Would you date someone who isn't specifically your "soul mate? Why/why not?

[DishLady]

[Summeroflove]

Well it’s fine to date peoppe. See if it will work but if you see no future. Don’t waste your time and especially don’t waste someone else’s.

I know that just because someone isn’t right for me. Doesn’t mean she’s not right for someone else… and doesn’t mean I should waste her time.

[exitseven]

She was the opposite of all the other girls I ever dated. She was a bartender who never went to college. She was not athletic and did not like going to the beach. I met her at a time when I was sick of dating and I suppose I was looking for a change.

Her whole life was all about drinking and partying. It was fun for a while until it wasn;t.

[DishLady]

Hmm. I hear you, though I’ve never had that.

[exitseven]

thanks for the MHO😎

[Little_Bumblebee]

Dating is to figure out whether it feels right to be with that person.
So the first couple of dates, or period of time, yeah, you cannot just instantly know.

But if it doesn't feel right, I wouldn't continue dating them.

[queenofcardio]

It would be hard for me to determine early on if someone is my soul mate. Currently, I would not date someone that I am not compatible with.

[HawkPerception]

No such thing as a soulmate. Just people that you have chemistry with and others you don't. There isn't just one person out there who might match you in the world.

However, I do have a pretty strict list of what I want in a girl, and I think it's pretty hard to find a girl like that for myself.

[Zack-Bann]

Everyone pretty much said it
The concept of a “soul mate” is dubious at best


The way I see it, back in the day people died young of all kinds diseases and perils
They also got married young and had kids
So you basically got one shot to get it right


Some people got with someone they’re very compatible with and others didn’t


Those who did called it their “soulmate” because it was unique and eternal


Now we live longer and date more.
So meeting someone you’re compatible with is not necessarily a unique thing


To answer the question itself.
The person I wanna date long term needs to be compatible with me to the point we wonder if we’re “soulmates” after all.


But I won’t turn down someone less so just in search for a perfect dance partner
Life is too short for that
As long as we have mutual attraction it’s worth a shot dating

[sawno]

Date yes, but its unlikely to make it to the relationship stage.
Dating is on the table because soulmates don't instantly reveal themselves, there will be interesting things about them but it will take a little to truly know for sure. When someone isn't the soul mate I can be quick to notice though, but I wouldn't want to dismiss someone up front when there is potential.

[ryanrhino]

You would at first, as I've never heard of soul mate at first sight.

Plus, you can date, but not seriously date, so enjoy the person and see if they're soul mate material.

[DishLady]

I'd know after the first date if we were going to be a thing or not. I feel that dating just for the heck of it is draining. I've never been into it.

[BonzoInBitburg]

No. First dates were always coffee shops. If I wasn't feeling it, there was no second date. The day I met my wife I knew I was going to marry her. The connection was next level.

[DishLady]

I like that. I’m the same.

[BadApple69]

What is a soul mate? And if the belief is that there is that 1 soulmate out there that’s perfect for you…. How could you possibly find them? 8 billion people in the world and your soul mate just happens to be at the same bar as you?
The truth is…. We can learn to love almost anyone given enough time.
The first thing that affects us is lust. Not love at first sight… lust at first sight.

[DishLady]

Just someone you have a deep connection with, who's company you don't tire of, whose company becomes as essential as the air you breathe.

There was someone I met who was like that. We clicked right away... and fell deep... but then there were a lot of crossed signals he didn't bother to correct and I backed away that last time he came forward.

[BadApple69]

How long were you two together?

[DishLady]

On-and-off a little over a year. There were too many people interfering and being odd.

[Joshydavid25]

Absolutely, because I don't believe in soul mates.. I believe that you either connect with people or you don't.. Throughout our lives we will have multiple people we have a great connect with, who also may share our values, and we're physically attracted to in one way or another. So basically you make the soul mate by your choices in people you really connect with..

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

Soul mates is a lie. They don't exist. If they did, you wouldn't find a new one every other month. The moment that interest changes, THAT person is suddenly the new Soul mate.

[DishLady]

No one finds a soul mate every other month…

But there ARE soul mates for sure. Sometimes just as friends who you can open up to, but the other type is also a substantial love. Perhaps you feel it’s a lie bc you haven’t found the person worthy of the title….

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

People throw that term around like a joke. Its used almost like a punch line to a bad joke. They have no clue what a real soul mate is. They marry a soul mate, then once they are bored, suddenly there is a new one that magically shows up.

I lost the only person I would ever give that label too 24 years ago to a drunk driver. Repeat offender that stacked DUI'S like trophies.

To this day, I've never met her equal and I wouldn't settle for anyone less. I loved her so completely, I have none left to give and still think of her daily.

I still say it doesn't exist. If it did, our dating, relationship and marriage statistics wouldn't be as abysmal as it is. If it did exist, it died with the dinosaurs.

[DishLady]

Oh, see. I would never bandy the term around like that. I saw the deepest, truest love in the world in my grandparents, so I know it's out there.

I'm incredibly sorry you had to survive such a loss. No, of course you'd never find the same thing. (Not to minimize it, but finding a soul mate is like finding that REALLY PERFECT resting position you never want to move out of... for a moment you're perfectly safe and comfortable. With a soul mate it's like your heart and soul have that perfect resting spot... I've witnessed it, otherwise I'd never believe if anyone told me that existed.)

You're right, people do take it very lightly, but those are people thinking with their lower half, not their souls. What can I tell you?

I hope God will bless you with finding someone who can at least bring your soul comfort. <3

[Spencer10]

Yes I would... maybe she would become my soul mate eventually... how would you know otherwise without a few dates?

[DishLady]

I mean once you know she’s not, would you still keep dating or just let her know it’s not working out?

[Spencer10]

Depends on what she would like as well... but its a fair comment. I would def communicate at some point... sooner rather than later that she is not "the one"... then discuss what happens next.

[Daytoday79]

Nope, because I want a soulmate. Call me picky but that's just me. For me it's all or nothing.

[WhitneySnow]

Sure. Everyone else is practice for meeting your soulmate. Plus dating is fun in a lowkey way.

[spartan55]

I don't believe in soul mates, so if they don't make the cut it's for other reasons.

[aquamarine321]

I don’t believe in soul mates, I’m not sure why invented that, I this word have most people on chock-hold, because of that relationship fails they’re no longer your soulmate and the cycle continues

[Zionne]

yes, because how would i know if he's my soulmate we won't try

[Staximus]

Of course, who is even dating their "soul mate" anyways?

[shortster]

Yes, dating is about finding out if you want to spend the rest of your life with them or not.

[Anonymous]

As long as she is my type of girl.

[dudeinohio]

Sure
The soul mate concept isn't true.