Have you ever gotten out of the friendzone, if so how?

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Tetroy · Accepted Answer

Nope I’ve been placed in the friend zone about five times and I never got out of it! It’s basically a dead end with that girl I learned when they put you there so no point in trying when you get labeled in the friend zone!

HOWEVER, I learned that being friends with a girl and not showing any interest in them at all, works very well. You aren’t technically labeled in the friendzone but are friends and then she realizes what she is missing out on and BAM, you are out of it!

So overall, as long as she doesn’t flat out say you are in the friendzone, and you play it cool with her not confessing what you feel until she is attracted, you have a much better chance 😝

Schaggy · Accepted Answer

Boy do I have a story for you. I was into my best friend (whom I've known for approx 18 years) for most of my school career (about 8 years). I told her how I felt, she told me she wasn't into me like that. I even made it a point to buy her gifts on her birthday and Christmas before telling her. Fast forward to now an she's getting married and I'm going to be on her side of the bridal party (along with our other best friend) as a Bridesman lol. She was talking to her fiance about it and he said it was cruel. But I wouldn't even be interested in her anymore if she came after me and we made sure he knew that. So yea, I'm like the king of the friendzone lol

lurikatia · Accepted Answer

Just do a radical change in urself... physical

Cause if u ar friends it means ur personality is ok

Make urself look better compared to ur other friends

Big dreams need big work

That phrase about accept for who u are mmmm... i doesn't work for me

Reality: everyday we face new struggles, thats why we gotta evolve faster and better

So who u think u are today... u may not be tomorrow

If u stay the same... then ur not my friend... boy

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

I turned my boyfriend down when he asked me out. I told him he's an amazing guy who I really like spending time with, but that I'm not sure if I'm ready to start dating.

He got out of the friendzone by choosing to listen to what I had to say instead of throwing himself a pity party where he began to hurl insults at every single woman who crossed his path.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I used to like a guy who saw me as just a friend at first and later he liked me back but at that point I was no longer interested in him because I had learned new things about him that made him seem more flawed then he was when I first met him.

Desconhecida · Answer

Making the person look at me differently

TheSikuu · Answer

I thought I had But I'm not so sure now.
I dated a girl about 7 years back. We started out as just friends, we would never flirt but we had a lot of fun together and got along really well. Then she kinda just started dropping mad hints after like 6 months of hanging out.
Now, I thought she had began to like me purely because we had so much fun together, but then it turns out she found me attractive since the day she met me.
So like, was she slightly interested the whole time and her interest just grew? Or was her attraction not really a factor and it was 99% just our chemistry?
I don't know

My latest ex is a similar story, we just talked and got along well and then she liked me. Again I thought it was all chemistry, but then I find out she found me attractive the whole time too, and just didn't tell me.
So yeah, I don't know man. I thought it was cool that I could get girls even tho they didn't find me attractive just by being myself, but now it seems the attraction is kinda just there from the beginning.

zbivinz · Answer

I got out of the friendzone with my ex. But it's very complicated how it all turned out. Long story short, what I did was I told her that I tried being just her friend for a long time but that I couldn't do it anymore because I was really into her. Then we basically didn't talk for 1-2 months (I was trying to get over her), and within that time she realized she actually was attracted to me.

If you want to know why my situation was more complex, continue reading.

Apparently when we first met, she actually WAS into me, but she said was also kinda into someone else. Unfortunately, she said I took too long to make a move and she was no longer interested.

Then, the next semester, I tried being her friend because she seemed like a cool person. However, this was hell to me because I slowly realized that just being her friend ate me up inside. When the semester ended, what I described in the first paragraph happened, and then we dated a little over a year (unfortunately we did not live happily ever after lol).

