Do you girls’ know us men want kindness from you to feel loved and respected?

[Finchie40]

Most of us guys’ don’t receive this from a girl unless we do something for her , we don’t receive softness , we don’t receive kindness on a regular basis , we don’t receive reassurance or made to feel worthy , unless we are performing , providing , and producing for her , and that’s why most of us guys’ never feel loved by you completely. Most of us guys’ want to feel loved and wanted and appreciated and worthy no matter what , but we don’t receive it , unless we are doing something for you. Girls’ on the other hand receive this on a steady basis no matter what she does. She will love the kids’ her friends’ the pets no matter what they do , but she will only love her partner , if he is doing things for her, otherwise he is overlooked, it seems a lot of girls’ think us men were just put on Earth to cater to her at all times , but if we fail to do so , we are automatically a POS , instead of being treated like a human being with feelings. So many relationships fail because a man starts feeling like he is unworthy , unappreciated , unwanted by the girl he gave his heart to , and the only way he can receive her kindness is by doing something for her, to the point he will eventually shut down , he will eventually become quiet because whatever he says or does is not good enough , so he bottles up his emotions and feelings. to keep the peace in the household , until he can’t bottle it up anymore , and realizes he isn’t valued , unless he does something for her , that’s when he might explode and realize he deserves better than the way he is treated by her and he will either walk away or meet another girl that treats him better than his current partner does. If you girls’ prioritize your man and make him feel loved and wanted , and appreciated on a steady basis , your man will climb mountains to be by your side , otherwise he won’t even jump over a little puddle for you. You girls’ can change this , by learning to appreciate your man instead of trying to control him

[Hardon-Collider]

Men are evil demons and should be exterminated

ahem, sorry, i just pretended to be nikki for a moment.

I think neither men or women nowadays really think twice about what to do. People chase euphoric highs. Not only does this become demanding, "bring me money" or "give me sex" but also eventually junkies who confuse the sources of highs, and commit evil just to ride out the adrenaline. Once you deplete sources of harmless euphoria you then act to feel nervous, because it's better than being "bored". Taboo sex shit is a step in this direction, it feels wrong so it makes you nervous, and feeling-chasers enjoy the adrenaline rush of nervousness. You know that it can expand into crime. Yet the same impulsivity is the cause of relationship drama, kind partners get boring, while you initially entered the relationship out of excitement, which fades over time, and when you introduce a new sex toy it also becomes dull. Everything gets old. Which must scream to anyone with common sense "RELATIONSHIPS BASED ON SATISFYING THE NERVOUS SYSTEM DO NOT WORK".

There's not a gender to blame. Absolutely stop making it a gender based issue. While this manifests slightly differently in each gender and the specifics are worth pointing out ---- a similar version exists in both, and the counterpart should also always be included.

Whenever you argue "women are doing this evil" all that it ever in response provokes is: "but if we are kind to a man, he takes us for granted, + xyz other evils men do". And so they decide that kindness is not worth it, feeling like you reassured them about that. ㅤ

[Straight2thepoint]

I'm sorry brother. No one deserves to feel this way. No one deserves to be treated this way. You and every man here and everywhere are doing their best. Stay strong. If you're just venting or just saying. Then you're right. It's or duty to help the young to save their future. I'm only 38 but i realized my kids future is fked if I don't help.

[Zionne]

Many men feel loved and respected only when they’re providing or doing something for their partner, which can make them feel unappreciated and shut down emotionally. Showing consistent kindness, reassurance, and appreciation without conditions makes men feel valued and motivates them to fully invest in the relationship. Mutual care and recognition, not just performance, is key for lasting love

[Sunshinelips]

Only girls don’t know that. Like some comments from them under your posts.
Women, like me, know that men deserve to be loved and cared for and if he’s showing her that then she should reciprocate.

[Cyberpunk370]

Exactly

[Finchie40]

Yup I agree

[Anonymous]

No, women like that are taken for granted and treated like shit, cheated on and left. You seem to think that’s what men want, and maybe it is, but the minute a woman is treating a man with unconditional love, softness, appreciation and kindness he stops making an effort, takes her for granted and starts treating her like shit all while men are giving princess treatment, and simping after, toxic bitches who treats them badly. I’ve experienced it and I’ve seen it, time and time again.

[Finchie40]

Well of a guy is treating you like shit after you are kind and respectful to him , then he is a POS and a guy you should walk the other way from immediately, because I do the same to girls’ that eventually start treating me that way as well , No relationship is perfect but a loving partner will appreciate a loving kind respectful partner , if they don’t? Then they never loved you to begin with , they just liked the convenience of you and what they could receive from you without giving back the same or equivalent in return. Me personally treats a girl the same way I want to be treated in return , and usually in the beginning she does , but after time goes by she changes on me and becomes more
Of an enemy than a lover , so that’s when I will walk away , hoping to eventually find a girl that loves me the same way I love her

[genericname85]

Yeah exactly. You're projecting from negativ experience as if all men were douchebags. You should stop dating douchebags xD I know it's easier said than done but that's what it is.

[Staximus]

Not all guys are the piece of shit who you should have left when he started treating you badly

[Anonymous]

Speak for yourself I just want to be left alone. Tired of always doing more with less only getting called to help others.
never being wanted only being needed really sucks. I’ve pretty much gone dark the last 7 years and I’m never going back. If someone came to me with kindness and respect at this point especially a woman I’d just say I’m not doing it before they could ask my girlfriend included.

[Crimsyjo]

Funny cos I my experience it's the exact opposite for me. I'm the 'man' in your post

[Cyberpunk370]

We just want to be treated nicely. We want someone to treasure us just for being us. We don't want to have to do anything special to earn it. We want a nice and loving relationship. We want to feel cared for. We want to feel loved. We want someone who will appreciate our kindness. We just want to be loved. That's not wrong or selfish. It's natural.

Everybody needs somebody to hold on to.

[melanieeeB]

I see why she left you! I would have been running for the hills too.
Go to a therapist!

[Finchie40]

I left her , she’s trying to get me back

[Sal_Monella]

Men expect three things from any woman for the commitment they want.
Respect
Fidelity
Amenability

Pussy is way down the list.

[sage2021]

@Sal_Monella

If sex is way down on the list then why do guys expect it from us on our first date just because they bought our dinner?

[Sal_Monella]

@sage2021 The wrong guys. And the wrong timing. The first date should be during the day at Starbucks. "How this is going to go" is discussed then.

[Sal_Monella]

Any women who declines "Let me buy you coffee" as unserious is a fool.

[Anonymous]

Some girls know, some girls don't, I know how you feel.

[Anonymous]

Oh look, Finchie is whining about women again!

[Finchie40]

Oh Finchie isn’t whining , just stating facts

[chrissykerdock]

the same for us too

[loveyouoak]

Wow really?