Which of these lives would you prefer to live?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So many people talk about wanting to be attractive, and it’s not like I don’t get it. I’ve been pretty conventionally unattractive for most of my life, but I don’t see it as a flaw anymore. If anything, I more easily know who’s a good person and who isn’t because they judge me solely off of my looks and know that me being around them gains them nothing that they want for that alone. When you’re attractive, there are absolutely people who are vapid and vain and will gain something by having you in their circles or on their arm and you always hear the stories of women being stalked by men who took good manners as flirtation, or friends losing friends because they lost a beauty factor they once had. It doesn’t seem “real” to me, but when you’re not in that category, it seems like you find more sincere relationships that last much longer.

Always ugly, but surrounded by people who you know love you for who you are

Always beautiful and never knowing when someone isn’t sincere until they hurt you and it’s too late

[HawkPerception]

Looks do matter. It's biological. But obviously personality and character matter more. I would choose the first, but still would be envious of those who were attractive.

Just because you're physically attractive doesn't mean everyone around you is fake. It means you'll have more opportunities in life you'll have a higher chance of finding someone attracted to you. It doesn't mean you're a shitty or shallow person instantly.

If you want attractive kids and want to get them through life on easy mode, then finding an attractive partner is a must.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

No, being attractive doesn’t mean everyone around you is fake, but it does mean the chances of someone using you and your appearance with them for their personal gain is much higher than if you were conventionally unattractive

[HawkPerception]

So would you say no to $1 billion if it means more people are fake around you to get in your good books?

A benefit in life is still a benefit. Being attractive physically affects opportunities in life, attracting partners, and also passes down good genetics to kids. Humans are biologically attracted to certain physical features more than others. That's life. It's not fair.

And being attractive doesn't mean you're a bad person.

As I said, I'd choose the first option out of those 2, but realistically, even if you're attractive, you will find people who are genuine and you can also be a good person yourself.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Then it’s a matter of which you value more: material opportunities to benefit your life, or intangible connections that benefit your life

[HawkPerception]

That's not the question at all. You will get fake people regardless of what kind of life you live or how attractive you are.

Being attractive just gives you more opportunities and makes you have to filter more people.

I just gave you an example, but it doesn't have to be a monetary benefit it's compared to.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I'm pretty much already living the first reality (at least in my opinion), so I would continue doing that. I adore that I have people who love me unconditionally even with my flaws both physical and mental. I wouldn't trade that for superficiality and pretty privilege.