Hope this helps!

cth96190 · Answer

No, never.
Years later, a couple of women who had Friend Zoned me during our 20s approached me and wanted more, but I was too bitter and resentful to be receptive.
They had put me in the Friend Zone and used me as a utility, while they fucked bad boys and psychos.
That was my own stupid fault, because I tolerated it.
Later, after they figured out that Harley MacBadBoy et al. were not good choices, they came sniffing around.
I was not inclined toward being used again, or going seconds to Ivor Necktattoo.
It is in my nature to help people, if I can.
Consequently, I still find myself being used by women in distress and/or need.
Now, I remain polite but cold and do not hope for (or want) anything more.
What I learned, Liam2409, was to walk away when a woman Friend Zoned me.
There can be nothing other than pain and disappointment at the end of that road.
Let the bad boys have her. They deserve each other.

Anonymous · Answer

It is a mutual agreement, so if you want out, then do not accept it. That simple.

But since I am guessing you want to convert a friend to a romantic partner, I have done it. Multiple times. I have also failed, multiple times. These all shared a very important element. The successes, the woman was attracted to me sexually. Failures, the woman was not attracted to me sexually.

Attraction is not a choice. And usually it is established very early on. They know within a few minutes if they would have sex with a man or not. So, with that in mind, once I figured out if they were attracted to me sexually or not, I made the decision of how to proceed. If attracted, I would nicely tell them I want more than friendship and to call me if they changed their minds. In those cases, they did. One took a couple years, one was about 6 months. Unattracted I said the exact same thing, but I walked away knowing I would not hear from them again, and I was totally right.

Curmudgeon · Answer

A simple rule for "being friendzoned":

Is there something intellectually, socially, financially (if you two do business, for example) interesting about her, without any sexual interest on her part?

If yes, continue the friendship.

If no, politely move on.

lomimore · Answer

I did and now its his turn, he friendzoned me (sisterzoned me) got with this girl she broke his heart, i was his shoulder to cry on though it killed me, now he got over her he wants something more but i moved over my feelings for him now he is the one friendzoned.

renegadegirl · Answer

I have!! *hold for applause* Lol, I simply tried my best to be candid and supportive of my best friend, and that blossomed into romance. We talked about things we both loved, and I think he just really wanted someone to listen to him. My best advice is that being thoughtful, sweet, and considerate will get you far.

Ausmpra · Answer

its easy because u have guts u can ask here u can ask her and its hard because she dont think u a guy with whom she could have sex and beleive me bro sex is really impotant in this kind of relationship so just go ask her out if she say yes then take her for dinner and ask directly for that f’king kiss or u can ask her about her feeling towards u if u r shy person and dom’t want make her nervous or something but beleive me it’s easy if still she isn’t interested leave her alone no call no text no meeting when she will realize she is missing u she will come back that tym use ur f’king gadget and make her urs if she isn’t coming after this then leave her bro she is not made for u

Dause · Answer

No, if I'm friendzoned by someone I move past it pretty quickly and I generally don't pay too much attention to them because it's awkward for both sides and self-harming to do so... basically, if your friendzoned, it is time to move on. Thus, there is no reason to try and escape the friend zone, and if your putting in that much effort that you eventually do.. even if you succeeded in escaping it, your already a creeper😑

TallJamaican1991 · Answer

I've never gotten out of a friend zone before, which is why I avoid them entirely now. I let my intentions be known from the beginning and if she rejects me, so be it. I will move on. However, I will not settle for the friendship when I know that's not what I truly want.

Marinepilot · Answer

I have gotten out of the friend zone many times. Simply because I
refused to put myself there. The key to getting out or staying out of the friend zone is to state your intentions from the very outset. You either date or not. The friend zone is such a hellish place to be. No fucking way I'm going to be some cunt's emotional tampon. An errand boy and have her try to cock block me with every girl I like or want to date, My SMV is way too high to condescend to this.

ThoughtCleric · Answer

She asked me to drive her to the hospital so she could be there for her friend because her friend was having a baby. When i was dropping her off. She went to give me a kiss on the cheek as i turned to say see you later. I guess im a good kisser. I asked her to be my girlfriend the next day over the phone, she said yes. I drove 50 miles in 40 min. You do the math. Most memorable moment in my life.

stars_and_stripers71 · Answer

Once, but it didn't last long.

