Should I feel guilty for handsome privilege?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been asked out point blank to my face by very attractive women… By retail and service staff especially at places I’m a regular I get noticeably better treatment and I’ve never really realized it until recently.

People are either really nice to me or super hateful and there isn’t much in the middle. My cup is halfway empty and I have a refill. I’m comped tons of free stuff. Get tons of snacks and drinks on airplanes by flight attendants. I get hit on.

The other day this chick who I know plays basketball at a local university grabbed something for me off the top shelf when I was going to ask a employee for help…: and this chick towered me. Taller women then myself even flirt with me I’m like 5’11 so I’m not short or tall… But I’ve been hit on a lot by women who are 6’0 and up.

I feel bad… Sometimes. I see men who never get any attention no matter how hard they try. Meanwhile I’m drowning in it. To the point of annoyance at times. I feel embarrassed and awkward being flirted with in front of friends and family. Obviously overly flirted with…. And meanwhile there are dudes who put themselves out there. Rejected… not even a smile.

Girls pay my dates… Meanwhile other men are shamed for going to coffee shops or take women to very expensive restaurants pay 100s even thousand or more and …. Ghosted.

[Noredcarpet]

No. You should not. Because you too get with that is a lot of projected ideas of what you are like and the rights some think they have of how much attention they give you.

I dated once the most beutiful looking guy I had ever seen til that point, but I noticed too how people, especially some women got and it was difficult for me because they would play out to me too when all we wanted to be left alone. It was nothing he did or say wrong to create this stir and he treated me always right. I realized he was so used, sick of being in this box where his looks determined. He was treated like meat by those and they saw him as this high status sign. I actually could not take it and ended up telling him I could not see him no more. Our personalities clicked and we had so much to talk about. He was aware of what was going around us and he tried to show me he had strong boundaries. It was my fault 100%. I paniced. He tried to talk me through that too. He was more mature than I was. Finally he got mad at me and who can blame him.

I could tell that in his every day life he tried through his choice of wardrobe send out signals what kind of guy he was, his interests, hobbies, and that might have helped a little, but as soon as lets say we had changed to working out it was as if these girls had a different take on him. I who other wise liked moving around in public like everyonr else was now starting to detest it. There was no way he could hide himself and he shouldn't feel like he had to.

I think everyone pay some kind of price for everything and lots of it has to do with our own prejudice, ourselves what we project out to others, it gets in the way of true meetings.

[Asker]

Yeah I mean. Loyalty is important. My way of thinking is that if someone has tons of options but they choose you…. That’s saying more then picking you because you’re the best house in a bad neighborhood.

[Asker]

With that all being said. Opportunity is what allows cheating to happen. A person with bag integrity and isn’t loyal is going to cheat. As soon as they get the chance

[Asker]

But you’re right… People do ASSUME a lot and it leads to major disappointments. A lot of very attractive men and women have expressed this before.

For instance. A man whose good looking can her assumed to have a certain personality. Is assumed that he has money and status. And it can lead to major disappointments when someone’s not all you expected them to be.

[Asker]

A woman whose good looking. Pretty much, just people build a fantasy. And make someone into who they want them to be. Then later on csn become extremely resentful.

[Asker]

The opposite side top of people being nice. Is that people can be extremely rude as well…

Some men are douchy because they feel like they have to show everyone who the alpha is. Women can be bitchy either to mask attraction or because they feel like you’re going to reject them so they reject you before you can reject them.

People also get angry when you get special treatment so they see it as a way to humble you so to speak… some people are super weird.

So people can also be very rude at times

[Noredcarpet]

Oh thank you. Yeah we clicked. He did not act as if I was less good looking than he was, he acted as if I was just everything I should be. Like it didn't matter.

[Noredcarpet]

For what's it's worth I agree with you what you have written on here as I have seen, experienced these things too happening, how people act. It is not delusional just because others haven't noticed it

[Asker]

That’s the issue peoppe need to get to know someone before they waste their own time and someone else’s…

Some people aren’t meant to be. But peoppe allow themselves to get too carried away and will hold someone to unreasonable expectations even if they don’t hold themselves to that.

[Noredcarpet]

Yes, you're right.

