If you and a girl stopped talking for an extended period of time and she reaches out first, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

[Abbycado]

Talk to her.

[Asker]

About what? I don't see the point in chatting for the sake of chatting

[Abbycado]

Then don’t.

[Asker]

Is it a bad mindset waiting for her to ask me to hang out or is that on me to do?

[Abbycado]

You don’t even want to talk to her but are worried about her wanting to hang out? Wtf…

[Asker]

Never said I didn't want to talk to her. I said I didn't want to chat for the sake of chatting

[Abbycado]

🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[Asker]

What's the problem?

[HollyK21]

Just ask her to hang out. I don't know why you’re over complicating such a simple task.

[Asker]

Should I ask her on the first day she text me?

[HollyK21]

Sounds like that time has already come and gone since she already reached out. What the heck’s your problem? Why won’t you just initiate and ask her out?

[Asker]

She already initiated but before she did we haven't talked in some time. I didn't just want to come out and ask her to hang out

[HollyK21]

Well, while you’re busy procrastinating you’re missing your window because time is only passing. Then you say you don’t want to just chat for the sake of chatting, but you’re not talking to her at all. Have a conversation then ask her to hang out. You don’t need to make it so difficult she’s just a human being.

[Mike_Hum]

nothing. Let her rot.

[Asker]

Why?

[Mike_Hum]

cause she was boning other dudes in the interim and it fell through for her. Now you're the easy ego boost she's looking for.

[Asker]

Of course she probably was but she didn't ghost me. Things got messy so what is the harm in responding?

[Mike_Hum]

I mean if you have no self respect, go for it

[In_Trance]

You posted this already

[Chocolatetwopoint3]

I don't know answer?

[Asker]

Just chat with her?

[Chocolatetwopoint3]

what else would u do?

[Asker]

Ask her to hang out?

[Chocolatetwopoint3]

and what would u do then? chat with eachother stupid

[Asker]

What?

[Chocolatetwopoint3]

what dont u understand

[Asker]

I didn't understand your last response

[Chocolatetwopoint3]

whats the difference in chatting and hanging out, you’ll do the exact same thing either way

[Asker]

I know you have to chat to hang out but you made it seem like I should just chat with her for the sake of chatting

[Chocolatetwopoint3]

i dont get what else u would do

[Asker]

I don't want to chat for the sake of chatting

[Chocolatetwopoint3]

then what do u want to do? leave her alone if u want nothing to do with her.

[Asker]

It's not like that. I just want to get straight to it. Is it a bad mindset waiting for her to ask me to hang out or is that on me to do?

[Chocolatetwopoint3]

straight to it? u want sex or a relationship?

[Asker]

Get to know her

[Chocolatetwopoint3]

then chat with her? tf?

[zombiewoof]

Respond

[Asker]

Just chat for the sake of chatting?

[zombiewoof]

Sort of, they might have a reason for making contact, maybe not, find out why

[Asker]

Is it a bad mindset waiting for her to ask me to hang out or is that on me to do?

[zombiewoof]

You can if you want