Is a perfectly compatible match boring or is that the goal?

[HawkPerception]

Boring

The goal

[RandomGirl42]

A perfectly compatible match, as in, we are alike and feel the same about stuff, would be horrible for me since I tend to be so dreamy sometimes and need someone to ground me. We are compatible as in liking the same activities like camping, etc. which I think is important. If any of that made sense.

[HawkPerception]

Definitely made sense

[RandomGirl42]

Ty for the MHO 😊

[queenofcardio]

Ohh trust me I am not boring. The goal is to be with someone compatible. We can do fun things together

[AviatorTom]

First off, I don't think there is any such thing as "the perfect match".

If there were, it would be boring. What's better than makeup sex after a heated argument? In a perfect match there would be no arguing.

[Purpleronnie]

Instant perfect compatibility is the stuff of trashy romance novels and Disney movies , it’s an ideal , completely un-attainable and unrealistic … the sad thing is that there are actually adults out there who expect it !


No two people stay the same and why would we expect or want them to. The guy or girl you think you want or need changes throughout your life Your true love will grow with you by always choosing you and not just when it’s all sunshine and rainbows but when it’s hard and you feel like you have nothing and you want to give up.

[Persephone02]

I'm a very boring person so for me it's perfect and therefore the goal. I don't want much from a partner other than shared values and interests. If we perfectly align then that's great for me. I don't want a partner where we hardly have anything in common.

[HawkPerception]

Agreed entirely

[sawno]

I've been with a girl like that, it was incredible. Its my hope to have that again.

[Shrimpenjoyer]

How come you still not with her then?

[sawno]

@Shrimpenjoyer Long distance with lockdowns is basically impossible to maintain. Couldn't migrate in time before the long distance became an issue.

[HawkPerception]

@sawno Sucks it worked out like that man. But is she spoken for now? If not, why not try reaching out and expressing exactly what you said here? Obviously, I'm not trying to say I know your scenario

[sawno]

she's currently with someone local so we agreed not to have contact since we both find it unfair to other partners to maintain contact with each other. Were highly compatible ex's after all and if I was him I wouldn't feel secure if she maintained that. But we do have an agreement to have contact when both single. She's the kinda person to actually do that.

[HawkPerception]

@sawno Sounds like you're both mature and know exactly how to handle relationships well. I hope that she does become single again then. Would love for that happy ever after to happen.

[HawkPerception]

@sawno My guess, by the fact that you guys even have that mutual agreement, means there's a high chance you'll get back together. It means you're always in the back of her head due to the fact that she even sees it as an option while being in a relationship. Just my guess though

[sawno]

I wouldn't put it that far of course. It doesn't mean she will come running back instantly when their relationship is over or that I am constantly on her mind. The possibility isn't 0, but if she found in him what she loves then there won't be a chance. She is a very loyal girl and she would never risk a healthy relationship for a long distance.

[MissSunshine2]

No one is perfectly compatible because life isn’t a movie. Someone you have a slow burning relationship that has a solid friendship foundation it’s built on is a healthy, adult relationship.

[MikeMcMansion]

If anyone thinks its boring they are apathetic or in need of some other channel to get their rushes and stimulation from. Like base jumping or scuba diving for instance

[MikeMcMansion]

(its statistically safer and cheaper in the long run)

[exitseven]

it is the goal. people say that opposite attract. That is true but after a while if there is no common factors it will be a pretty bumpy relationship.

[Zack-Bann]

If it’s boring then it’s not the perfect match that’s how I see it

[Berethor]

I don't think I ever find a perfectly compatible match, but it nice of a theoretical level.

[serious]

That is obviously the goal.

[blackeagle007]

Dating should have some mystery