What is an ok age gap in a relationship?

Question

Oky little sister came to me today and asked if it was ok for a 17 year old to like a 15 year old and for them to date. Honestly I wasn't sure. I think so but I don't know is it?

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Yes, it's completely fine. 15-17 is around the age when puberty ends for girls and 16-17 for boys. And the older you get, the less age matters. As an example, a 50 year old would not have any issues dating a 30 year old. Some date even larger age differences.

As long as there is mutual attraction and consent on both sides, I see absolutely wrong with it. It's only younger kids that tend to have a very closed mind when it comes to age gaps and that's because for many years in their lives, they're only surrounded with people around their age. Once they start experiencing life more and going out into the world, they start to realize age doesn't matter.

SamIam96 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't frame this as an age question. What's important is life experiences.

If they're both in high school, it's fine. If one graduated and is working for a livng and the other is still a HS student, it's a little creepy. If one is in college and the other HS, creepy. It gets much more creepy when there's a bigger gap. A HS freshman and college senior would be very, very creepy. Even HS freshman and HS senior would be creepy. The freshman is just figuring out what it means to be in HS. The senior is completely comfortable in the school and is planning their after graduation life.

MissSunshine2 · Accepted Answer

Yes it is. I am much older than all of you, I am late thirties and currently interested in a guy that’s 5 years younger. I stick to dating up to 5 years older or five years younger, but at a seventeen year old’s age, I advise no younger than fifteen and no older than nineteen to date, until you’re eighteen, then up to two years younger or four years older.

itsnaoxornever · Accepted Answer

as long as they respect each others boundaries it should be fine

AviatorTom · Answer

Whatever age gap works for the couple.

As I've pointed out many times, my father was 30 years older than my mother. They had a long happy marriage (40 years), producing two kids (my older sister and me) that only ended when my father died.

Anonymous · Answer

A 17-year-old and a 15-year-old dating is generally fine, especially if they are in high school together. The most important thing is that the relationship is respectful, safe, and consensual.

Advice to Give Your Sister

"Take it Slow": Advise her not to rush into anything serious or sexual.

"Keep it Public": A healthy relationship should be out in the open, not hidden from parents or friends.

"Check Your Comfort": She should feel safe, heard, and equal to her partner.

RavVid · Answer

Most places have Romeo and Juliet clauses in age of consent law. Technically we have to say check your local Crimes Act.

There are young 15 & 17 yo's and old 15 & 17 yo's. So in practice I think it depends on if they are matching in maturity and if they are mature enough absolutely for adult relations.

Do you think your sister is mature enough?

slatyb · Answer

Does dating include sex? Are they treating each other as equals?

I don't have a big objection to teenage sex if it's done responsibly -- the girls is on BC and they use condoms. However, in many parts of the world it is illegal to have sex with a 15-year-old, or it may depend on the age difference. If they are planning to have sex, they should check the laws where they live.

majesticwhale · Answer

I think it’s what ever your comfortable with but be advised you will be judged so you might as well be happy me and my wife are 11 years apart and we have grown on each other but she is so much mature than her age. If that’s your person just make sure your legally doing it right ya dig.

BCRanger10 · Answer

That young, I might be a little hesitant. Age gaps are less important as you get older. I'm six years older than my wife.

Purpleronnie · Answer

The best answer I can give to this is if you have to consider the age difference At all …. It’s  too  much

MisterPandemonium · Answer

Two years doesn't seem like much of a gap at all. They might be only one grade apart. It seems fine to me.

Berethor · Answer

There is the romeo and juliet law, 17 year old will not get arrested if they so close in age.

LiamS95 · Answer

Anything you're comfortable with. I had an Aunt and Uncle and she was 12 years older then him. They had a long and very loving married relationship.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

An okay age gap for adults might not be okay for teens. When I was a kid I thought the kids a year older than me were adults.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Two years isn't a problem its when you get 10 years or over thats a problem

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't pursue anything larger than a 10 year age gap.

EFC1023 · Answer

Quoting Tom from parks and rec it’s half your age plus 7 lol

Hannahkating · Answer

It's really about the maturity.15 and 17 are on different levels of it. I see it as wrong

Aubrey97 · Answer

Two years isn't a big deal

aceleon · Answer

it is just 2 year for fuck sake woman.

lilBigPotato · Answer

2 years is nothing.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Yeah its fine.

exitseven · Answer

I always figured it was 10 years.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Of legal age: whatever works for them.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Any if the partner's of age.

Bloodparadise · Answer

About 20 years 😊

MereAnarchy · Answer

Laws regulate %^&$ing, not dating.

Subtle_Luminescence · Answer

2 years is nothing.

Anonymous · Answer

Different gaps for different chaps

blackeagle007 · Answer

Same age

Hsrdonme · Answer

nothing wrong

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