Is someone’s clothing style a deal-breaker, a bonus, or irrelevant when dating?

Question

Does the way someone dresses affect how attracted you are to them? For example, if your style is minimal and neutral, would someone with a bold, expressive wardrobe feel exciting or incompatible to you? Or what if they have a very specific style like grunge, or bohemian?

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

The truth is, for me it's a pretty big factor. It's not shallow either. The way a person dresses reflects their personality. It's also an aesthetic factor. Ideally, my partner would be very feminine, wearing dresses and flowy clothing often. It would be a mix of boho and classy/elegant.

If a girl wears designer brand clothing, shows a lot of skin, wears ugly urban clothing, tomyish clothing, goth, or bougie stuff, I find they tend to have a certain kind of personality I actively try to avoid. Materialistic, promiscuous, liberal, masculine, rebellious, attention-seeking, misandrist, etc.

The clothes you wear speak volumes about you. For guys too. Let's say they say they "don't care about what clothes they wear". That's also a kind of personality. That's a guy who doesn't care about aesthetic or looking good for himself or his partner. The only times he'll try a little bit are when you push him to with much effort or when it's big occasion.

I personally like trying to look decent on the regular.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Just about everyday every other day I make a living getting dirty.
If I date a girl I do it because i like her of course you would like st see her wear a style that looks good on her.

But the clothes dont change who she is on the inside.

And sometimes I different makes me smile bring me back to earth. And makes me think.

If I like who she is on the inside. That's all that counts

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Let's face it - some people just don't know how to dress themselves and make it work for them. They'll even admit it.
If they need someone to go clothes shopping for them and help them to look nice and they like what I picked out, then why not give them some assistance? They would probably like to have their own person fashion designer help them pick out some clothes they like and feel good wearing them.

Now I would never be with a guy who dressed like a flamer! That would be a deal breaker for me. I like to blend in.

Of course it's really what's on the inside that counts, but a person can be good on the inside and the outside.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't say it's a DEAL BREAKER, however it's a good indicator of whether or not you have similar taste.

Summeroflove · Answer

It depends. If they’re wearing obviously revealing clothing…. It is. Otherwise, not really. It’s attractive too when a woman can really rock anything she wears. Effortlessly able to change styles and is confident in herself. Not to say that I can’t love a woman whose insecure, we all are in ways.

But not someone who negatively takes it out on others.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

If they dress weird and are quite radical about it, that might be a detriment but, if it's just the way they prefer to dress, probably no big deal. Weird is different and different is fine, as long as you're not making a huge issue out of it.
If a girl has pink hair and someone asks her why and she goes off on a raging political tirade about why she has pink hair, that's a big fucking problem! If she's got pink hair and someone asks her why and she says, "I just felt like having pink hair for a while.", that's cool.

dragoblack · Answer

It's not super important... unless it looks like they can't dress themselves... doesn't mean i won't mentally critique about color-blending, color/clashing, textiles, or picking colors that absolutely clash with their body's skintone, hair, & eye-color.

jshm2 · Answer

Sure it is. If they have no sense of style, then they have no sense of self. If they dress like a 12 year old, then mentally they are going to be no better.

Likewise if they dress like a whore... well that can work out if you're just after a hookup.

But clothes are expressions as much as language is. Its why you "dress professional" at work even if you're going to sit in front of a screen like you do at home.

HighValue · Answer

It does affect how attracted I am to her. I don't like ripped jeans or plaid clothing on women at all. Most things are neutral to me, but if she wears those silky shiny athletic clothes, I like that a lot and it can increase her attractiveness to me by a couple points, as long as she was at least a 5 to begin with.

queenofcardio · Answer

It's definitely relevant. I find it so awkward when guys wear tight fitting clothing or those super short shorts.  I could probably get over it depending on how much I like him

AgentG111 · Answer

If it's extremely wild or expensive then I would most likely not really want to continue to engage with that person as they are most likely self absorbed.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It can be a dealbreaker.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

As long as it suits them I'm happy. I've gone out with a gal or two who had some pretty far out taste. A couple who dressed in my opinion more classy style and the rest were pretty normal. Maybe just some unique flair.

OneViewpoint · Answer

I don't necessarily care about dictating your style. But have some sense of style. Be aware what looks good on you, and what doesn't. Show some effort. It will make me take notice.

Unycorn · Answer

I dress different if I met someone sporty or more serious. But I would never dress in jogging pants when I leave the flat. Never ever.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I guess only the extremes, if she was an absolute slob, or if she was always overdressed. But 99% of the time as men We don't give a shit. If she's hot especially

alice55 · Answer

Irrevelant I don't care for it and in the end it's just clothes so it can be easily changed if it's really horrible

AydenHazor · Answer

While I can appreciate their clothing style, regardless of if what it is, overall it is irrelevant compared to their personality and their heart.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

At base level it's nude coverings that are accentuated by creativity and flair. Not just Ric Flair either!

OneNisa · Answer

It reflects a person's clothing style, personality, and character.

MicahRaine · Answer

I’d say bonus or irrelevant, and only a dealbreaker if they won’t be/desire to not be presentable.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I guess it’s a bonus. It’s nice but not vital.

jazzy34 · Answer

Irrelevant. As long as they're not sloppy, unkempt, or dirty, I don't care how people dress.

DonaldDarko · Answer

Not all that much unless you have "ICE out" and hammer and sickle pins all over.

loveslongnails · Answer

It's mostly irrelevant. I doubt I would be attracted to someone who dressed to such an extreme.

Shiprex · Answer

Not that big a deal unless it's a major part of their character..

Phoenix98 · Answer

Overall I'd probably say no at least that hasn't really been the case in the past.

msc545 · Answer

Unless it looks like they're dressing like a Mormon wife from the 1800s, their clothing doesn't matter to me.

EFC1023 · Answer

I am simple lol I would prefer some thin cotton pjs, worn out jeans, t shirt and sweatshirts over expensive clothes on a lady. I don't know why but I’ve always been like that

appitskaii · Answer

as long as I'm able to wear pants that show my butt or something that shows my breasts a little than I'm okay

Anonymous · Answer

Irrelevant, there’s certainly things I don’t find particularly attractive on men , but I’m not usually strict on stuff

aceleon · Answer

you are what you wear.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Style and class are appreciated. 🙂

exitseven · Answer

mostly irrelevant unless she dresses like a hoe.

WonderingManII · Answer

It depends. I prefer a woman to dress nice.

Bloodparadise · Answer

I love men who dress well 🙂

onecuriousguy2454 · Answer

I think so yes

CubaPirate · Answer

It really can be any of the above

MasterKS · Answer

It reflects her personality so its important.

Zionne · Answer

for some peeps, yes.

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