What is happening on dating apps?

[Anonymous]

A lot of guys get few matches and the ones they do get either ghost or end it quite quickly saying no chemistry and claim it’s because girls are constantly goin for the same top 5% of men.

on the other hand women say they’re trying not to be picky and go for less popular men but either don’t feel it or it goes well and after 6 weeks it comes to an end but they weren’t just after sex. Ultimately it leaves both unhappy.

so what’s happening?

[Anonymous]

Truthfully? Most guys are doing it wrong. The REALITY of online dating is the rules are INVERSE to real life dating. I wish more guys understood this. you have to understand that most women DESPISE online dating. Most women only use online dating to widow shop. Most women are looking for a unicorn that fit her 300 point criteria ( that she NEVER actually find on a dating app). So you're never going to pull this woman, and you should not even try.

Yes, there is only about 5% of women on dating apps ACTIVELY working to date. So what are the odds you're going to message one of those women? 1 in 20? Probably not! Try closer to 1 in 100. Because those women are probably not the fairest looking women. Ergo maybe less on your radar, if on your radar at all.

So if a guy goes to message women on a dating app he's probably going to get 99 ignores for every 1 response. Yeah, this is going to get soul shredding and demoralizing pretty fast to most guys. This is why I say the rules are inverse in online dating. IRL men are expected to approach women. But one truth I've learned from online dating. The women who truly want to date a man WILL MESSAGE YOU FIRST on an online dating app. No guy should EVER message a woman first on an online dating app. This the God's honest truth.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Men get a lot of bots and only fan girls while woman get floaded with options ik when I was on tinder I had over 2000 matches

[Anonymous]

It's just you. That's why you're still here after YEARS giving your same pitiful speech.

[Asker]

Not really. I’ve asked a logical question, not a rant.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like you’re just crying about what happens to you.

[Asker]

Not really. I’ve asked a logical question, not a rant.

[Anonymous]

Just countless dumb people with little to offer wasting their time.