I like to be there for everyone. This one girl I really liked kept having trouble with guys, so I told her to take a break from dating and all. She did, we kept talking, and I managed to get her out on a few dates. It just wasn't what we hoped it would be. We still talk a lot though.

russiecantsing · Answer

Nope it cannot be done... not that i have any point of reference, perhaps I'm not friend material 🤔 but if you're friends with me and I've never looked at you otherwise... too bad so sad, stuck forever!

LauraS345 · Answer

Nope sorry. I've done that to a guy, and we did try to make it work - but it was always awkward and we weren't really 'clicking' as a couple. Hope it works out for you.

Prankster13 · Answer

Ya I got out a few times. It's really easy actually: STOP being their friend. Boom. Out if the friend-zone. And into neutrality...

PrincessPie · Answer

I wouldn't want to, if a guy doesn't see me that way why would i try to make him? to me that is desperation and that is not the way i am.

SUSSMILCH · Answer

brooo. Where's your manners? Use a bit of Charm? It's so simple you need to charm her into seeing you as a potential partner. You can be lame and still be charming, meaning you need to sexually excite her in your presence!! what would help is if you do all the boyfriend things PLUS flirt that way she can really feel and as we all know... women would rather feel than think 😏

TheRealOne405 · Answer

I let the other person know how I felt. She still just wanted to be friends. I said "if you ever change your mind just call me." Eventually she did. We dated for a while.
The trick is to NOT be just friends. Even if it costs you you're friendship, get out of the friend zone

sarebare986 · Answer

I don't know it just sorta clicked between my boyfriend and I. He accidentally admitted his feeling's one night after 3 years of us both being great friends and dating other people. We were both single and he claims he was sick of watching me date stupid guys.
Just don't completely stop flirting, if she never considers you as a boyfriend you definitely will have less chance of relationship. And don't expect her to agree or not right when you ask

xopretinha · Answer

I don’t think I’ve ever been friend zoned. But if I were I would probably just distance myself from that person.

hsshannah96 · Answer

Super easily the guy just kissed me out of nowhere

xZoeyx · Answer

Don't think I've been friend zoned. I would have to like the person for that to happen and I rarely ever like anyone lol

HikerDude · Answer

Just made a move on her and didn't back off. To get out of the friend zone, show, don't tell.

chicana03 · Answer

Yes but.. Some of these zones wanted way more then i thought and when i say lets be cool or chill out.. I get called out on and somehow im the nad person

jam02 · Answer

Yes, actually. I continued to talk to her for months and flirted a little bit until she developed feelings for me. Now we have been dating for almost a year

SwoleCook · Answer

Friend zoning is another word for you’re undesirable. If that’s the case you’re shit out of luck.

achiee · Answer

Yes it took half a year and at one point It just clicked and it felt good

Tej05 · Answer

Yea Google Patrice O'Neal friend zone. Get yourself fixed up

colbyboden · Answer

I got out of the freind zone and some how ended up in the brother zone.

Erutaron · Answer

Yes, many times. Always just by being myself, being there for them, showing that I have there best interests in mind, and giving them space.

bakindabacon · Answer

Comforted an old friend on her most recent break up and we realized how strong our feelings were for each other.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, I moved on and only acted in a way a friend would, at some point she showed that she wanted more than friendship and started dating

Batfangrlly · Answer

I got naked, that's how

genericname85 · Answer

Yes. By not being friends anymore.

watercolor_lions · Answer

My current boyfriend got out

Paris13 · Answer

Someone on Here, dear. Put me Here. lolxx

tartaarsaus · Answer

She really dislikes me now so yes

marilynmansonssextoy · Answer

i don't believe in the friend zone

LittleRedKat · Answer

... I've never been friendzoned.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I can get in it after the relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

No i can't make someone be with me.

ChickenFingers · Answer

The friendzone is a mythm

Anonymous · Answer

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BobbyC65 · Answer

I sneak out.

jacquesvol · Answer

Slowly, very slowly

Anonymous · Answer

there is no escape from it, just maybe rapping

name_is_eric · Answer

I moved on, done.

RumEro · Answer

By flirting

Anonymous · Answer

I don't believe this

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