How long are you willing to wait if someone ghosted you?

Question

Days? Weeks?

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

People ghost for a few reasons. Now if someone tells me they are busy for a few days. I don’t hold that against them… But ghosting without a reason. It’s time to move on. Even if they come back “on so sorry yada yada”. Look many people are cowards. Many people also don’t want to burn a bridge. They want supply and to keep someone on the back burner.

I am pretty straightforward (respectfully) when I’m not really interested in someone anymore. I just tell them. Someone will also be a lot less mad if you’re honest then if you play games and ignore them. So cowards make no sense but they aren’t worth your time.

I also know just because I’m loosing interest doesn’t mean they are bad. So they can also find someone that is right for them. If at some point I feel interested in someone again. I’ll reach back out. Yeah, maybe they found someone. Maybe they lost interest. But same for if I ignored them.

If someone’s really interested in you. They won’t ghost. There is the other extreme of people who text you at work or when you’re sleeping if you don’t respond in 5 minutes. But that’s different then waiting days or weeks to respond. Like…. Super weird for someone to respond to a text I sent a week ago. Like… I literally texted you over a week ago and you’re answering me now? That’s weird to me. I’m sorry. It’s weirder then never replying.

Look. Don’t wait on someone. If you’re making a effort to talk someone and you’re not getting any back. Move on…. You may just be someone that feeds someone’s ego. As well as being on the back burner if all else fails.

glennos89 · Accepted Answer

If you are being ghosted it should be raising 🚩🚩🚩 for you all the way. Nobody is ghosting a person who they actually want to be with period!  You should forget him and move on asap

ohsheeT · Answer

I'm not. What they did they did it for a reason and if they ghosted me that means they don't want to be around me or talk to me. And that's fine by me..

Look in life you can't make someone like you or love you so, acknowledge it and move on. It's the best thing in the world for you , whether you know it or not.

And somewhere down the road, if they wanna come back. Well, good luck, because I would probably already be with somebody. Or they would have to prove themselves a good six months before I would allow them , but I doubt I would

HawkPerception · Answer

A few days at most. People can't use the excuse "I'm busy" with me. Everyone has a few minutes a day to communicate through text. You make time for those you want in your life. If someone's not communicating with you in a whole 24 hours, it usually means they're just not interested in you.

ManOnFire · Answer

Give them maybe a couple days to a week, just because you don't know if something might've happened to them. But if it's been days and you guys talk on social media or WhatsApp and you can see if they've been active, let them go and move on. They're trying to be done with you.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not long at all , people That ghost are assholes

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Not at all, the instant i’m disrespected like that, i’m out for good and for all. Only suckers set themselves up to be clowned repeatedly.

egan3141 · Answer

It always depends. I'm going through something similar to this right now that is a perfect exception for when I'd wait a long time.

Met a girl at a running event. Asked her to run again and she said yes. Asked her for a hike and meal and clarified I'd pay. She said she wasn't interested in dating and just wanted to be friends and that she'd like to run again sometime. I messaged her the Friday after Thanksgiving to see if she'd like to go for a run "tomorrow' (Saturday) to burn off some of that Thanksgiving food. She didn't respond. I got sick not too long after and am still not ready to go for another run so I haven't messaged her since and she hasn't sent anything since the "friends and run" thing. She's probably ghosted me but I will still message her again, this time without a specific day in mind, once I'm ready to get back to running. If she ignores that message as well, THEN I'll give up.

However, when do I stop waiting? That implies I'm actually waiting on something. There's nothing I stop doing while trying to hangout/date a girl, so in a sense I'm never waiting in the first place.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

Not long.

Ghosting is already an answer.

I might allow a short window for real life things , stress, emergencies, overwhelm because context matters.

But once it becomes silence without explanation, I don’t wait.

Interest shows up.

Respect communicates.

Waiting indefinitely just teaches someone that my time and presence are optional, and they’re not.

I don’t chase clarity from someone who chose disappearance.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I never been ghosted but if I was I would move on.. there would be no waiting. There is never a reason to wait for someone when choices are vast. You defo will find someone more suited to you when you avoid guys who aren't interested.

