How can I get a comitted relationship at age 28? Why guys only want sex and no girlfriend?

[Sugar100]

I need help. Ik everyone is tired or don’t believe I never had a boyfriend. Well it’s true I never had a boyfriend.
I need help.
guys don’t want a girlfriend, they all say they had many gfs before , or thier parents are religious but they aren’t , so if they had gfs and relationships before, y I can’t be next in line for a relationship?

latley I’m turning down guys as I say I don’t do fwbs or hookup. I want a boyfriend. And guys don’t agree so then we block eachother. Or they insist on meeting for sex and I keep saying NO I want a comitted relationship! Short term just once in my life before I’m 30.

I haven’t gone on a date in many years. I met one guy and we made out but he lie about dating me. Then week after he wanted meet for sex in his car. I said what happened to the mini golf date we were going to have?
He has a daughter and had many serious gfs and was 31.

Another guy agree for arcade date but he wants sex first in car as he lives with parents and 26. Supsoivly he dates to date and don’t do friends with benefits and says that’s for kids. But if he makes me his girl I have to bj wenever he wants. I’m still unsure if this guy will be my first real boyfriend.

I only dated one guy in my life age 18-24 but he use me for sex. He never asked to be his girlfriend and said he was single but acted like a boyfriend. But we never met family 7 years.

I dated a guy July but it was only one real date at beach. But rest was staying at his house 2-4x a wk. and eat in my car only. He would deny call me his girlfriend. So I left him as I don’t do friends with benefits and he won’t confirm what we are.

guys just stare at me as they like me but guys don’t approach me and look scared. I’m short blonde skinny. I don’t talk cuz I’m alone hav no boyfriend talk to but Im not reserved. I’m just alone which makes it seem that way. Or else I would be yelling shouting talking all day with my baby and boyfriend if I had that life.

[Speaking_Frankly]

I think you may need to speak to a relationship therapist and consider if your environment (personal and professional) is conducive to attracting the wrong type of man. If you surround yourself with things and people that attract men who only want a casual relationship, you should give serious thought to lifestyle changes that contribute to attracting men with similar intentions to you for a relationship.

Yes, it's easier said than done but if it's that important to you to get into a committed relationship, that change has to start from within you first.

[ohsheeT]

When you get around a guy you like. Don't start telling him about relationships. And every. Thing you talk about on here don't even bring up relationship.
You're making me scared and they say forget it. I just want to get laidelete.

[Sugar100]

It’s becuz the one guy I dated in my life I never talked about relationships and he use me for sex saw me as friends with benefits and I thought he was my boyfriend 😓 that’s. Y I need now make it clear to all men I want a boyfriend not friends with benefits so they don’t use me

[ohsheeT]

Yes true. But you don't have bring it up. Wait until they ask you

[Sugar100]

Guys don’t ask me to be his girlfriend they act like a. boyfriend then wen u ask they say friends with benefits. 😓then im like wtf i don’t do friends with benefits 😓 I want a boyfriend

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

Maybe it's because you only go for one type -- "fuck boys". Fuckboys don't buy the cow in their 20s. When I was younger, my father told me to stop going for the pretty ones and get a good quality man.

[FreyaRed]

You use specific lure to catch pikes, another for eels and different one for trout or salmon. This angler rule is valid for dating as well.

[jazzy34]

You seem very desperate to have a boyfriend and that's NOT a good thing. Being in a relationship isn't everything.

[Sugar100]

I’ll be 50 and never had a boyfriend and people will still be saying I’m desperate for a boyfriend wen I never in life had a boyfriend. Yes a boyfriend is everything in life. Life is about a partner.

Everyone in my family is happy daily with a partner going on vacay living together e joying family events together , making babies, 24/7 with partner

Im alone hallow in life. do eveything alone. No vacay no family party with boyfriend no holiday with boyfriend. No babies.
Life is work and eat day per day.

Yes life revolves around a man.

No one in my life is single they all live life with a man. Never ever r single

[Finchie40]

You need to find yourself an older guy , and stop dating guys’ around your age , an older guy wants more than just sex with a girl

[Sugar100]

My ex was 33 fuckboy , a guy I dated 28 July , immature. Older guys worse

[Finchie40]

Try older guys’ in there late 40’s early 50’s

[HawkPerception]

You're simply dealing with the wrong guys. There are plenty of men that are good and not just looking for sex.

