So my parents want to set me up with a guy who is basically a business man well he has big money?

[Anonymous]

The thing is he like 10 years older than me and not my type at all, he ain’t ugly or anything but definitely not attractive type would y'all lady’s go for it if you was in my shoes?

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6 mo

He finds me attractive

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6 mo

They keep initiating for me to really think about it and get with him

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

I mean, why not try to date him first and see how things go? And I have to be honest, it's not so bad to dream about a good husband and a stress-free life.

I dated someone waaay older (20+ years older) and would date older again in the future. Just maybe get to know him more? I personally like older than me since they are more mature-minded and masculine than guys my age. More gentleman, patient, problem-solvers, and romantic too. I never ever even once regret it.. unlike what other people said here, like dating older isn't the norm ever since Renaissance era. 🙄 But yep, you do you girl. 🫶

[Jooying]

In your standard, does he meet your average standard? Like acceptable?
If it is, I would say there's no harm to get to know him first. Maybe his personality would catch your sight. Maybe he's a good husband material.
Nowaday, ten years gap in age isn't really a big deal. If I didn't have a guy to see, and I didn't really discussed by him, I would give it a chance.

[Keyboardkat]

Don't marry for money alone! That gets old real fast! Marry ONLY someone you really love. You deserve better than this. I mean, do you realize that you'd be selling yourself? Is that really what you want?

[Asker]

Why they say I wouldn’t have to worry about finances and right now I’m struggling and secondly he said I won’t even have to work if I don’t want and he will give me his credit card anytime I need it

[Keyboardkat]

You're struggling right now. Is that worth selling your future for? What happens if you marry this guy, and a few years later you meet someone really wonderful and closer to your age, and you made a business deal as a marriage and you're stuck! What do you do then? You are struggling right now, but you won't always be. You can make it.

[Asker]

True lol I don't know but isn’t that good support

[slatyb]

Don't do this.

[Asker]

Give me good 5 reasons

[slatyb]

Here's the one that matters: "he's not my type at all". Don't end up like the woman in this song:

https://youtu.be/PqccEpqvwPY?si=pL_603SDR5_XG-_f

[Alex-Snow]

Do not go there. Dating, sex and marriage is definitely your choice and right not your parents. Not only no but hell no. And the age difference can be a challenge also

[Staximus]

Marrying a guy you don't love for his money is one step above being a prostitute. Have some self-respect and stop being a bum and get your shit together.

[Xalooo]

No no

[Asker]

Why no no

[Xalooo]

Marrying with love is more important than money

[Asker]

Well true but honestly it’s pretty convincing bc I’m struggling with money right now, and he said I won’t have to work and can use his credit card whenever I need it

[Xalooo]

I don't recommend it

[Asker]

Give me good 5 reasons why you don’t recommend it..