Would you let a guy date you knowing he's not serious about being with you (that he's just using you to learn how a proper boyfriend should be)?

[DishLady]

[Summeroflove]

I’m not into men…. But let’s assume it’s a woman. No…. Sorry. And besides there is no proper boyfriend or girlfriend. Everyone’s different.

What I want in a girlfriend isn’t necessarily what another man wants.

[ohsheeT]

You know, I kind of think that is honorable.\n And I think that the woman should say, Hey, you don't have to go about it this way. If you want to know something just ask

And then I would say, that was your first mistake.\nTo use me to get what you wanted.\n away
But somehow, I still think of it as being kind of honorable. I guess it depends on how far he would take it

[DishLady]

Just so you know, I didn't pick the MHO... I don't think it's honorable to use a woman.

[ohsheeT]

Of course. And I agree with you 100 % but the key words were

Would you let a guy date you knowing he not serious well of course not.

. and you dont have to date. To teach..

He picked that person for a reason.. it has nothing to do with dating because im sure he would have never got to date the person anyway

[DishLady]

I don't know if that makes sense. If a person makes time to be with you they're not doing it to "prep" you to go be with someone else. No one has time for that sort of bs. It's just... mean.

[ohsheeT]

Yes I agree that's what i meant about being honorable in a way... of course it's wrong in so many ways and know this . But to look at it deeper knowing that no girl would date a guy like this and no girl would take the time to help some guy learn anything

[DishLady]

You missed the part where she's not agreeing to be in this position. There's no honor in it. He's just using her.

[ohsheeT]

Yes I probably was reading the whole question wrong. I was reading it as if they new each other and she new that's why he was trying to date her

[Batwoman01]

This sounds bizarre lol. So, date a guy, so you can teach him how to be a good boyfriend... so he can go be a good boyfriend to someone else later? That sounds so messed up. I hope no self-respecting person would do that.

[DishLady]

Precisely. She should walk away once she notes what’s going on… that he’s not with her to be with HER. He’s messed for doing it in my opinion.

[queenofcardio]

I would have said yes if I was still in my late teen to early twenties years.

I wouldn't go for it at my current age because it seems like a waste of time.

[HawkPerception]

That is strange if anyone ever let someone do that. And the only way I can imagine it working is if there's no physical intimacy.

[DishLady]

Emotional intimacy takes more of a toll.

[MisterPandemonium]

Wait... are "practice girlfriends" a thing?

Kind of like a bicycle with training wheels? Except the bicycle is a girlfriend, and the training wheels are... umm... I guess she doesn't get mad at you if you do something wrong?

How long would a guy stick with his practice girlfriend? Is there an exam he has to take, before he can move on to the real thing?

[DishLady]

Don't be gross. I mean a guy is dating a woman but not taking her seriously, just dating to see what works in terms of dating a nice woman so he can then start fresh and do things correctly from the start with a different high-stakes woman.

[MisterPandemonium]

@DishLady Are you someone's practice girlfriend?

[DishLady]

Kid... watch it.

[MisterPandemonium]

@DishLady Well that's why you asked the question, isn't it? You're worried that the guy you're dating is using you for practice?

[Daytoday79]

No way. If I knew this about the guy --- it's a no brainer. A guy -- or any human being --- who isn't serious about someone -- would be a waste of anyone's time.

[DishLady]

Exactly

[stratford]

I'm super curious, what prompted you to ask this question? I'm really interested in your posts and the though process behind them.

[DishLady]

A guy was continually seeking out someone who is (1) very beloved in the community and (2) a professional coach. But though they had conversations about respectful behavior towards each other, he was disrespectful/dismissive towards her only to then use information from their conversation towards other women (in front of her), which (in my opinion) is cruel and unnecessary. If the guy wanted to be "trained" how to treat women he could have just hired her or had her refer him to someone.

[stratford]

This is all quite confusing. I would need to know what was actually said

[DishLady]

I wouldn't put it on an open forum.

[stratford]

No worries

[TwoDecisions]

Would I knowingly let someone use me? No...

[LiamS95]

I don't let any guys date me.

[DishLady]

😂😂😂 Well cheers to that, Liam.

[LiamS95]

Thank You!

[Unycorn]

No, wasted time for me. I would not meet him.

[Zionne]

naur just a waste of time

[spartan55]

Huh? Learn to be a proper huh?

[DishLady]

Sigh… read it again with your readers on.1

[spartan55]

I read it, don't get it.

[DishLady]

Scroll down to where @stratford is and you’ll perhaps see a bit more what’s going on.

[DishLady]

Nah, I call bs. He knew what he was doing.

[spartan55]

You don't know that.

[spartan55]

When did things unravel? As in it was clear no romantic thing was happening.

[Anonymous]

Of course not.

[Anonymous]

Dish lady my love i miss you where ya been? 🥹😘