If you and a girl stop talking for a extended period of time and she chooses to reach out, do I have to be friends if we weren't dating before?

[Anonymous]

[DishLady]

Girls love to talk. If they stop talking to you there’s a reason. That’s all I can say for sure. Friends status is then irrelevant.

[Asker]

Can you elaborate on what you mean?

[Summeroflove]

No. But you can go out with her unless you’ve lost interest

[Asker]

Can you elaborate on this?

[Summeroflove]

If she reaches out that she’s interested and you are…. Try a few dates take things slow. If you aren’t interested in her. Let her down easy but directly.

No I’m sorry either you’re with someone or you aren’t really looking for anything right now.

[Asker]

She doesn't reach out and says she is interested. She just reaches out

[Summeroflove]

Well she said what she said. That’s reaching our…. The balls in your court. What do you want to don

[Summeroflove]

*do

Smmsmsns

[Asker]

By the ball being in my court you mean I literally could ask her out if I'm interested?

[Summeroflove]

Well she said she’s interested. So yes.

[Asker]

No she didn't say she was interested. She just reached out

[Summeroflove]

What did she say

And yeah if you’re interested ask her out

[Asker]

Something neutral like hey how you been?

[Summeroflove]

I mean she’s reaching out for a reason. Yes, if you’re interested ask her.

She either will agree. Say no…. Or not give a direct response. If she doesn’t tell you directly at that point. It’s in her court

[Asker]

Okay. Say we didn't talk for months would it be too fast to ask her out the first day (not the first message) ?

[Summeroflove]

Just ask her. If you’re that interested and she’s messaging you. It’s a good sign

[Nikki1989]

The short answer is: No, you are never obligated to be friends with anyone but to choose to be the asshole—that is on you.