[Anonymous]

You should be guilty for being delusional and living in the imaginary like this. I know your life has been tough, but you don’t need to create imaginary stories all the time like this.


I appreciate your effort in writing this long tale.

[linka_pat307]

How do you know his life has been tough? Even if he is creating the story, you can't prove it and allow him enjoy the moment

[Asker]

Anonymous, I appreciate the empathetic response. Maybe the frequency of things happening isn’t a daily thing. But I’m squishing a lot of experiences into one post.

[Asker]

@linka_pat307 a lot of people think they know everything. Especially, if it makes them jealous.

Regardless of if someone’s lying. The idea that something may be real… makes them look at their own lives and feel jealous.

[Asker]

I will say it’s a double edged sword. When you’re attractive people tend to be really nice or really mean. There isn’t much in between.

I will say some women do tend to go out of their way to be bitchy. For some it’s because they feel like they would be rejected so they’re rejecting you before you can reject them.

When it comes to men. Some try to be douchy and prove something as if they’re the alpha.

[Asker]

Other men want to associate with you

[Asker]

@linka_pat307 I also rarely post stories like this. So the respondent may have me confused with another user on this website.

[Fireguy17]

same here, but I'm a strong 5ish maybe a 6 on a good day. 6' football player build, all upper body, being a truckie doesn't hurt the cause either.
But for me it isn't about my looks.
I make them laugh, I'm not full of myself, I smile a lot, they enjoy being with me, I never refer to them as chicks, and they feel safe with when they are with me.
For you it sounds like it is just based on your looks.
Enjoy it now, looks fade, dumb is forever.

[slatyb]

No, you should not. That's life. We all do the best we can with what we have. I was a mathematically gifted child and turned that talent into a well paid career writing software. There's no reason for me to feel guilty about my relatively easy life. I can choose to share my wealth with others less fortunate, and I do.

[Anonymous]

Welcome back from your account freeze. Sorry you wasted that time being hopelessly single and still not being able to do anything about it. Your blowup doll will always be loyal as long as you keep it inflated. Be sure to ask your therapist about your problems tomorrow.

[Asker]

Yeah and I’ve messaged GAG too who said I did nothing wrong

[Asker]

You’re the one posting non answers lol

[Asker]

Also, you seem like someone’s hurt you. You seem to have lots of bitterness inside. Maybe I can send you a new balloon doll with a blow up pecker.

That will help you out not being so lonley and bitter.

[Asker]

But this question also isn’t sexual…. And you’re making sexual comments. That’s weird.

[Asker]

lmfao….. your only blow jobs is going to be blowing your balloon and his inflated pecker up. 😂

[Flower7]

Why are the guys to claim to be really good-looking always posting as anonymous?

[Asker]

Why not? I mean technically you’re anonymous as in…. Probably not using your real name and you don’t have a profile photo.

See what I don’t understand is that. Non answers are a violation. However, people including former mods (even the strict power trip ones) are giving non answers.

I don’t know why it’s hard for people to not answer a question.

[Flower7]

I’m not bragging about my looks though. So my photo or identity doesn’t matter.

[FreyaRed]

" Psychologist told me I had the wonderland syndrome. That Wonderland isn't real, but I found wonderland so pretty and wonderful. When I wake up I miss that wonderland where I'm pretty, privileged and loved, I hate the real world."

[Nikki1989]

Thanks for the shits and giggles, dude.

[Asker]

Aren’t you a former mod? You know non answers are a violation

[Asker]

And you’re saying peope don’t do nice things for people they're attracted to?

[Chayce]

No. In this dog-eat-dog world are you going for the flank thats served to you or the gristle you might be able to get afterwards.

[MrChinaski]

You forgot the opening:

'Dear Playboy... '

[exitseven]

look- everyone is born with gifts. You are good looking. I would just enjoy the ride.(Pun Intended)

[ZoeKaratsioli]

Not really no because you shouldn't feel guilty for something that you cannot control.

[Anonymous]

Is there really question here?

[Asker]

Yes. Read it again

[beefcakebradybatson]

Welcome to the club, stud!!!

[Mariogirl09]

Thats good