What are the steps you take to having respect as a man?

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im to the point we're I'm tired of being childish and I want to start carrying myself as a man and I want people to look at me like I'm a man from family to friends to people I don't know

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

What do you think are the steps you need to take? Where do you think you're falling short now?

I'm not sure where you're at, but here's the traits I personally associate with a "manchild" (so, do the opposite of these):

- unhygienic
- can't keep his home presentable (clean, decorated enough to be lived in, clean your toilet)
- can't cook
- can't maintain himself (make appointments with doctors, therapists, etc)
- can't do work (refuses to do work he's uncomfortable with [i. e. retail] even if he has no other work, is constantly struggling with his job, can't keep focused)
- doesn't pay his own bills (I once dated a 30yo whose mother still paid his cellphone bill 🤮)
- can't take initiative
- can't hold a conversation
- can't handle stress

Basically, be an adult. Take care of yourself, progress your life, take agency into your own hands, and make your life what you want it to be.

Grow into who you want to be. Read books, explore new topics, form your personality, and explore your values.

Becoming "an adult" is kind of a lifelong process, in my opinion. You're gonna be growing your whole life. So becoming used to that and owning it is a big step into the adult world.

Red-Blaze · Accepted Answer

Stand stright Dress the part Work on your health Be resposible if you say you do something do it

Ironmunkee · Accepted Answer

- Pursue your goals but never let them cloud your judgement.
- Remain honest and well-mannered even when you are wronged.
- Always make your actions moral.
- Appreciate and respect those around you even if your feelings say otherwise.
- Be disciplined in your actions and whatever you do make sure to do it well.
- Be proud of who you are and where you came from no matter what, but never narcissistic.
- Have purpose: career, family, academic interests, helping people etc.
- Treat women with respect regardless of how they act.
- Be critical of yourself and your flaws but in a productive way (don't wallow in self pity).

Never be the person whom pursues these traits for selfish reasons.
Don't make your entire ideology about self-improvement.

Nobody changes over night and nobody is perfect.

Moose304 · Accepted Answer

Male or female this comes from within. I was speaking to a group a while back about this subject and I mentioned that I hold myself to a higher standard than I do others. I don't allow myself to put out inferior work. When I am having a discussion and I am not well versed on the topic being discussed I am careful to make that clear. What I am saying is CRITICAL in understanding what respect really is. Because I respect myself and hold myself to a higher standard I am 100% SECURE in both my humanity as well as my manhood. This means I don't have to bring others down to feel secure in who I am. One of my most withering criticisms of males is so damn many of them are so insecure they make life a living hell for others around them.

Chris_7565 · Answer

I kind of think that trying to appease others is a dead end.
A "Man" is self-sufficient. He's smart enough not to brag about his life or care about impressing other guys. He's an individual with his own motives and he mostly stays in his own lane. I get the most respect from others when I don't care what other guys think, and I don't need them either. They recognize that and know that I'm not gonna kiss their asses. Then they have to show me complete respect if they want something.
Other than that, just respecting yourself enough not to stay in bad relationships and being a good father are 2 indicators of a man in my opinion.

Adronicus · Answer

Having boundaries, establishing relationship dynamics both romantic & otherwise, I'd recommend learning to read body language, social networking skills, defining for yourself what a man is & what your goals in life are.

Either no masturbation or if you have to at least take a multivitamin. Eye contact. Train yourself to speak with a deeper voice. Get more handsy with people, shaking hands etc.. Practice smiling, sounds dumb but first impressions mean a lot.

Think about what you want out of life & make it happen. Don't let anyone ever tell or treat you like you're not good enough. I've done all these thing & then some. Changed my whole life around.

Anonymous · Answer

If you're doing for approval you're doing for the wrong reason.
A man just is! He commands respect because of who he is. A man knows his worth. When you respect yourself. That allows you to respect others. A man lives life without fear. I'm not saying he never is afraid but fear does not rule him. A man as a rule is loyal, to his friends to his family, to his faith. A man has a strong sense of justice, of right and wrong and is unafraid of speaking his mind in defense of right. A man defends the weak and the voiceless, his strength is not power to be used against people rather it's to help people. A man stays clean in mind and in body because he respects what God has given him. A man's word is his bond because he knows his name matters. A man honors all womanhood.

MrOxford · Answer

I think I started to truly grow up only when I became self aware and honest with myself. If I wasn’t doing right by friends, family, relationships or work I just started being honest with myself about this and started taking responsibility. You can’t change everything overnight but you can’t change anything without facing uncomfortable truths. I would say that by asking this question you recognise that you want to grow as a person which means you recognise some change is needed. That’s a good start and tells me you have the inner drive to be a better person.

Ευδεμονια · Answer

I had the same problem in the past and I solved the issue using a simple sentence: give the others what you want them give you.
You want respect, accountability, trust? Give them respect, accountability and trust, they will be looking you with other eyes and will give you the same things. To be adult and not childish, you have, first of all, act like one.

Straight2thepoint · Answer

We (includes myself) all fall short to answer this. We don't know half the shit we do. We still maturing to the point of death. So I guess to answer your question.

Be a yourself.
Be a man of ur word.
Value urself before anyone else (besides family).
Be a simple man.

rushu · Answer

You have to listen to him. Women generally are not good listeners. Being a woman myself, I know that most woman just listen to respond. The day you start listening to your man, to empathize with him or to give him emotional support is the day your man will understand that you respect him. In return he will respect and value you even more

libsaretards · Answer

I just do me. I take care of my responsibilities and obligations, keep my word, obey the law, treat others with love and respect and I make sure my actions are the actions the type of man I wish to be would do.

maximumpower · Answer

- financial fitness
- physical fitness
- education
- job
- debate skills
- know self defense
- first aid
- know when to keep your mouth shut
look up heinlein's quote about what every person should know.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Being honest but context appropriate makes high quality woman respect you

LazerBean · Answer

Hold yourself like a man Be responsible Only associate with respectable people

hahahmm · Answer

Be traditional. Don't take non-traditional women seriously. Check out my mytakes.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

I try and treat people good and not cross boundaries.

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

It comes down to alligning yourself with others values. Being high quality in every regard. How you dress and talk, are key. Looking and sounding competent while being friendly is a recipe for massive success.

Anonymous · Answer

By not allowing yourself to be disrespected and being taken advantage of.
And by fulfilling your own responsibilities.
Try your best not to blame the others but work on getting your jobs done and reflect on yourself.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I take no ''steps'' ... that gives me the respect :)

RuthlessAggression · Answer

Don't vote for trump. He epitomizes, immaturity. So, if you want to be mature, don't vote for him, and don't emulate him

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Be sure if yourself. Be good at your job.  Have a life outside of work. Have a spine and say no when necessary.

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