How much do you think having "game" actually matters in dating?

[Extraterrestrial1999]

a lot

You don't wanna be too dry of course, but "game" is overrated in my opinion

Its person dependent, for some I think it matters, others not so much

It matters a decent bit, some people would be very successful if they had any game at all

[Summeroflove]

Game wears off after a number of dates and the real you shines through. Yeah, okay if you’re just wanting to have sex. That’s one thing. But not if you’re interested in making genuine connections.

Don’t let someone fall for a false image of you. Because as much as I rave about the narcissists… Sometimes it’s not someone’s fault. You don’t want to be that person who makes someone fall for a facade and only find out later that’s not the real you. At the same time, you want to find someone that you can be comfortable in your own skin around. Keeping a game up is a miserable life.

How many coaches say…. To men and women that. Well…. Be this. Do that. Say this. Act this way. Look this way. All the time… in your own house. At the end of it all you’ll be completely miserable.

It is so important to just… be you. As cheesy as it sounds. Yeah, you’ll be rejected. Rejected by good people. Why? Because you’re not right. But you’ll also be rejected by a lot of turds out there who are honestly doing you a massive favor.

Not everyone’s meant to be. Yeah, you can have game for so long and things can go well. Until…. That slips.

[Anonymous]

When women make you jump through hoops, I mean what are you supposed to do? Play along like a circus clown? Brush them off and act like nothing happened? Just leave her be? No matter what you do, you’re the bad guy.

“You didn’t care enough.”

“You didn’t accept me at my worst, you can’t have me at my best.”

Guys don’t want the drama. If you like a guy, SHOW IT… I know that’s hard for some of you, but we can’t read minds. We just want to talk to you. We just want to spend time with you. Stop the short replies and 1 word texts, or dry responses. Is it really that hard to elaborate in your text messages? Provide a little detail? Maybe clarify what you mean instead of coming across like you yourself don’t care?

It’s like trying to conversate with a robot. Be human. Develop your communication skills. Get some hobbies. Have a personality. Is it too much to ask, coming from the male perspective? It’s like we have to entertain them JUST the right way or else they disappear.

[Anonymous]

It's not ever just the one thing we can nail down in dating that makes someone successful over someone else as much as those "dating gurus" out there would have you believe. One of my past boyfriends had absolutely zero game. No one would have ever considered him cool or someone who would land a girlfriend with any ease, but it was just him being him that really made me like him. He wasn't doing "all that" just to get a date, and sometimes you really just want that.

[DishLady]

Game will get you to the door but character gets you across the threshold.

[aceleon]

umm, i don't know if you are aware dear but they are basically the same thing, without the necessary characteristics you can't be good at the game.
also character can be pretended humans are idiots who falls for every type of deception, you can be the worst scum that ever walked the earth but if you have at least average level iq and a little bit self control over your behavior you can fool basically anyone into believing you are a prince charming which is kind of the entire point of the game, making yourself look like something better than you really are at te eyes of your target in order to get what you want from them.

[HawkPerception]

The majority of women will always be into guys with "game". The smooth talkers who pick up on cues easily know when to crack a joke, when to listen seriously and intently, when to give certain facial expressions or gestures, when to touch them, and how to touch them, etc.

And it has nothing to do with character. Some guys are just better at reading the scenario and knowing what to do.

It does matter.

[Zack-Bann]

It’s the most important thing
People either know it or they don’t see it but game is always on the table in any interaction


You can’t trigger attraction without putting forward an attractive personality an that’s essentially what game is

[RavVid]

Pretending to be something you are not has a fatal obvious flaw but you can fool people for a while.

I think you are best working on yourself to actually be what your preferred gender likes in your gender.

[Joshydavid25]

If you like to date around, and what to play the waters or be a player, it matters.. But if you want to find a genuine long lasting relationship, it can help, but its not something that'll keep you with anybody..

[slatyb]

That depends on what you mean by "game". If you mean having and executing a plan for the future, and being able to be present in a relationship, then yes, it matters. If you mean seductive talk, that won't help you get any woman worth having.

[NathanDavis]

I actually stopped gaming... once I had girlfriends

I didn't have time for both

[Nikki1989]

What is game anyway?

Sounds like some immature poppycock.

[aceleon]

most important thing

you may lack other things but as long as you have killer game you won't have much problem.

[WindAtMyBack]

"Game" matters to people who are playing the game. It doesn't matter much to everyone else, which is most people.

[dragoblack]

Game is only for getting toxic women who never work on themselves, and never hold themselves accountable for their own actions, but instead try to justify their abusive behavior and blame you for their intrusive thoughts.

[Tomislav7]

Helps a lot with initial attraction just like looks but a bad personality, being an ass and a liar/unfaithful would end any long term prospects

[exitseven]

it matters a lot. I know this because I never had any.

[Chayce]

If you want pull a lot, it matters. There are people married or dating who have zero game.

[MikeMcMansion]

I got gamed…dozens if times does that count?

[msc545]

I don't think it matters much. And it certainly does not trump height, model good looks, or a shitload of money.

[beefcakebradybatson]

I've got the second.

[LiamJHayden]

Maybe. I have no game but I am bold enough to cold approach.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a "game", that's probably one of the reasons why I never actually had a date.

[blackeagle007]

Run game if you want to meet someone attractive

[queenofcardio]

It matters a decent amount

[sportsbraslikes]

Never understood what “having game” means

[beefcakebradybatson]

Greatly for stupid dudes.