Do you think I am overthinking? Or he just being friendly?

[Anonymous]

I live in aboard since i was young, and the last time i went back home country, i was staying in the luxury hotel near the airport because my flight was in the early morning. So I didn’t have something to do , and i was thinking to meet my old co worker and treated him for dinner (he is much older than me like 45-50 because i had part time jobs when i was teenager, so had a lot older co worker). He said yes, but he offered me to pick me to the restaurant. When he arrived, he asked me to go to my room, but i was thinking he just want to see my room because it was nice hotel, he might be just curious to see the room. But i didn’t allow him and just asked let’s just go get some food. But when he dropped me to the hotel, he asked again if he can go to my room for a while, i still say no. It’s not really nice to bring someone to my room even just to see the room, my man wouldn’t like it, that what I said to him. But a few days ago he texted me
“How are you doing?”.
“When will you come back again?”.
“I miss you “.

It’s disgust me tbh.
Do you think i am overthinking or he just being friendly?

[Amy_Mi]

You’re not overthinking, your instincts are spot on.

A man twice your age repeatedly asking to enter your hotel room, then texting “I miss you,” isn’t friendliness, it’s boundary testing.

Genuine friendliness respects limits, This crosses them.

His curiosity about your “nice room” was just a pretext.

You handled it perfectly firm, polite, and self respecting.

Trust your gut.

Discomfort is data, not drama.

[DishLady]

He seems a little “extra” in the bad way. I’d avoid him if I were you.

[Jania1809]

When someone you used to work with asks to come into your hotel room, especially after you’ve already declined once, that’s crossing a boundary. Even if he was “just curious,” a respectful person would’ve accepted your “no” the first time and not repeated it.

[In_Trance]

You're overthinking