[HighValue]

I suspect that you are only going for guys that are far above you when it comes to looks and money and they know they have plenty of options so you are much less likely to get a relationship from them. Either that, or there has to be something about your looks that you aren't mentioning on here.

[Natasha1995]

Because they're afraid of the commitment. Afraid of losing their independence, although most will want a steady relationship, and in the long run a mariage and kids.

Maybe you just haven't met the right guy yet. It takes some time.

[Firesparks]

Not all guys are like that.. me I want to be with someone for a lifetime! Care love n beyond... n give massages to n make beautiful memories together...

[StephanieChick111]

It sounds like you are just having bad luck. Hang in there. You will find someone.

[Sugar100]

There was a guy I did like a lot at a market he talked to me first but I missed my chance 😓 he talked to me and I just laughed but I cudnt talk quickly cuz 2 girls were staring at us right next to us so I was staring at the girls and the guy left fast.

It was in August and I feel so sad wish I cud of talked to him.

[StephanieChick111]

Oh, I hope you see him again.

[Sugar100]

No I never seen him again. The chance was missed.

[StephanieChick111]

Oh I'm sorry. What kind of guy are you looking for?

[Sugar100]

Just someone that loves me they wants live together hold my hand have babies , meet families , go on fun vacay together , someone that wants talk to me everyday. Warm, kind , attentive.

[StephanieChick111]

Hmm, any luck at work?

[KittygosMeoWW]

Dude you’re never going to the get relationship when you want, you’re gonna get it once you check the things that truly matter to your life plan off.

[qwerty2469]

At 28 all the good men are already married. If you dont have kids or have never had sex with a black man, there is still hope for you, but its slim. You may be able to marry and breed with a man whose wife died young in your middle 30's.

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

Are you meeting all these guys online? If not, how have you met them.

[Staximus]

Well first of all you can't be a bum living in a car

[Sugar100]

I’m renting my own place in 2 months lol.

[red_knight]

Change the people you surround yourself with, lower your expectations and go for realistic standards, be kind and not only to yourself

[Bklynbadboy12]

Most guys want that but you know you dont so dont date those guys

[Sugar100]

So how girls get bfs?

[Bklynbadboy12]

You date but for some reason you keep dating the wrong type of guys. For some strang reason your attracted to guys that only want sex from you and you know that but you keep dating them

[Sugar100]

I only met one guy that wanted commitment a girlfriend meet fmaily marriage live together but he had same face as ex that I dumped , my ex was a fuckboy treated me very bad.
So that’s y I cudnt be with that guy. I won’t wake up to my exs same face daily 🙁

Also I wasn’t attracted to him he was fat. Sorry but looks do matter cuz u will need have sex daily with that person forever n ever.

[Pohjolan]

Change what dating apps/sites you are using.

[Sugar100]

Also how I’ll get a boyfriend if boys just stare at me in public and don’t approach? They look too shy.

[Pohjolan]

@Sugar100
Welcome to post-MeToo. You know women do also approach guys even when they are not interested?

[mat678]

Cause they want to sleep with different people and not be responsible

[Sugar100]

But how do woman get babies? I want a baby and jelaous of the single moms. I would want leave the relationship with his baby at least instead of waste my time and be left with nothing I’m almost 30 need a baby

[mat678]

Well then tell someone to give you a baby and then leave if he doesn't want you

[Sugar100]

No guy wants baby with me. 😓

[Sugar100]

I can’t get a boyfriend. Guys say I’m pretty but I’m single I can’t get a boyfriend 😓 or a. Baby. I’m short blonde skinny.

[mat678]

I'm curious how you look. Wanna share a pic?

