Why is it so difficult for me as an autistic women to get a date/boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand. I’m kind, loyal, honest and trustworthy but I know my autistic traits can turn people off but I do my best to control it. I was told any man that ends up with me will have a good woman. People say I will make an amazing girlfriend. The thing is I don’t think I’m relationship material. I don’t think so. I’m still working on myself, maturing and I don’t like being touched a lot and like my own space. I’ve been asked when am I going to get a boyfriend and I’m not getting any younger. I know my friend’s introduced me to guys (all special needs). I gave two a chance (different times) but didn’t work out. I prefer someone independent, non behavioral, mature, has a job and on my level of autism or neurotypical. I don’t understand why I’m told I’m better off dating autistic men or neurodivergent men because I last better. My family is VERY protective of me because I’m vulnerable and naive. Also soft and a sweetheart. I’m not a weak woman. My first two boyfriends were neurodivergent (autistic and intellectual disability) and my three ex boyfriends are neurotypical. None of them worked!
I was supposed to go on a date Friday night but he found out on autistic and he stood me up. He blocked me on social media, phone and everything. My last ex boyfriend said he doesn’t want to end up having “retarded kids” or kids having a “retarded mother”.

Here I am. 29, autistic, single and whatever. I think I’m just meant to be single. Who wants to date or marry an autistic woman?

Updates

7 mo

Plus I’m fat 211lbs and tall (5’9”) and my slim short friends get dates.

[ohsheeT]

Ok so first of all your friends are right in so many ways you are what every guy is looking for you have to be more patient you have a beautiful heart and your giving of self your loving and caring person

So that means you need the same type of person and more.
God the universe has it in control finding and setting that person up to walk it to your life

But you need to re read your question and take this time that your waiting for this guy

Why you have to be patient because the perfect guy wants the perfect girl

What I read in your question is that your looking at yourself as the hold up.

Believe in yourself deeper. Every single one of us has something holding us back. And that something is ourself

No matter who you are if you do not love yourself if you doubt yourself if you talk down to yourself. Then that's who you become and remain that person

But if you have confidence in yourself if you love yourself you become that person and you keep growing everyday.

Remember you are your thoughts we all are our thoughts what we say to ourselves is who we are or who we become. So talk good and treat yourself good because that who you will be come.
You say your over weight. Well while you waiting for Mr right become the best you can become. If you walk 30 min aday for 30 days breath in through your nose breath out through your nose your organs will become a live you will get clarity.
And you will start toning up so fast. You will see it within the first week but you have to do it for thirty days. So I look at your question as a blue print of what you need to do while your waiting fir this guy

Maybe he's doing the same thing but remember he will come in to your life. And you want to be prepared you don't want him to walk in to your life and you really like him but you start thinking I wish I would have lost weight or I wish this or that..

[D_Bone_Steak]

You fat?

Did that one question shut everything down?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Stop being a fat... it's not that hard.

[Asker]

Sort of fat yes. What’s that’s supposed to mean?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Being fat is usually the biggest killer of women in the dating market. You change that one thing and you're already better than most women in the looks department. I don't want to bear bad news.

[Asker]

No wonder fit or slim women get dates or boyfriends

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yeah, it's been sort of a thing since the dawn of time. Biology usually has tests of health. So fuck if you have huge tits, ass or whatever... ask yourself if you can run a 3 mile run at a decent pace. That test will go beyond any beauty standard and you will literally get tons of men barking up your tree naturally once you can run 3 miles at a decent pace.

Trust me on this... Human biology isn't all that different from all the other animals at the end of the day.

[Vegasrunner]

If you are fat and ugly men are not going to want you.

[Asker]

That was harsh….. but you’re not around

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker It's just the truth men don't like fat ugly women. We want them young in shape and beautiful. That's literally the woman's only job.

[Asker]

I am young but I’m not ugly. I’m just chubby

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker That's still not good. As a women you only have one job, be attractive.

[jahaims]

Answered your own question

[Iwishiwasasub]

Don't give up. You will find someone