Is it possible to be able to tell if a woman is cheating?

[Markanthony75]

[RavVid]

Yep you can.

One girlfriend went shopping with a girlfriend. On return, she hadn't bought anything and immediately put on a load of washing and hit the shower. Naive as I was back then I was suspicious.

When she got out, I rushed her to the bed. No foreplay I just stuck my cock in. Went up to the hilt on the first thrust. I call this the dip stick test. Another girl also gave me sloppy seconds. Again the dip stick test told me the truth. She had also hit the shower and she seem to enjoy the sex more than she did usually did.

You can certainly tell if you are getting sloppy seconds but I have no idea of how long the relaxed state lasts for. I think a few hours.

Other than that behavior/attitude might give you reason to suspect. If something seems odd it is usually because it is. Don't tell yourself you are imagining things.

I think, it is just as much a crime for a girl to make me suspect infidelity as it is to cheat. I'm judge and jury. There is no point in confronting them as you'll get the same response from an innocent and guilty girl.

If in doubt, kick'em out.

[Summeroflove]

That means she’s really getting off to betraying you

[RavVid]

@Summeroflove Quite clearly both girls did.

The first girl I mentioned criticized a friend for having sex with two guys on the one day. She said "I couldn't possibly have two men's cum in me at the same time".

As it turned out she could quite easily. It doesn't pay to blindly trust.

From what I have subsequently learn't girls enjoy cheating and they think it is funny. Certainly they giggle over it and they get excited when one of their friends has. They aren't angelic.

I saw something a couple of days back that women's fertility decreases wrt to he husband sperm. It was a throw away line but I am going to reasearch that. The source I regard as trust worthy.

[Summeroflove]

It’s called deflection. People will talk about others to deflect attention away from themselves as well as projecting.

Some people feel bad about the things they did and ashamed. Others don’t. For people that feel sorry they like to deny it to themselves that it ever happened as well as excuse and justify reasons why.

For people who don’t. It’s obviously about their image

[Summeroflove]

If I talk about other people doing something. Nobody would suspect me…

[RavVid]

@Summeroflove Back then I was to naive to understand about deflection. Not now :)

[Summeroflove]

This is a old trick and it does work. For most good people they project themselves on others. They just assume someone is a good person and rationalize bad behavior and create pleasurable reasoning behind why they’re acting a certain way. That may be true for someone else…

It’s just hard to empathize with a mind that isn’t like yours. As with most bad people they project themselves on others and assume everyone’s out to get them.

[Summeroflove]

But that’s what it is. Deflection and projection is a common tactic. Obviously when they’re doing the same thing (or worse) then the people they talk about.

All the sudden if they’re no longer able to deny it. It just turns into excuses and justifications

[RavVid]

@Summeroflove Just so. A non-cheater expects their partner to never cheat as they wouldn't. So the miss and rationalize evidence to the contrary only seeing it written in big red letters on the wall the whole time.

It is as you say.

[Summeroflove]

This happens a lot too it may seem obvious to everyone else besides them and they probably at some point are aware of it and refuse to believe it.

People who been cheated on a lot learn their signs and can start to see through the bullshit pretty fast.

It does go both ways. Cheaters typically project themselves on their partners as well. So they become very controlling and suspicious despite not having anything to really be worried about. They will find things. Anything…

[Summeroflove]

But. People don’t want to see it. They believe the lies and even unfortunately when they cannot deny it anymore. They just believe the excuses that their partner gives them. Maybe even as far as believing it’s their own fault. If they were a better boyfriend or girlfriend.

But that doesn’t matter. Nothing is ever good enough for people like that.

[RavVid]

@Summeroflove A lot of truth in that.

[Summeroflove]

Yes some are better at hiding it then others. But especially if it’s been going on for long periods of time yes many times it’s PAINFULLY obvious. Simply people don’t want to see it. It’s too horrible and frankly not only does it deeply hurt emotionally to face it that they’re betrayed. It also hurts their pride.

At first someone may hide it well. But after a while of getting away with it people become sloppy and brazen. At times even wanting to get caught. Just seeing how much they can get away with and narcissists think if you’re too dumb to figure it out. You deserve it.

[RavVid]

There is an act of faith wrt fidelity. That act of faith might be enough to blind the cheated partner.

[Amy_Mi]

Not always, but patterns rarely lie.

Behavior, consistency, transparency, and energy shifts are the indicators, not paranoia.

Cheating isn’t just about physical acts, it’s about broken trust, secrecy, and misaligned priorities.

Intuition helps, but observation and honesty matter more.

If doubts persist, address them directly assumptions aren’t evidence, but silence can be.

[Abbycado]

Definitely? Like without having proof?

I mean, there could be signs of a person cheating, but unless you have hard proof, that’s a dangerous accusation to make.

[Markanthony75]

Agreed , what are some of the most common signs

[Abbycado]

I would say probably drastic change in behavior and maybe getting overly defensive about things that are trivial.

I am sure the person doing the cheating is going to be on edge.

[RavVid]

Very rarely will there be proof. Like you come home and there are moans from the bedroom.

But I don't think you need proof. It is just as bad if your partner gives you reason to doubt their fidelity. Just as sackable.

I always knew a female flat mate had had a guy over because she tidied up. But signs can be more subtle. Sometimes you know somebody has been in your place the moment you open the front door then find an hour later AV equipment has been stolen.

A lot goes into our unconscious brains and a disturbed red flag is all that pops up.

[OlderAndWiser]

OF course it is possible, because many men make that discovery. HOW you uncover the truth depends very much on your circumstances and the identity of her other partner.

[HighValue]

If it is, I certainly wouldn't be posting how publicly because that would just help more of them cover it up.

[Nikki1989]

It is usually obvious when someone is cheating, especially with men.

[DryGermanGuy]

Sure. Just have a private investigator follow her.

[In_Trance]

Only if you ask her