[Sugar100]

U will say I’m pretty or hot but I still can’t get a boyfriend. Guys only want friends with benefits no guy wants marry me

[Sugar100]

If I make boundaries I still don’t get. A boyfriend. Guys r firm on wanting only friends with benefits so no one wins

[AvaRay]

@Sugar100 with all due respect u r still young n instead of focusing on this kind of things better u focus on building your life, on your future, upgrade your self value n good character in u..

if u make yourself become a cheap product ofc cheap man ll go after u.. but right good man look for product that has quality

Be a woman with dignity n self value.. don't ever lower your standard to get a mate.. if a man truly love u, they ll upgrade their standard to match yours in a good things

Many whore outside hv sexy body, offer sex.. cheap woman available so many in the market but high quality woman rare to find

Sex, kids, marriage wouldn't keep a man.. but your good character, good value thats what keep a man u know

Don't ever beg someone's love, attention.. don't be a beggar in life for anything not just in love matter

If a man truly love u, he ll come to u.. his action ll proof it align with his words

He ll treat u in a proper way with respect , with responsibility in God's manner..

His coming to your life ll bring kindness n progress be better not destruction..

The sign : if a man come from God for u, he ll never confuse u with his way of loving u, he ll respect your body, his love for u ll make u grow up to become better version of yourself n bring u more closer to God

But if a man not come from God.. he ll make u more far from God n what he care about is mostly about his ego n his lust

So now choice is on your hands.. u wanna keep being like this go ahead but trust me not one gonna put respect on u if u don't give respect to yourself

Your life is precious n matter don't waste it for things not worth.. I m not saying that hving mate isn't important but better late but be with right person rather than u rushy things with a wrong man but end up screw your own life

[Sugar100]

@AvaRay men don’t care if woman have good value. I’m good woman and men don’t care. I don’t do hookup and men don’t care. I cook men don’t care. Nothing make men care and value me. 😓

[Sugar100]

No guy love me. I never met guy that love me. I love guys but no guy love me

[AvaRay]

@Sugar100 I told u choice is in your hands u wanna become high quality product / cheap one..

If u know that u hv quality in u, u don't hv to keep marketing yourself here n there.. man who looking for same standard ll find u

But, if u market yourself so much well then u know which class u belong to.. tbh with u, u looked so desperate by saying all of these every single time here

N it's not good trust me.. u make yourself as a mockery n people ll look down at u

[Sugar100]

@AvaRay but wen I don’t act desperate guys still don want be my boyfriend, guys act like a boyfriend then wen I ask what are we after one month they say friends with benefits 😓 then IM crying and leave him and thought he was my boyfriend. If I say no sex til I have comited relationship, no guy want date me so I’m alone no guy want be my boyfriend

[Sugar100]

No guy see me as high value woman. No guy value me 😓😓😓 no guy care I’m alone single

[AvaRay]

@Sugar100 u r completely wrong.. by u beg a man to love u, to stay with u

Crying over them ll make them more look u down n disrespect u..

U should be a mature woman.. not just physically, but in how u think n look at things in life

If u make yourself easy n cheap for a man they ll never value u.. no matter how good u r

Man r born to be a fighter, hunter.. let them fight n do their best effort to be with u, proof their worth

If u make everything easy for a man, he ll never learn how to respect to the effort..

U want tough man in your life / a loser?

[AvaRay]

Why hv to be afraid that much if u late getting a mate? @Sugar100

I ll be more afraid in my life if until 30 years old I hvnt become someone in my life..

For me.. I know my self value, I know what kind of person I m n quality I HV in me

I ll never be reckless to let anyone enter my life just cause of I need a mate..

My time, my love, my life too worth to be dedicated for someone not deserve..

It's good by hving high standard so push loser away but keep high good quality man around..

[AvaRay]

@Sugar100.. my principle in life is I m open to be friend with anyone

But to be my mate sorry not easy n not everyone ll pass my standard..

I hv high standard for myself n u should understand that life is worth fighting for but not for u to gamble with it..

Be wise with whom u choose to be with n put your heart n love..

[Sugar100]

@AvaRay in almost 30. I’m 28 next month. Only have 2 years find boyfriend 😓😓😓😓

[Sugar100]

@AvaRay even if I don’t cry , boys don’t want be my boyfriend, boys only want sex no guy want say yes he’ll be my boyfriend 😓 I say no sex and no guy want be my boyfriend , nothing I do make guy want be my boyfriend

[fonduegirl]

Men are trash, sis. You're better off