What makes someone whose insecure and have very low self esteem feel better by rejecting them?

[Summeroflove]

I’m not talking about if someone’s simply not your type… But you don’t really enjoy doing it. But it makes no sense… someone genuinely likes you and you hurt them… which makes them NOT like you anymore.

It never made sense. When people hurt people to feel better about themselves. All they do is not only make that person not like them. But everyone who sees that thinks you’re a ass and now they won’t ever approach you. As a romantic partner or even friends

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Some people who struggle with insecurity reject others first because it gives them a brief sense of control.

If they assume they’ll be hurt, judged, or abandoned, rejecting someone becomes a way to protect themselves.

It lets them avoid vulnerability and temporarily feel stronger even if deep down, it comes from fear, not confidence.

It’s not about wanting to hurt the other person.

It’s about shielding themselves from what they’re scared might happen.

[Summeroflove]

It’s the control and a lot of people do have the reject them beofore they reject me mentality.

Some people are used to being rejected or rejected later on. So it’s a self preservation. But some do it just because they enjoy the power and control.

[Summeroflove]

But corrrecf. It definitely depends on the person doing it.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Makes sense.

And you're right, the intent matters.

Some people do it out of fear, others out of control.

The behavior looks the same, but the motivation behind it is completely different.

[Noredcarpet]

It is their ego talking. People that are bullies/have bullie tendencies or in the heat of the moment want the upper hand, the last word, do this. Their real self is actually the opposite, they are very insecure. They think noone sees through them. Their perspective of the truth is that they show off. They have not analyzed themselves enough so there for what they are not aware of themselves they can't phantom other people being aware.

[AMS700CX4u2]

Same psychology as those criticizing the work of others when they can do no better. The inept and weak feel uncomfortable when others get praise for, something they cannot do. Mentally they have to level the field. It is usually better to say nothing than to attack. Others see through it and react.

[melanieeeB]

I don't understand your question so well but ehm if someone rejects someone else, it's mostly out of no interest and not to boost their own ego.
And if you do see it like that, you should get help and work on your own self esteem

[Summeroflove]

I agree with that. That’s why I said that. I mean people who are harsh and seem to get off on rejecting someone.

[Summeroflove]

If you read what I asked. There is people who enjoy rejecting someone even if they are interested. Just because it makes them feel better about themselves.

People who are mean about it. Now… if you reject someone and they won’t take a kind but firm NO…. For a answer. Then they deserve what they get.

[Summeroflove]

Wow…. I really have to explain myself on here.

[SoccerPlayer99]

You need to get rejected 100 times... become numb to it. It doesn't define your worth assuming you are adding value to your life in your private time. One foot in front of the other brother man.

[snermcger]

Look, sometimes you gotta crush a soul. Always approach people with good intention. If they like you romantically and you do not like them then tell them. If they persist with romantic overtures, you gotta do what you gotta do.