Is online dating for losers, and if so, am I a loser because I cannot get a date the "normal way"

[Anonymous]

Okay, my belief with online dating is that unless you are a busy professional over the age of 25 then you shouldn't do online dating. Sadly I know people in college who are doing this, and well they ain't the brightest of the bunch. One has epilepsy and is basically a dirty old redneck (his room is disgusting), and the other girl has had a stroke when she was young which caused her to lose muscle tone in her left arm. Anyway both have tried online dating, and both have either met creeps, or the dates thought they were creepy. Anyway some have told me I should and I tell them hell no since I'm 21 year old and go to college, I'll meet someone here. Even if I've never had a date before. But if I tried it, would I be a loser, because it seems like only losers try online dating, at least under age 25

[hotsaucecookie]

Okay here we go. The true losers are the one-dimensional, small/narrow-minded lemmings who truly believe that they're superior to others who date online. They think "in real life" and don't get that online dating is real life. I've met and dated more women offline than on, and the delusional loser I assure ya exists everywhere. Why? Because people are people. People who date online are actually just people with computers! Just want to make that clear to anybody who's on the fence about that one. And as far as I know, there was only ever one person who flew over the cuckoo's nest. So unless you're Jesus how about keeping your misguided judgments to yourself. Give me the broken, the damaged and socially awkward yet true to themselves long before the cardboard cookie cutter cutout who cares mostly about appearances for society's sake, the watch I wear or my friend count on Facebook. It's funny that so many of these people who play according to the rules doing exactly what they were told end up loathing who the end up with eventually. Far too far gone to turn back they're stuck forever. If they grow the balls to leave they go through the Hell that is divorce and you'll probably even throw kids into the equation. They might have one the game on this planet and had some success because of that but they're not really happy. I'm actually more attracted to someone that doesn't fit in to the mold. It usually a sign of intelligence, a rarity. Getting along in a society like this isn't an admirable quality, It's a sign of fear and normalcy. So for the ones that think they're above online dating but are unhappy in their own lives cause they lived somebody else's dream, you and your significant other have most like peaked. Ya peaked. That's usually what happens when you meet someone in high school, college, work or a friend that hooked ya up. On the other hand if you're happy and open-minded more power to you. Don't let people knock you off course cause they lack brains.

[hotsaucecookie]

*won...

[3rdalbum]

Online dating doesn't have to cost you anything - and if you sign up for some paid dating sites, it doesn't cost much. And you might find the love of your life.

Listen, I went to college (university) and there were heaps of girls there. But none of them were simultaneously interested in me AND have me interested in them. In the end I've found a girlfriend online, and she definitely didn't go to my university.

Other people might not have any luck online, but it's all about maximizing your opportunity and your chances. Think of online dating as increasing your chances of success by 20%.

[Anonymous]

I think it's a perspective thing. with the internet and technology growing day by day - Online dating has or starting to become something more normal. But It depends on one's culture and how they are brought up. As an Asian decent. My parents or family would never agree with online dating.

answering your questions - is it for losers? um -- no because there are people that are unsocial or less social so it makes it harder for them to look for a date and so online dating is their advantage. And even if you are under 25 and going to college. Depending on what type of college you go to - it might not be easy. like if you go to a community college the majorities their aren't like young - some are rather old and some don't take it seriously and you got the ones that want to transfer but it might hard to fish them out or like met them. (that is assuming you are looking for someone that wants goals and go somewhere in life)

and if you go to a state school or university -- people there are mostly aiming to do one thing -- Graduate and have prestigious goals for their future meaning they are or could be constantly studying and reading - so it would leave them less time to socialize with new people and only hang out with the friends they originally have.

So online dating isn't necessary a bad thing or for losers- but I guess a tip is that if you wish to try it - a good profile and like be careful of people online - most might deceive you. sorry I think I might have um - went off topic. hehhe.

[Anonymous]

With online dating, don't join the free sites. Actually shell out the money. When someone has to pay for a dating service, it usually means that they're more serious about finding a relationship. And of course there are a lot of risks involved because you don't know the person at all or what they could be hiding from you. It's best to meet people through friends if you're unable to find a date yourself.

[OrallyFixated]

I agree, online dating does not make you a loser. I think it helps you get to know a person a little better before you even meet them. You will already know some likes and dislikes, so you get a bit of a jump start. I say give it a try, good luck.

[shery274]

This is a good answer. Especially for those people who have difficulties socializing with "real" people. They have some stuff to talk to each other about since they have talked online already.

[Bvroon]

This is ridiculous, would you consider yourself a "loser" if you used a cell phone, or a TV remote or a car for that matter? Online dating is just making use of technology, besides it's a sign of intelligence, in that you know obviously how to use a computer, and it's my understanding that women actually seek out men that are intelligent, besides that if you have had successes with online dating. Granted not everybody you meet online will be smart as you indicated above, but this would be true if you went out and met people off-line as it were. Give it a try, see what happens. I met my wife online and I have no regrets. I hope everything works out for you.

[Asker]

It just seems on both sides that their are losers, those looking, and those already online, I know there are a lot of good people out there, its just I feel that in college I'm in a place with 2000 girls and this is the most likely place to find them

[Blackkid]

Online dating is no different than "regular dating" in the sense that it's just using a different medium to acquire the same goal. Telephone dating, picture dating, and dating by mail have been in practice for years and years. You are not a loser or anything negative because you choose to date online; your best matches probably don't live closest to you.

The fact that people fail in dating is universal, and the internet doesn't increase your odds of failure either. Normal people who are in their 20's are fine with online dating and many succeed because they were smart about it, but just as you can be dumb about it offline you can be online.

[Asker]

But its the fact that I'm in college, I mean there are 2000 women in one small area, why should I have to do online dating. Now if I'm working and don't have time to socialize, yes then it's okay

[Middleman]

I loved your comments...almost sounded like you were telling a joke!

About online dating, no I don't think it is for losers. I know plenty of people amongst my friends who have got together via online so, it is absolutely fine to use.

[wanacot]

No online dating is not for losers. That may have been the stereotype 5 years ago, but certainly not today. There is no harm in trying it and seeing how it goes.

[Reeses-pieces777]

you're not a loser. my friend dated a guy she met online, and he was pretty decent, he had a good job and he helped her with school.