How do you get out of the friendzone?

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weve told each other how we felt about eachother, we really care and love for eachother, but she doesn't see us having sex. she says its not that im not attractive cause she finds me attractive, also mentioned she doesn't wanna ruin what we have. but i mean come on, i dont have time for just a friend and i love her and want her to stay and i wanna stay, but realistically i can't do that in the long run. how do i get her to feel differently?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Why don't you have time for just a friend? For a second imagine that it is utterly impossible for you to find a serious romantic partner. You spend your entire lifetime searching for one. Cutting of every person who isn't interested in being romantically intertwined with you. On your death bed only those strong relationships you've kindles come to see you. But no one comes. Not a single soul because you don't have time for just friends.

Maybe that's to dark. Why not imagine you going through life again without setting aside time for just friends and you did a great job. You find the perfect women and she falls madly in love with you. You live the rest of your life and what feels like a fantasy world built for the two of you. Absolute perfection. You stay married for years but she dies before you. And there you sit alone again year after year with no one to speak to with nothing but memories and children who everyday seem to need you less and less.

Maybe still to harsh. Why not look on the bright side. You take that friendship and stay just friends. You find a wife and from time to time your friend comes and visits. Your families vacation together. Your children play together. She's there with her significant other when your wife dies to help you through it all.

Or here's a different story. You become her friend. Her best friend and you never marry. You never find a good girl but she's there and Year after year she introduces you to more and more girls hoping that you'd eventually find one that's made you happy because you've been such a great friend.

I can keep going but I think I've made my point. Stop assuming you know how things will cascade from here. Stop assuming things must go the way you internodes for them to end up being positive. At the very least you'll be less stressed. At best you could actually end up happy.

clever_seeker · Accepted Answer

Yikes. too get her to feel differently and yet she is the one in control of how you feel? you call it love, i call it lack of understanding... smh
Honestly the best advice was the sarcasm on here and not the actual advice lol. Well your first mistake was believing in a thing as the "Friend Zone".
Your nearly 30 not 16. This is a shyt test young women 15-20 put guys through to see how they react. when you figure out
Were in era were others encourage the wrong shyt for other people for hidden reasons.
The Friend zone isn't real so stop giving it power. Ever notice the friend zone is kinda like fight club... we never truly discuss both but actually do in secret. lol
its as fictitious as a web pop up claiming you just won some free money.
Potential is always dangerous and risky. With that being said don't ever settle for the opposite sex. If your ever put into a position of becoming a best friend or brother like figure from someone you deem as potential but haven't made a move or worst missed one of her que's.
Kindly and respectfully shut the notion away. verbally Refuse to be labeled. As a man you need to stand on it. Most ladies won't admit there usually testing
If you just wanted to be friends you should state your intentions early, "winners make moves losers can't choose". If she's start labeling you "Guy best friend, "good friend" dismiss the thought and your self from here.

spuitkaas · Accepted Answer

You can do a few things:

1. Take your chances and try to makebyou more boyfriend material by more subtle touches, flirting, maybe even make her jealous (sometimes it can work). Chances are she might feel uncomfortable and you need to be socially skilled for this to work. There's also a chance she feels so uncomfortable she doesn't want you as a friend anymore depending on how you do this this chance could be high.

2. give up and deciding if you want to be just friends with her and dealing with the pain that comes with it or break contact and not be friends with her. You have more chance on finding someone else with the latter.

If you are planning on not be friends with her ajyways then I would first take the risk and play a bit with her mind mentioned in option 1.

RandomPandaz · Accepted Answer

Friend zone is something hard to get through but not impossible
But you have to understand her side try talking to her again and explain to her that you understand her but we only life once and you really care for her and tell her that for you she's worth risking it cause you love her a lot and its always ok to try and if it won't work then it won't but you guys will still be friends... Tell her you'll take it slow you won't have sex right away... But you'll start building your relationship up slowly and if she feels like it won't work after you guys started dating then stop

xHoneyxBeex · Accepted Answer

You can't make someone feel differently about you. If she isn't interested in dating you then that's unlikely to change. If you don't want to stay friends with her, that's your choice, but people rarely get out of the "friendzone." So if you don't actually want to be friends with her then I would suggest moving on and finding someone who may actually be interested in you.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

You can't force something like that. Unfortunately once you are friend zoned like that it is almost impossible to get past it. She already told you how she felt. If you're not okay being friends with her tell her that. Be respectful of her feelings but be prepared to walk away.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Break up with her. Tell her you don't see her as just a friend and you're not interested in protecting this "friendship," because you see it as one-sided.

