Is it Possible To Get Out Of The Friend Zone Once You're In It?

[Physics-Man]

Yes

No

Other

[mstbooblover]

Once in a longterm frienship relation, with all the confidence and trust involved, I think that trying to change that by getting more sexual, odds will be very high for the friendship to get lost. From the girl's side a guy should understand the trust she has displayed till then. The guy starting to be sexual with her will hurt the girl's feelings and she will consider the guy's attempts as treason...

Succeeding in such an evolution within a friendship relation is only possible if both partners have a certain mental detachment in order to accept that change from each other. The best would in any case that sex would have been from the beginning part of the relation. In case of doubt, don't !

[OneViewpoint]

Possible? Maybe. Worth the time and effort? Probably not. You're usually better off admitting that to yourself and removing yourself from the situation if one person is interested in romance and the other is not. And sometimes, not often, but once in a while, your sudden absence can trigger fear (FOMO) in whoever friend zoned you. And that becomes the trigger for a real conversation about it. If not, just keep moving forward and don't look back.

[WhitneySnow]

Yes but it’s hard. She may be afraid of losing your friendship even if she does develop feelings for you.

Yes, the friendzone exists, and sometimes girls get friendzoned too (really friendzoned, not friends with benefits), but no, it’s not a bad thing.

[Vegasrunner]

@WhitneySnow One of the dumbest things a man can do. Women offer no benifits as friends to men and playing into that only incentives bad behavior.

[WhitneySnow]

@Vegasrunner you don’t see a mutual nonsexual friendship as a benefit?

[Vegasrunner]

@WhitneySnow Not w/ a woman. If a woman isn't having sex with you she's effectively useless.

[Smartgirl_hey]

@Vegasrunner disgusting way of thinking

[mysteriousNicholas]

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[mysteriousNicholas]

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[AvaRay]

Absolutely but only if the choice is mutual..

I don’t chase, I command my space n know my worth..

Anyone who wants in must match my energy, my standards, n my pace, otherwise.. they stay in the zone they chose..

[coachTanthony]

Yes absolutely but you have to change your behavior and become attractive to said person who put you there. Sometimes no matter what you do though they will never be attracted to you.

[Curmudgeon]

NO. Time to restate A Straight Man's simple guide to "The Friendzone":

Should you maintain the friendship? Is there anything on a non-romantic level that appeals to you about her? Intellect? Hobbies? Professionally?

(A very good sample question to ask yourself here is: Can you ever see yourself doing business with her? Could you see her as your Realtor? Your Attorney? I am using examples from my professional dealings.) Or could she be a business client of yours?

If the answer is YES, maintain the friendship.
If the answer is NO, and you really just want her physically, then politely say goodbye.

[Zack-Bann]

Yes but it requires reframing.


First you need to cut off contact for a short while


If you’re the friends always texting about what you had for lunch that day you will never flip the script


You need to go dark for a week or two

And once you come back you do it with clear intentions.
You don’t beat around the bush, you make it clear that you’ve been thinking about it for a while and life is too short to keep wondering “what if”
You know it’s risky but you believe that the friendship is strong enough to survive a date, or more if it feels right.

[Curmudgeon]

But how futile, really?

[Zack-Bann]

It’s definitely a low odds situation.

But it’s better than spending your days in a friend zone pining over a girl who doesn’t even see you

It gets worse when she actually starts dating someone else

I know that pain first hand from back in my teen years

[Twalli]

The friendzone doesn't mean the one who put you there will never want to date you. It just means that at that time, they aren't ready to or don't want to. The strongest romantic relationships come from friendships. I wouldn't date anyone who isn't a friend first.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli Na, a women knows within seconds if she's interested. Lot of guys are delusional like you and try to believe they can earn their way out. In reality that time is better spent focused better women who may be interested.

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner FYI, I am engaged. Not really looking for a way out, and never really did. First friend I asked out is the person I'm marrying. I just know plenty of people who have been friends for years finally finding out that they actually love each other.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli That's anecdotal evidence but it doesn't adhere to reality. Most girls that place guys in friend zone keep them there. Also if you asked your "friend" out then that means you never saw her as a friend anyway which proves my point.

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner Actually I did. Until she started inviting me out one-on-one, I never saw her romantically.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli If she was a "friend" you would have declined. Not sure why this is difficult to understand but you've proved my point. If the rules were reversed and she had you in the friend zone and you asked her out she would have told you no.

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner she was. Now she's my fiancée. We still do things we did as friends.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli So you haven't had sex with her?

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner we do more than we sid as friends, but we also do what we did as friends.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli I asked if you had sex with her

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner Yes.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli Do you understand thar you proved my point. Men don't want to be friends with women. It's just a trick thar less skilled guys use to try to get laid.

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner I'm actually friends with several women. I don't intend to have sex with any of them.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli But you claimed you didn't intend to have sex with your fiancee.

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner Not as friends.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli That's literally the point. If she was truly a friend then you wouldn't have sex with her. How many of your male friends have you had sex with?

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner Nobe, but I haven't had any sex with males enough aren't friends or females who aren't friends.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli So you're saying you would have sex with one of your male friends if they were interested?

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner no.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli Then how are you not able to see the difference?

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner I don't have sex outside of relationships.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli But you have sex with your friends?

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner No, only with someone I'm dating.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli So you would potentially date ine of your male friends if they were interested?

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner No, because I am not attracted to guys.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli If what you're saying is true then you wouldn't be attracted to the women you are claiming to be platonic friends with either.

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner I am saying that I don't consider whether or someone is attractive when I become friends with them.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli So you have a lot of fat female friends?

