker]

Sorry my eng is not good

[beefcakebradybatson]

Shyness around the ladies has always been a major problem for me.

[Asker]

Damn i thought im the only one