How do I trust my future girlfriend/wife to be honest with me?

[Johnsmth]

One of the main things I want in life other than achieving my goals is to be with an honest straight woman who loves me just as much as I love her. But I'm losing hope and trust and I already have trust issues.

Recently I was on reddit and had a dm conversation with this woman who claimed to be a conservative/traditional and an ex-feminist. I was not pursing a relationship with this woman or anything and I'm not a fan of online dating. I just had this one insecurity and wanted to get her thoughts on it since it seemed like we shared similar views.

She reassured me and we talked about a variety of different topics including political views and religious views. It seemed like we shared a lot of similar views. One of the things she said was that she didn't like how a lot of women are immodest and wear things like crop tops and shorts. I personally don't really care what a woman wears unless she was my significant other and was wearing something too revealing or provocative. But I found it nice that it seemed like she was more old school and traditional. Not even a day later I see in her comment history that she was complimenting a woman on a post of her wearing shorts and a crop top and saying how nice she looks in it. I dmed her and I simply respectfully asked why she was contradicting herself and instead of responding she just blocked me and set her post and comment history to private (Everyone's including mine is set to public by default on reddit).

This is just a more recent example but I've seen so many women online who lie and/or contradict themselves and it's making me lose trust. Even in real life I've met some women who present themselves a certain way but when you get to know them they aren't who they appeared to be. How do I trust my future girlfriend/wife to be honest with me?

[Anonymous]

I don't know what to say about this because I've done it myself
I told my friend that I'm not with all that dying my hair stuff. One day she has her hair an orange color and I said it looks good, but she said I looked like I was judging her. However she said I acted differently when I saw a woman with pink hair. I even told her I liked it.

In my head I see it differently tho.
I actually dyed my hair and wore colored wigs before, but based on my religion I'm not suppose to do that and when I did I felt more rebellious.
I love the colors and to this day I think it's beautiful and expressive, but because of my personal beliefs, I'm conflicted between doing things right or wrong.
That can also plays into responses too
Especially if it's a spur of the moment thing
Self control vs instinctive desire
Also that person's not in my immediate circle and I don't know what they believe
I'm just stating fact
I would be lying if I say it's ugly
However if you're in my inner circle I'll tell you my beliefs, if you catch me slipping reprimand me. I also don't want you to fall into the same things I did, but I also respect your beliefs.

When you called her out she shouldn't of blocked you, she should of self reflected.

[HollyK21]

Then maybe you should get offline, and I say that with zero disrespect. Anyone — male, female, young, old — is subject to being an entirely different person online. The internet is like a cesspool of disingenuous liars who are entirely different people in person. I don't know about you but my IRL experiences with people is vastly different than the ones on social media, so I’d rather base how I feel about men/women on the ones I will actually encounter in my day to day. Not have my faith in meaningful connections destroyed because of people online.

[Anonymous]

You really can't. Lying and women go together like butt cheeks. She's going to lie to you man. It WHAT she lies to you about that makes all the difference. But don't ever expect you're going to get honesty from a woman my man. You find life really disappointing if you do.

[slatyb]

See a professional counselor. If you can't trust anyone, you won't get anyone trustworthy.

[Nikki1989]

You need to seek therapy before ever considering a relationship. You are too insecure and immature at this point.