Tell her you're sorry, but hopefully she can become "friends" with lots of other guys, just not you, because you're not looking for a friend, you're looking for love, and that's all.

The whole REASON she friendzoned you in the first place is because she doesn't think you have the balls to stand up to her. Prove her wrong and maybe she'll come crawling back to you.

And if not, fuck her.

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Heemus_Christ · Answer

dont listen to anyone. no such thing as the friends zone. and you get there by one way and that's by being friendly.

so how you get out you ask? that's by not acting friendly. I not saying be a dick, but show her you want to be more than friends. flirt heavy. be semi sexual not to the point of harassment, or rape but in a flirty way. and if she's not catching it or she not goinh. just tell her your not looking for friends, drop her and find a new joan. because then that's not being friends zoned, that's being curved. and your going to be curved it happens to the best of us

Anonymous · Answer

Man I can smell the desperation off you. You told her how you feel ( which is awesome because it shows you have balls) in a weird way she's un sure herself. If you didn't play any games and you're completely honest with her. Then there is a good chance... instead of being somebody you're not, it will work out. If you read Pick Up Artist articles on how to pick up (most of those guys fuck escorts) huge red flags go off and her mind. Women can subconsciously pick up bad vibes. Play to have fun... dont play to get laid. dont play as the end goal. Women will move the post almost all the time... just to see what your after. Women control sex but men control the realtiontionship. Show her that you can hadel her flying monkeys withe ease. While tring to find someone else cause she could have someone else lined up.

SomeGuy37 · Answer

The 'Friend Zone' is like a Black HOLE!!! You can't get out of it!! Once a 'friend' you are always a 'friend' and NEVER will see the Promised Land!
If you can just be a 'friend' and see her with other guys, go for it.
I think it is best just to move on, and let her go. She doesn't want you, so why hang on?

mankoneko · Answer

It'd be in your best interest not to push it, I think. If you really care for her, respect her decision. I know it's not a popular opinion, but she has set up a boundary, it'd be the decent thing to do to not cross that line.

Greek_God · Answer

Reduce or completely stop all contact with her, find another girl and fuck her. This will accomplish 2 things: 1. You are gonna realize that "your" girl is not really that special and that there are many better girls out there 2. She will see that other girls want to fuck you so she will start seeing you as a man, instead of seeing you as a "friend"

brain5000 · Answer

There is no such thing as "the friendzone." If you wanted to be a friend, you would be "a friend." You've been rejected. If you can't handle being a friend, and many guys can't, then walk away from her. Distance yourself and get over her.

Ciscoin · Answer

No means no. Sometimes you've got to know when to throw in the towel and find another target. So it goes, and so it will always go until you find the right one. Good luck.

fionnlagh · Answer

If you can't stay realistically in the long run then leave. You're going to hurt yourself with false hope and you'll hurt her with pressure. If she wants to be friends and friends only, respect it or just leave

shimes123 · Answer

Abandon her and find someone else. There are few things in this world that can make a man look like a desperate moron. Chasing one girl is the worst you can do. Especially as a 20 something.

Anonymous · Answer

Just tell her that you'll take it slow. If you really do love her then it shouldn't be that hard.

Or she actually is friend zoning you. In that case work on yourself, go to the gym, take some classes, maybe something different like kickboxing.

Maybe she'll see the animalistic side and want you?

Anonymous · Answer

so it's just about sex and you want her to have sex with you even when she said she doesn't want to? if tyhe friendship doesn't matter that much or you just can't do it walk.

watercolor_lions · Answer

What do you mean you can't stay in the long run? That would scare me...

wrish09 · Answer

Dude you are not getting her this way take my suggestion. Avoid her and start getting close to other girls when she'll get jealous that would be your opportunity to get outta friendzone.

matheus_mb · Answer

I wish I knew how to do it man, I wouldn't be single if I did.

Prof_Don · Answer

U can't change her mind, you'll gonna have to move on, broski

Iraqveteran666 · Answer

By becoming unavailable as her friend and dating other women

JorgeLo · Answer

sorry man, there is no exit, only way out, is if she let's you out, or if you stop liking her. Can't force this kind of thing

Inkked · Answer

chalk it up to friend zoned for life... accept it, move on to someone else

Crossfire2215 · Answer

I don't think that's possible bro... I feel for you... a moment of silence to our fallen. Brethren

GeneralZod · Answer

You can't. Get the broad out of your life she is wasting your time.

Anonymous · Answer

Why did you put her in the girlfriend zone?

missprettyp · Answer

Don't lose her as a friend...

Anonymous · Answer

once you enter you can't

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