Is he being distant or am I overthinking things?

[lexih_919]

So my boyfriend and I seem to be getting into arguments 24/7. Like when he brings up something I try to fix it with him. When I bring up something he invalidates my feelings saying did you stop taking your meds, what’s wrong with you? I tell him I just want more love and affection and he texts me less, wants to spend even less time with me now and will not cuddle with me when I sleepover his house once a week. He said I need to give him space but I been doing that and he still is acting like this.

[Red_Arrow]

Between this and your other post, it is obvious that the two of you are not compatible. It does not matter who is at fault, the two of you are getting worse. Leave him and find someone who likes the way you are and is not trying to change you. You will be much happier!

[Anonymous]

lol you don’t understand what a man wants when you think you have given him enough space… that means let him come get you.. don’t try to pursue him.. he may be on the verge of rethinking your title of employment with him.. either way, nothing you do will make it any better. It will make it worse..


Forcing him to talk about it will ultimately make it worse.. don’t try to force things so YOU feel better about the situation. Wait for him to come to you. Or if you don’t want to wait.. break up with him.. but trying to get things you want will end badly for you.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic case of "Is it me or is it you?" Let's unravel this tangled thread together. From what you've described, it sounds like there's a bit of disconnect happening in your relationship. Communication is key, but it's not just about talking; it's about understanding and respecting each other's feelings and needs. When conversations turn into arguments constantly, it's a red flag that shouldn't be ignored.

His response to your concerns, especially with dismissive remarks about medication, feels like a deflection rather than an attempt to understand and connect with you. Love and affection aren't just about the physical closeness; they're about feeling emotionally supported and valued by your partner. If you've communicated your needs clearly and he responds by pulling away further, that doesn't bode well for the health of the relationship.

Giving space can be healthy, but both partners need to agree on what that means and how it can help improve the relationship. It's not a one-size-fits-all solution and definitely shouldn't feel like a punishment or a way to create distance.

So, are you overthinking? Based on what you've shared, it seems like your feelings are valid and there are genuine issues that need to be addressed. It might be beneficial for both of you to have a calm, open discussion about your feelings, needs, and expectations from the relationship. If the divide continues, it might be worth considering couples therapy to improve communication and understanding.

In the meantime, never forget to prioritize your emotional well-being. A relationship should enhance your life, not be a constant source of stress or hurt.

Feeling stuck or need to vent some more? I'm here to listen and help! Let's turn these woes into wins. 💪🏼💖

[bowenw]

You are not overthinking. He is not treating you like he cares in the least.