How do I help this guy I like to ease his fears of commitment?

[MissSunshine2]

It turns out after a year of mixed messages that he likes me but he’s scared of losing his independence if he ends up dating me. I’m slightly needy from abandonment issues, but I am not possessive or jealous. I like my own space, too.

Updates

5 mo

This is an entirely new situation for me. I’m autistic and I could do with some guidance, as I lack the instincts of knowing how to respond.

[Nikki1989]

He will never be ready for a serious relationship. Some never are, which is why they struggle with it. Even worse is some are too delusional to see it.

[WhitneySnow]

Tell him the truth about how you feel. That will reassure him.

[slatyb]

Hmmm... sounds like an immature waste of time. Has he ever dated anyone?

[MissSunshine2]

He’s apparently had a few relationships, late in life and he’s autistic, too

[slatyb]

How many years are you willing to wait?

[MissSunshine2]

Good point 😊

[serious]

This can only happen with discussions.

[Staximus]

Is this a guy you see in real life, or just some guy far away who you talk to on the phone or online?

[MissSunshine2]

A guy I’m friends with

[MissSunshine2]

In real life

[Staximus]

How long are you going to wait for this bozo? Until you're ready to retire? Tell him to quit screwing around or take a hike

[Staximus]

Time to get serious or get lost

[Staximus]

I meant "tell him to get serious or get lost"

[MissSunshine2]

Good point👍

[Pterodon]

This is stupid. He’s full of shit. No such thing as fear of commitment. When Miss Right comes along all his fears will magically disappear

[jahaims]

It's a lost cause. If he is around your age and hasn't matured yet he won't be a mature person

[Fʊʟʟʍօօn]

Be yourself, be who you are..

[Anonymous]

Why do u like him

[onecuriousguy2454]

Dont try to change people