If I asked a girl if I could stop by her job and say hi and she says yes could I ask her to get coffee after the visit?

[Anonymous]

[SecretsofKB]

Without more context, it is hard to answer accurately. But with what you have mentioned, I would assume it would be okay to ask. She already said yes to you dropping by her place of work, so a coffee wouldn't be a wildly inappropriate question.

[Asker]

It wouldn't be weird to ask her that?

[SecretsofKB]

I mean, to be frank, I thought it was weird that you asked her if you could swing by her job and say hi. Asking her to go to coffee is actually less weird on that scale honestly.

[Asker]

How is asking her to stop by her job weird?

[SecretsofKB]

If someone asked if they could stop by my job to say hi, and only to say hi, I would think it is weird.

[Asker]

I understand what you're saying. That is weird. But you know I didn't just stop by and say hi and then left. The intent was to drop by and have a conversation because I worked nearby. I haven't seen her in a while

[SecretsofKB]

And with that context, it seems less weird. I don't think that asking to go for coffee is weird after establishing contact this way

[Asker]

We have a long and complicated history. I actually like her. I went to her job and talked for a while and then left. I thought asking her what time she gets off and would she like to get coffee after would have been too intrusive

[Alex-Snow]

Of course. Go for it. Is she around your age?

[slatyb]

Of course.

[Asker]

Why?

[slatyb]

Why not? How do you imagine couples get together?