Do you want respect for men?

[chris_987]

If most women don't respect men, why do they demand men respect them?

To me respect is earned not given

[Anonymous]

Respect should be earned, not demanded. As a rule, people should treat others with respect unless given a reason not to.

But there is a difference between treating someone respectfully and actually repecting them. The latter must be earned. I have no respect for someone who demands respect.

[chris_987]

So if where in the army and your drill sergeant yells at you and put you down, you wouldn't respect them even though they demand respect.

[Opinion Owner]

There are people who earn the respect of others who they've never even met because their reputation precedes them and the accomplishments required to attain their position speak for themselves.

[HelpfulWoman]

I have an immediate level of basic respect for every person i come into contact with. But then that respect level with vary based on the behaviour I then see of them.

[chris_987]

So hypothetically speaking. If a random guy messaged you, would you show him respect?

[HelpfulWoman]

yes, until he showed any untoward behaviour.

[chris_987]

Ok do you think It's respectful to message a guy and the first thing you ask him is, who are you?

[HelpfulWoman]

probably depends on some context. literally out of the blue to a stranger or has there been some type of prior interaction?

[chris_987]

No that's what I mean, most times if a girl decides to talk to me she won't be polite. She'll just say who are you?

And I know for a fact that most guys are just polite to girls

[HelpfulWoman]

Unless you're a girl yourself, you "knowing for a fact" doesn't make it fact. Your experience doesn't also equal that's how all people act.
And as I said, context. Have you done something that makes them rude? What is rudeness to you?

[chris_987]

No that's my point. They don't know me but they treat me disrespectfully. So how can I do something to cause them to be rude to me if this is our first interaction.

All I'm saying is that If I add a girl on Instagram or Snapchat and she doesn't know who I am instead of saying hi how are you? Or how's your day? She'll say something like " who are you or age, and name"

Which to me is just very disrespectful and not polite at all. I don't know about you but that's just how I feel

[HelpfulWoman]

While yes, it's not particularly polite to have a blunter "who are you", you also need to take into account the masses of scammers and trolls who will also cold message people. Being direct and to the point weeds out those types of people. A lot of people don't want to be randomly added by strangers on those sites. This was why I said context is important to know.

As you said yourself in that you think respect is earned, you're not actually owed politeness from strangers. It's nice to have, and I recommend it if you can be, then be polite. But it's not a necessity for life.

[chris_987]

When it comes to snapchat or Instagram that's not the case girls are just rude, you can see my post of me and my niece and you can tell I'm a real person. They're just rude to people they don't know.

And think about it guys add random girls all the time so it's causes and imbalance where girls are gonna get dm's from a guy anyways so they don't care if there rude random men. So social media has made a lot girls not be polite anymore.

[HelpfulWoman]

as stated, you're not owed politeness. you're coming across a little entitled with not even acknowledging the points I've made...

[chris_987]

It's give and take, I know girls wouldn't like it if wasn't polite to them, and just treated them the way they treat guys. So that's my point.

I'm not entitled I'm just say you can't ask for men to show you respect if at every opportunity your disrespectful towards people you don't even know.

[midnightmoon05]

Yes! I love them and respect them! I love that they are in our world. It is us women who need to get our act together to raise them to be men!!!

[chris_987]

Sounds like a troll

[midnightmoon05]

I know right… the one actually appreciates life, and men and lives a good healthy life are the weirdos…and trolls.
Those who are on meds. Hates life, men, broke, on drugs, depressed, suicidal, single moms who don’t know which is the father… etc…are normal.

[MemeSupreme]

just be normal lol that's how i want the world. i'll be respectful and nice if they are too. im not gonna be like "ew a man" bc that's so stupid lmao it's silly

[chris_987]

So if a random guy added you how would you respond to strangers?

[MemeSupreme]

nothing bc being added doesn't mean anything. you mean like accepting follow requests or whatever right

[chris_987]

Accepting friends request

[Jkgordon]

Of course it’s earned in the real world with the movers and shakers like myself we seem to know the difference the lower people appear to be quite confused perhaps evolving on a higher level of intellect

[Nikki1989]

“If most women don't respect men.”

Where do you come up with this garbage?

[chris_987]

it's propaganda, You're basically the same age as me so you've seen TV shows where the man is seeing as the dumb one and the girl is seen as the most intelligent one plus movies where the women can wear 100 pounds but beat up a guy that's 300 lb

So I think a steady diet of disrespect towards men have cause most women to believe men don't deserve respect

[Anonymous]

You kinda just contradicted yourself by saying respect is earned then asking why don’t women respect men…maybe they haven’t earned the respect?

[chris_987]

Well the opposite would be to be disrespectful
I've noticed that online. A lot of girls are disrespectful

[Opinion Owner]

But you said that respect is earned no?

[Opinion Owner]

What’s the balance between respectful and disrespectful?

[chris_987]

Yeah a respect is earned but as I said disrespect shouldn't be the baseline

Like it's disrespectful to see somebody you meet and not say hi or open the door for them and just be polite, but my point is the baseline for girls when they meet. A guy is disrespect and I'm wondering why that is