Have you ever gotten out of the friend zone when you just want to be more than friends? How?

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How did you do it?

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Nope; when a guy tells me he just wants to be friends, he means it.

... and before any smartmouths say, "Guys don't friendzone females!" They can and do. For the same reason girls friendzone men: they're not physically or romantically attracted to you. I've been friendzoned, sisterzoned, and even gayzoned once (don't ask me how the latter is possible, but it is).

But once a guy put me in the friendzone, that was it. They acted as if I never asked them out, and we went about being friends- or attempted to; most cases I distanced myself in order to get over them properly. There was only a few times a guy friendzoned me and we managed to maintain a friendship- usually because I got over them and realized that yeah, we really do make better friends.

DancingQueen16 · Accepted Answer

Yes I have because the guy I'm dating now was my best friend all through middle school and high school but then last year he texted me and said he liked me and asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

No never and I've been in quite a few when I was a teenager.

So now I avoid the friendzone religiously. Whenever I meet a new girl I potentially like my first instinct is to flirt.
If it works and she flirts back we eventually cut the chase.
If she doesn't and we end up becoming "friends" I won't wait around and will still actively try meeting someone else.

And often times when a girl knows you're a good flirt and you're interested but at the same time not available forever she'll come around fast.

Personally: I don't mind either way.

A hard lesson I had to learn is: Let the chips fall where they may.

Pistolshrimp · Accepted Answer

No, typically if a girl says she just wants to be friends then I leave it at that. But you bet I ain't paying for lunch or spending free time unless they are actual friends and do friendly things like bring you dinner when you're sad. Or give you a call when they actually have a legit crisis and not just "hey lets chat" and then they act flirty. If you say you whana be my friend actually be a friend basically.

AviatorTom · Answer

Nope. There were a few girls I knew in college. We dated, and I would have liked more, but all we ever were was friends.

Bricealan · Answer

We made out once and she said I was "A good kisser, and we needed to "get together" (I thought meaning we should fuck) We had been 'friends' for a long time On New Years Eve, we went out, and when back at my place, we stripped, and I ate her pussy to orgasm, but when It came to fucking, I could not get hard with her. (Her pussy was so tight, it freaked me out) 'She did not make any attempt at getting me hard.

That was the first/last attempt at getting out of the 'friend zone", and I quit going out with her in January, this year.

exitseven · Answer

I met a girl at college and I really liked her but she had a boyfriend. It did not seem like much of a relationship so I hung in there and a few months went by and she broke u p with this guy. I still played it cool for a while but finally I told her how I felt.

RavVid · Answer

I have had two opportunities to get out of the friend zone. But by then i knew them well enough to not want to be outside of the safety of the friend zone.

Whilst you might want to fuck them initially, getting to know them seems to be a remedy for that.

worldscolide · Answer

I dont get put in the friend zone. The moment she mentions "Lets just be friends" i vanish. I treat her like she never existed. You would not believe how often that results in them coming crawling back saying they made a mistake, and it always results in " you should have thought of that before you tried to put me in the friend zone, you missed your chance" and go back to treating her like she never existed.

BigDog1989 · Answer

I finally told her I liked her, after she had been telling me (why I didn't realize she was, and why it took me so long to say it, I don't know), we finally kissed too, twice. We're not "together" BUT, when you kiss someone, it CHANGES THINGS. I don't kiss my guy friends, I'm not GAY!

dolemite58 · Answer

This one girl friendzoned me in high school and years later in college let’s just say time wasn’t kind to her and she looked worse while i looked way better than before. She tried to flirt with me and i shut her down real quick, Its weird how time changes things for guys. The only piece of advice i can give is unless ur completely sure she’s into you, don’t waste ur time stop talking to her completely and move on. The only weapon guys have is withdrawing our attention.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

3 of my girlfriends, actually, and a handful of other friends. I didn't actively try to do anything, they just took their clothes off one night.

DiegoO · Answer

In what sense? You mean like getting to be more than friends, or breaking off the relation completely?

genericname85 · Answer

yeah. it's fairly simple once you understand that in order for you to be in friendzone, you gotta be friends in the first place. nobody forces you to be friends. just stop being friends and like that you're out of the friendzone.

strateguy632 · Answer

i thought i answered this already? or something similar. i tried to get out of the friend zone, but failed.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Once, yeah. I was just patient and eventually she came around to chase me down. T'was the worst relationship I've ever had. It was a valuable experience though.

msc545 · Answer

I think I did this maybe once for a very short period of time until she got bored with me and found somebody that she thought was better. Nobody really gets out of the friend zone for any substantial period of time.

Lynx122 · Answer

No, I always just had to move on after getting hurt.

WhitneySnow · Answer

My current boyfriend was a very good friend before we started dating

MementoMori777 · Answer

Yes I have before and I'm proud of it lol, it's very hard to accomplish and may not be worth it tho

Freyke · Answer

I wish I could say yes, it would make for a good story, being able to beat the odds. No my girlfriend was a stranger.

Andres77 · Answer

I used to go to a friends place and watch tv. I’d sleep on the couch. She invited me to come to her room to “cuddle”.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No, but then I've never actually been in the "friend zone." If I ask a girl out and she declines, I do not ask again and move on.

gothbxtch · Answer

psa for men: do not try to get out of the friend zone actively. respect her feelings

TaureanBull81 · Answer

If a woman friend zones me I don't bother trying to get out of it so I simply move on 😊

Nominal · Answer

Never had a situation likę this, but i guess maybe get her on the situation likę then she kinky, sexy, girly? Like then she want to play.

Jltakk · Answer

Nope. I just accept that I'm not viewed romantically. In fact, it's so often, I expect it.

dragoblack · Answer

Nope, And i most likely never will.

Fuentes · Answer

Just ask to smash

SnowedIn · Answer

Once.

justabuddy · Answer

Not really, but The friend zone goes both ways.

EaterPeter · Answer

She had a plan

Silver158 · Answer

show her the money

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