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner A few are, but most just aren't my type.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli What does that have to do with the question asked?

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner I have a few fat female friends, most of them just aren't my type though.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli So you're current fiancé is a fatty?

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner not really. I mean she put on weight during the pandemic, but most of us did.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli Ok so you like fatties why didn't you just say that?

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner I don't, but J don't discard a girl just because shd gained weight.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli You don't make a lot of sense. If you don't discard her and your fiancée is fat doesn't that mean you date fatties?

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner Unlike you, I actually care about more than looks.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli That's fine, but why didn't you simply say that you like fat girls? I'm not judging you, you're judging me.

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner I don't. My girlfriend is overweight, but she wasn't when I started dating her.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli So you don't like your girlfriend?

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner I love her, her weigh, less so.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli Lol. Well it seems like it's your own insecurities allowing you to ignore that fact. You're not the first chubby chaser won't be the last it also tracks with the fact you're girlfriend's come from pretending to be friends with women.

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner Unlike you, I don't discard women when they're no longer my physical preference, if we have formed a strong connection. I was also actually friends with my girlfriend. Technically we still are, we just added in a romantic aspect.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli correct. You pretend to be friends waiting for an opening. Typical beta male shit.

[Twalli]

@Vegasrunner that would mean I knew her relationship status.

[Vegasrunner]

@Twalli If you're friends then yes. That's part of the reason you stayed friends with her.

[mysteriousNicholas]

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[mysteriousNicholas]

@Physics-Man we must remember the Stiffmeister 🎩

[Jammannn]

People love saying you can get out of the friend zone, but let’s be real you were put there for a reason. Usually it’s lack of physical attraction. Unless you have a major change in appearance or status, you’re not being re-evaluated. If you’re just hanging around ‘building a friendship’ hoping it turns romantic, you’re deluding yourself.

[guesswhereivebeen]

Think of it this way…. Girls have guy friends they just might want to… but it’s kinda rare… I got out of the friend zone after knowing this girl for 18 yrs… and you know what… it was like starting at year 18 of a relationship… we were already at “shut the fuck up” right from the gate

[Anonymous]

Yes it is. Build muscle AND get lean and then also become stable mentally and make money. This is one way to exit the friendzone for a lot of women, but I'm not claiming that it'll work for all. It's up to you to decide whether the effort is worthwhile.

[Purpleronnie]

Well if one half of the friendship wants more and it isn’t possible it’s up to them to decide what to do. Personally If it wasn’t going to happen then I wouldn’t be hanging around waiting for a change of heart. There is more than one for everyone.

[qwerty2469]

Its absolutely possible but I wouldn't recommend it. You'll get 6 excellent years and then lose the best friend of your entire life and have to live decades without them for a stupid argument over the fact that you got married to someone else like 20 years ago when you were 23.

[Alex-Snow]

I think so but you have to let it be known that you want the relationship to progress into something more than friends and want it to be more live boyfriend/girlfriend and eventually lovers

[blackeagle007]

Set boundaries. Don’t go the extra mile for the person. You’re not a shoulder to cry on. If they ask you to come over for comfort because they had a breakup, just decline saying “can’t tonight” do your own thing, date who you want etc

[beenherebefore]

It's definitely possible but not that common.

[tzdc21]

Yes. You move on to another person and try again.

[Anonymous]

no. you know it you're attracted to someone instantly. if a girl goes out with you but isn't going out with you she is not attracted to you.

[David318578]

Yes, got to tell her you are interested in one of her hot friends.

[genericname85]

yes it's super easy. friendzoned means you're stuck being friends right? you don't wanna be friends? stop being friends xD easy as that.

[Anonymous]

Possible if you let the friendship get deep with her. She will start loving you.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Those two people are, umm, not exactly attractive.

[msc545]

Hell no, but a man can spend a lot of money trying to do this. DON'T.

[seeyounexttuesday]

For a dude, near impossible. You can't negotiate attraction.

[warlock83]

Yes, but once you are in the family zone (the whole, I see you as a sibling) you cannot get out

[Fighterpilot99]

It is possible to escape the friend zone. But it takes a lot of work. And it may not be that good when you do escape it.

[bunniesrcute]

just leave her alone, she friendzoned u for a reason

[OneViewpoint]

Lots of guys have a hard time accepting that. But, assuming both people are in the mating age bracket and looking to find a husband or wife, what is the benefit of spending substantial portions of your time with a girl or guy who isn't mating material? When does that make sense? You should be out there dating and looking for "the one".

Maybe older people, divorced, widowed, can have a friends only relationship. Something where you hang out as a group occasionally. Where there are no expectations of sex, or being there all the time for someone. No daily texting. Meals and drinks are separate checks. She takes care of her own car problems and moving to a new apartment. She's a she-bro. But I'm thinking women aren't gonna like being treated like a she-bro either. So maybe it doesn't work at all.

[bunniesrcute]

yeah, and if she friendzoned u, she doesn't want to be your ”the one” so get over her. there's plenty of fish in the sea.
exactly, so leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure, but I hope so, I've been friend-zoned many times.

[Kingofkings1992]

It’s impossible to ever even get in it, because it doesn’t exist

[exitseven]

I never bought into the concept of friend zone.

[DrPepper12]

It's a great place to start actually

[Jennz6]

Maybe you can

[LiamJHayden]

Possible, yes. Likely, no.

[Vegasrunner]

No it is not.

[Vegasrunner]

Smartgirl_hey I don't know about that but it's the best way for men if they want to be successful with women.