Screenwriter · Answer

If someone ghosts you, doesn't that mean it's over, just about immediately?

If it's been more than a few days, and there's no response, I'd assume the person wasn't interested for whatever reason. You reach out two or three times over the same number of days and nothing--- then, that's it.

sage2021 · Answer

I don't wait because I don't give a flying flip! 🙃

After one and a half years and not hearing from him we were through. At least I thought so.

But yesterday I heard from him after all this time. Well, wadda know... he messaged me yesterday.

Sunrising · Answer

I don't think I've ever been ghosted in a relationship.  I would move on after the normal communication ended, if I knew they were still active with other people, but wouldn't respond to my messages.

Clara4567 · Answer

Depends the person is ghosting me, sometimes people are going through things and it can be hard to keep up with the rest of the world, so I can wait a few days if someone doesn't answer a text, but of course it depends also on the person, on the relationship I have with that person.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Life moves on & if someone ghosts me I don’t wait & if someone ghosts me I look at it like they are doing me a favor.

Alex-Snow · Answer

It depends on what I'm waiting for. Is it to start looking for a new partner or date? or is it waiting until I try to make contact with the person who ghosted me?

Anonymous · Answer

it really depends , sometimes its best not to wait at all , but other times the person will return and things will be worth the wait.  but as i said it really depends on the situation

emeraldsaphire · Answer

I don't wait. If they ghost it's over. I'm always willing to talk if they come back, but i'm not waiting on someone

RavVid · Answer

I'd expect a reply that day or the next morning. If it didn't happen in a week I'd be uninterested.

YourExLover69 · Answer

I have been ghosted all time. I wait for maximum a week. But 1-2 days indicates she isn't interested in me or trolling. Online people always ignore and ghost.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

Probably a week or less. After that then fuck 'em I guess.

Sunshinelips · Answer

If someone has ghosted you, respect the dead and move on

Anonymous · Answer

I'm calling GhostBusters right away :P

WhitneySnow · Answer

As soon as I realize they ghosted me, I’m done

linka_pat307 · Answer

I can give them.. a month to return and explain themselves

RHK36 · Answer

Long enough to know I'm being ghosted. If they try contacting me afterwards I will mess with their head

nocturnalbreed · Answer

Weeks, months, years. It's all depends on how rich my relationship with that person.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

24 hours for every week I’ve known them.  But if they only call when they need something, then 3 times and you’re out.

UknoWhatwatiwatt · Answer

I just check messages I receive and respond to them when I can. There's no wait involved, ever, just time between messages. Sometimes it's short and sometimes it's long, it's all the same to me.

Likes2drive · Answer

A few days and then I would realized that they ghosted me

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Zero time, why would i care about someone who ghosts me 🤷🏻‍♂️

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Im not willing to wait ghost me and im done there is no coming back. You have to love your self enough to know you deserve better

cootjuhh · Answer

depents on what happend between us and how it feels. but a month tops.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Why wait? If they disrespect you like that move on

smashleyy · Answer

I don’t do the waiting game

Noredcarpet · Answer

3 days maximum

Evsisa · Answer

I wouldn’t wait at all.

Zionne · Answer

why wait? thank you, next.

loveyouoak · Answer

I guess I've been waiting for weeks.

Anonymous · Answer

Why would I wait for someone who ghosted me?

Anonymous · Answer

Wait for what?

Darkest-Knight · Answer

A couple hours at most.

Pohjolan · Answer

Wait for what?

Sam1133 · Answer

Babe howz you after so many months I saw you? 🥹

Nice222 · Answer

I don’t wait. My time is precious.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

A week.

Monte-Cristo · Answer

My time is so precious i won't wait...

Martha1102 · Answer

Zero days they ant worth my time.

itsannalee · Answer

24 hours

dudeinohio · Answer

A day

LiamJHayden · Answer

I don't wait.

Staximus · Answer

1 day

ABC1x1x · Answer

11..

shortster · Answer

About a week

In_Trance · Answer

I wouldn't wait

msc545 · Answer

5 minutes

Raydergman26 · Answer

A week

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