Is pretending to have a boyfriend a good idea?

Question

I always been been single, I usually have a crush or a hyper fixation on someone. I never had my first kiss, never cuddled, anything. I love love, Valentine’s Day, couples, the little things… but sometimes I just want a break from thinking about guys. That way I can just let it come naturally instead of being an eager puppy 24/7. I’ve thought about trying to replicate some boyfriend experiences—like wearing an oversized hoodie, using cologne, taking myself on little “dates,” maybe even a toy—basically living a little like I have a boyfriend. Would that actually help or just make me feel lonelier?

AvaRay · Accepted Answer

Honestly, in my pov 🤔

Why hv to pretending to have a boyfriend?

Why exhaust yourself in a life of pretense, when the real power is living fully as yourself?

Some people feel life is empty without a partner, as if their existence depends on someone else..

But the truth is.. Meaning, joy, n depth come from u, not from who’s beside you..

If your world revolves around chasing someone, it only feels hollow..

Desperation repels, obsession pushes connection further away..

Real attraction, real intimacy, comes to those who live fully, who embody confidence, purpose, n authenticity..

The right person won’t need u to pretend, they’ll be drawn naturally to your spirit, your mind, your heart..

They’ll see the life u hv built n want to be part of it not a shadow u r projecting..

So why fake a relationship / pretend to hv a boyfriend, when life itself is overflowing with experiences, growth, n opportunities?

Focus on your value, your passions, your purpose.. Let curiosity, courage, n joy shape your world..

Live intentionally, shine authentically, become someone magnetic not desperate..

The one who truly belongs ll arrive, unforced, ready to meet u fully.. 😊🙏🏻

QuineJessica · Accepted Answer

You're just going through a difficult phase in your life. But everything will change.

You don't need to pretend that you have a boyfriend, it's an illusion that can have the effect of rubbing salt into a wound ❤️‍🩹

Hey girl you're only 21, all you need is to get into the right environment with the right people. Move to a big city, start studying at University or find another job. Go to the theater or seminars or workshops.

And of course there are dating sites. Yes, there are a large percentage of assholes, but often there are people just like you who are just trying to find a partner

Just don't give up 🫂

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well i like to role play. And if you can find a a role play partner. It can be fun and this what you can put out scenarios that you would like to experience and it can be lots of fun LO. L

Look life it short. I donr think there is and harm pretending any thing that can be fun to

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

Several movies have used that as the main plot.  The Wedding Date , starring Debra Messing and Dermot Mulroney, is a popular movie with that plot: woman rents a man to be her date at her sister's wedding, claiming he's her boyfriend.

Zack-Bann · Answer

It’s denial and it will make you feel lonelier and lonelier

Because you can’t trick your consciousness into manifesting an imaginary boyfriend.

(More importantly you shouldn’t)

Best to work on yourself, get in shape, get stylish, and go out as often as you can to all kinds of different social settings

You’ll meet guys and at least one will want to date you.

No one is universally repulsive

glennos89 · Answer

Its not going to make a difference but trying will not hurt you. Just be patiënt you will find love in time I have no doubt about that.

The fact that you have no experience with dating makes you even more valuable as a woman then others seen from a guys perspective.

You deserve love and you will find it in time thrust me. Some guy is going to be a lucky man to have you 🙏

Staximus · Answer

You don't need another person to make you or your life complete. They are not your life, your life is your life. They just make it better or worse, so choose wisely.

BCRanger10 · Answer

This sounds like a coping mechanism, maybe even self-deception to a degree. I guess I just don't quite see what you're hoping to gain or accomplish from this though.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It probably won’t help. Sorry. A toy will help with your sexual frustration, but nothing will convince your brain you have a boyfriend when it knows you don’t.

Berethor · Answer

I am not sure but most of it sounds kinda silly, I think you better look for a real boyfriend.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

It's probably not something you wanna get caught doing

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Having a boyfriend shouldn't be the soul reason for your existence. Focus on yourself.

Nerdvana · Answer

I guess there's nothing wrong with it. But why don't you have a real boyfriend?

Kaykay02 · Answer

Lies can normally catch up to someone. It’s perfectly fine to say/be single

Anonymous · Answer

You can try, I also have an imaginary girlfriend.

jahaims · Answer

Go meet people. This is sad shit

In_Trance · Answer

This is mental illness

MeAndYouRightHere · Answer

Hey, how are you doping?

Anonymous · Answer

Get real.

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