Why do I have to do it myself with dating and get no assistance from meet & great when I got help from them and it didn't work?

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman with learning disabilities. I got more than one type of anxiety disorder. I have struggled with both friendships and previous ex relationships. I got 9 ex boyfriend. But when I did go to social events like Meet & greet , it didn't work out for me and some learning disabilities can go very fast and get into relationships and it was also a massive turn off for me. That was what happened to my last crush but he was fading away. The crush Just made me more frustrated and only got some friends. I'm feeling very frustrated about not getting what I wanted in a long-term relationship but now I have to change my mind and focus on my hobbies and myself more. I'm not bothered about relationships. I decide to start introducing myself to different people and guys at a gaming charity for both disability & learning disabilities. One of the guys did introduce himself while on the chair next to me while I was playing on the xbox game pass section of one of the xbox. Why do I have to do it myself with dating and get assistance from Meet & Great charity LD when I got help from them and it didn't work?

[ohsheeT]

This is when you have to just stop doing everything

Sit down by yourself write down all the good things about you

Then write down all the things you need to work on but you have to be 100% honest with yourself. If your not then it's a waste of time and energy

You have to truly know who you are everything about you. you need to know the good and the bad and understand it

While your taking this break really work on loving your self
Because when you truly love yourself and know yourself

That when you find you have boundaries. And when your with someone if they dont love you as much as you love yourself it will never work.

If they dont respect you as much as you respect yourself it will never work

If they can't treat you as good as you treat yourself it will never work

So in order for you to find that right person then need to know who the are if they dont it will never work.

You can't just jump in to something just because some starts talking to you and you want to be with someone..

Because if you do and you do it know knowing all the above .. it might work out for a few weeks but then your realize you both made a mistake.

Sometimes if you get lucky and the guy is really in to you he might understand that he's blowing it or he wants the same as you and will work on himself..

But that might be 2 out of 100 guys.

[Asker]

Just because I don't love myself and I already do love myself. i just have Confident issue and Mental health issue. I'm not yet having sex with any previous ex bfs. I keep having bad experiences with both friendships and relationships. Not sure what you are on about. I already have been writing things down for my apps on my phone.