How to be respected?

[Anonymous]

Guys, why will some guys treat some girls like crap and disrespect them, not value them, make them feel degraded, but have tested other girls very well and like gold and view them with great value? How can a woman get respect and admiration? I guess I’m just too nice and maybe need to be more edgy? I don’t know how to change myself. I want to be valued for who I am. How do I change my view of myself? I don’t want to have low self esteem anymore. I don’t want to be treated like a door mat anymore. I’m sick of it!! Tired of my kindness being taken advantage of!

[Billlewis]

It's really very simple -- don't be too nice, don't go out of your way for anyone (especially guys) and even if you think a guy is hot as hell, act as though you're only mildly interested in him.

[Asker]

How do I do that lol that’s what my mom told me

[Asker]

And don’t put up with shit

[Billlewis]

Try, just for a few days, to be the most confident woman imaginable. Really, truly believe that guys should be lining up around the block, just to ask you for your number. I know that probably sounds strange, but that's long been known as one of the most reliable methods of attracting, dating and keeping guys where they belong -- which is under your heel. Seriously.

[Asker]

I have had that before and had multiple guys interested and kind of fighting over me but then all of a sudden it stopped I think bc I’m too nice I don't know

[Asker]

But how do you be confident? I dated a guy for a few years then he told me he wished he were in love with me but isn’t and it shot my confidence. It’s weird when I was not single I had more guys interested and in me

[ProbablyClueless]

It's all about personal boundaries and interpersonal chemistry.

Some people just suck... Most people just suck. Gotta feel around and stumble until you clumsily find your tribe, sometimes.