Is it harder to get out of the friend zone as a guy or a girl?

[Anonymous]

[Noredcarpet]

With the experience I had, take it for what it is worth, it is more girls that put their friendzone guys there and then it is impossible for the guys to get out. As for me I used to think all was good, we were just friends, me being friendzoned, him too, when all of a sudden the guy flirts or say I love you. We haven't had that chemistry going on. It seem to have happened some part into it when they know me better and change how they see me? Beats me.

I could be wrong about this theory of mind, it is only built on my own experiences and watching others in my life, but to me it seems to be more simple. If a guy loves you he loves you and if his best friend female is then his romantic partner it is all the same to him. It is just a plus that transformation. You get to sleep with your best friend, great. To me that is like sleeping with a friend or sibling, you just don't, you don't want to. I get that you can have chemistry first and friendship adderad to it later as a plus and then it's great, but my mind can't wire it the other way around. The few I do know that has ended up together this way describes it as the best love they ever had. It is something that grows. Before they would say they were not wach other types, but then they went through something and found support in one another and on that path they changed their type and fell in love.

[Someone34]

Well, first of all men end op in the friendzone much more because of how we are biologically. Men produce sperm, every day. And we are programmed to mate with like 85 % of women. Thats how nature is constructed. Thats why men never can be friends with women cause they are too attracted to them biolgically and want to mate with them.

Because of this more men will end up in the friendzone, because more guys gets attracted in a friendship with a women, than women becuase with a man.

To get out of the friendzone you need to tell her as fast as possible, to be fair if you have been friends with a women for like more than 1-1,5 weeks, women won't think you are interested.

So if a guy is friends with a women for too long she won't even see you in that way, she won't even think you are interested. Thats for starters, so telling her that you like her several months later is gonna come as shock and if she haven't made any moves or signals herself during this time. She probably isn't interested.

So you will get out of that friendzone by being rejected and this is completely normal. The normal thing is that a guy persues girls as a partner, not as a friend. This is because of biology and how we are constructed, noone can argue this.

If they could we would see a whole lot of men wanting to be friends with women, which we dont, cause we want to fuck you.

There are exepections of guys and girls being friends without the guy getting any feelings for the girl, but its rare. The only other thing I can think of is a guy that already has a girlfriend and also has girl that he is a friend too. That can work, because then his sexual needs are already taken care of.

But that most probably would be frowned upon by his girlfriend, in most cases. Most people would agree on this? Why would you ask? Because most men can't be just friends with girls. And women and girlfriends know this.

[nolabels]

I'm a guy, an older guy, most likely soon to be headed for being "in the market".
I could attempt to dally beginning now, but long ago I made wedding vows that I'll continue to respect and adhere to until they've been ended by God.

I've acquired numerous women friends over the many years that I've been married.
I've become quite successful at making friends with women.
It's a nice thing for me to be friends with women, and so also, for them.
Those women friends will remain as friends.
I have no romantic inclinations towards them, so I don't consider myself to be in a friend zone with any of them.
We're friends.

I think about how I might pursue a woman romantically if and when the time comes, but I'm not sure that I'll know how to go about doing so.

It's said that nature finds a way, but the way I see it, that saying is in regard to reproduction.

I've been there and done that.
Reproduction is certainly not my goal.

Romantic intimacy and physical contact with a woman will be my goal.
Maybe nature finds a way in that context, as well.

But this question has to do with whether men or women have a harder time getting out of the friend zone.

My interpretation of the term is that being in a "friend zone" means that one person is interested in romance and the other is not.

My guess is that such a situation is equally difficult for men and women.
Either sex may succumb to overt seduction by a friend wanting more, but I'd think that the chances for long-term commitment in such cases would be hit and miss for either sex.

That's not to say that friendship can lead to romance.
I know of such instances that turned out to be wonderfully successful.
To me, though, that's a different situation than being in a friend zone.

Cheers to you!

[DishLady]

Depends how you landed in the friendzone more than whether you're male or female.

If you started out in the friendzone and that's the way the other person sees you, that's pretty hard to get out of.

If you started out in that flirtatious sort of phase and were gradually set in friendzone rather than being allowed to continue on (perhaps bc there's another person of interest), then it's much easier to pop out of friendzone.

