How do you get out of friendzone?

[Anonymous]

I think I just had the most awkward and meaningless talk ever with my crush. We joke around, talk about funny stories, classes, things we did over the weekend, but that's all, we don't talk about important or personal stuff. (By the way it's been two weeks that we've been going home together every Sunday and Friday) I swear it was awful I don't know how to deepen our relationship, how to get closer.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I guess the first thing I'd ask is, "Is there anyone you are close to in your life that you trust fully?" No need to answer that here, but think about that relationship and how you interact with that person. It might give you some clues on what makes you feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable with someone.

It takes a lot of time to build trust with someone. Liking them and having a crush is sort of like a fantasy; it makes both of you feel good, but there's no real pressure and it's nice to fantasize about this ideal person. You have to move past the crush stage, preferably quickly, to placing little weights of "trust" on the relationship bridge.

Asking him if he can do something small for you is a good start (think little). Then ask him if you can do something for him on a separate occasion (grab him a coffee when you're getting one, for example). If the occasion arises, tell him about a little situation that happened to you that made you feel (happy, sad, awkward, whatever). Make sure it's not the worst or most terrible thing, because you are just getting acquainted, really.

These are some good starting steps that let you see if there's any interest in genuine reciprocation on his part, or if you are someone to pass the time with for him. If he doesn't reciprocate after some consistent effort on your part, just start being less available and work on some other interests and goals in your life. I know it's hard, but if he isn't responding with some interest, you don't want to chase him. It just doesn't go well.

Hope that helps! :)

[SnowyOwl]

This is great insight!

[TheRealPepperPotts]

@SnowyOwl Thanks! :)

[XHopelessRomanticX]

There is no “friendzone”. There is either interested or not interested. Express your interest. Ask if they’d like to meet up for coffee. Find an activity you enjoy and invite them along. If they agree, chances are they’re interested in you too.

[blueonblack22]

Well you won’t know if you are the friendzone or not unless you make a romantic move and he turns you down and says “I just want to be friends”. He might even know you are interested or not. I wouldn’t count yourself out yet.

[LiamJHayden]

I never enter it in the first place. If I am only interested in a romance and she is not, I move on. If I find her interesting as a person but there is no spark, then I will be friends and never anything more.

[Darwin_n_chill]

Learn how to close the gap, escalate touch. There's a method to it. If she acts like she doesn't want to, tell her that you unfortunately can't be friends then because you can't help the way you feel and it's torture to hang out with someone you want so badly but for them to be forever out of reach. She'll either become receptive, or will accept it and you won't have to deal with hanging out with someone you have feelings for anymore. Shit or get off the pot, basically.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

generally, you don't. What this really means is they aren't attracted to you.

If they do show some interest, it's because they haven't been able to find a better option and feel like they need to settle.

Rarely does this dynamic work out in the long run and us often plagued by "what if" thoughts.

[whyshedoingthis]

The thing about the friendzone is that you have to tread very lightly. If you come across as desperate, or as needy, he'll push you even further into the friendzone. Take it very slowly; feel it out. If you haven't known him for that long, try to find his interests, what he likes to do in his free time. Ask him to hang out, but not too often; you don't want to come across as, like I said, desperate. If taking it slow isn't your thing, then just go ahead and maybe tell him. If he doesn't return the gesture or says no, then the pain of it will help you with your next relationship. Trust me, the pain will go away, and you'll forget why you even liked him in the first place. That's my opinion, and I really hope this works out for you!

[NathanDavis]

if you want to share important and personal stuff... then do it

just do it

and he'll follow suit

[OneViewpoint]

You walk out. You leave. And go find someone who doesn't put you in the friend zone. It's as simple as that. If you let someone use you as a backup plan, that's on you.

[Texaskid1]

There is no way to get out of the dreaded friend zone. Once you are there it is like being in a blackhole.

You can never escape.

If you are friend zoned the best thing to do is give up and walk away.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Just kiss him and shy off, if he reciprocates the same then he will continue otherwise you have to let it gore-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[slatyb]

You are both afraid to reveal your feelings. You are an adult. Invite him on a date.

[Miristheiss]

Mive on... stop interacting with that person.

[CarolinaGirl5]

Why would u want to get out of the friend zone? When a man doesn't like you it's because you are ooogly. You can't change that

[genericname85]

nobody can force you to be friends with someone. stop being friends. if you're not friends, you can't be in the friendzone.

[Wise4myage]

Be bold and ask him if he’d like to be more than just friends. Or wait and ask in a few weeks. But mention wanting to get to know him better.

[genericname85]

you're not officially "in the friendzone" if you didn't even do that to begin with xD

[Stella_94]

You start to give him minor compliments and then try to observe how he reacts. "i like your shoes", "you seem so smart...".

[_piotr]

That is no use. He would probably treat it just as a friendly compliment. That is all.

[Purplepines]

It’s a two person goal. Both have to want to get out of the friend zone. But you can try to talk to them and see if they wanna meet.

[Anonymous]

Put some more effort but not too much you come off as just desperate

[Nikki1989]

There are no zones. Never was.

[seeyounexttuesday]

Girls can sometimes fuck their way out.

[In_Trance]

99% of the time you can't

[Anonymous]

Stroke his dick.

[WatchedPot]

Honesty