If you were too much in some respect and were friendzoned as a courtesy (either for your sake or for the sake of a mutual friend) then you should expect to stay friendzoned or just leave the person alone and focus on someone else.

[Chazmatazz269]

As a girl. She gotta be something way wrong for a dude to not see her either as girlfriend or as a toy. Just sayin’.
Dudes in the friend zone usually just need to level up to get out of there.

[Purpleronnie]

That’s completely subjective to the person that’s doing the friendzoning or for what reasons a person is destined to be no more than a friend.


The way I see it is every woman has to be a friend on the way to being anything else , if they can’t be my friend then they likely wouldn't be promoted to anything more intimate. The exceptions to that are those women whom I would deliberately bump uglies with regardless of anything more meaningful assuming they felt the same and we are both single.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Probably equal. I really hate the term friend zone though. Yes, you just see them as a friend and that should be enough. Using friend zone just means that that person still wants to hook up with a person and not seeing them as anything else beyond that. It just sounds gross.

The only thing that makes it a little easier for women is if a guy just wants to use them for sex since guys tend to think more with their other head. That may not be ideal for the woman who may be looking for a relationship. Otherwise, it would be equal when talking about relationships.

[lorenzomichael]

When that would happen to me I would just cut them off completely and move on I have a lot of good qualities no one needs to remind me I’ve known that since Jr high. and when they would get at me and say something like “why haven’t I heard from you in a while?” I would just come out and say “what the fuck I can’t just be some girls guy friend so I just figured what’s best for me so I bounced.” 10 time out of 10 now all of a sudden they want to spend time but for me the chase was over.. fuck that time is to short.. but good luck

[Zack-Bann]

If girl has a guy in friendzone all he has to do is cut off contact. Make sure she knows he’s not gonna be there as a friend.
Come back later on and ask her out
Maybe yes, maybe no


But when a guy puts a girl in a friendzone it means he has absolutely no interest in her
Guys rarely play the friendzone game with girls they might like but are unsure about


So I would argue it’s harder for girls to get out


But not impossible for both

[Anonymous]

This is the ugly truth for the most part the only way a guy is getting out of the friendzone is if he suddenly comes into a lot of money and fix up his looks/how he dresses.

For a girl, she just needs to be more attractive whether that's losing weight or fixing how she dresses.

[Anonymous]

There is no such thing as the girl friend zone.
if a girl feels like she is in the friend zone, it’s because she has chosen to be there or the dude is gay.

no straight male, keeps a female in his life that he is not attracted to. And if you say you do, you are lying.

No straight male wakes up and texts fat ugly Tina to see how her night went, they don’t ask her to go hang out or make time in their schedule for her.

[loveslongnails]

It's almost impossible to get out of the friend zone if you're a guy. A girl can do it much more easily, especially if she times it right. If it had something to do with her appearance, she can alter that more easily than a guy can, as well.

[Godihateyou]

As a girl. Once you are a bro it would be gay to have sex with you. Something most dudes would rather die before doing. As a guy in the friend zone you just have to listen and wait until they've hit their mid 20's when nobody wants to marry them.

[Kayla45]

I think guys get friendzoned more often than not.

[MJVillarama]

Honestly, it’s tough for both, once someone sees you as a friend, changing that image is tricky

[genericname85]

super easy to get out for both. if you're not ok with being just friends, don't be friends. super simple.

[LiamJHayden]

Guy.

[Blueeyes81]

Neither gets out. They either see you as something more or they don't. There is a reason they only see you as a friend, regardless of gender.

[Anonymous]

There's no such thing as the friend zone. That's just being friends.

[msmissydc]

Its when one person thought they had a friend and the other person just wants to fuck.

[msc545]

It's definitely more difficult as a guy and actually it's not even worth trying.

[guesswhereivebeen]

As a guy for sure… any chick in the girls friend zone she can say let’s fuck and he will

[Anonymous]

Depends on your appearance and/or personality.

[tzdc21]

Guy. Hands down

[Vegasrunner]

A guy. Stupid question.

[CupOfCoffee6]

From looks of it some probably get use to them.