Does monogamy eventually get boring?

[Anonymous]

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What is love?

Intimacy,

Passion

and the COMMITMENT.

My ex-fiance once told me he was scared that I would break his heart, because he thought I could be a heartbreaker

I told him

“I promise to love you and even if I ever feel like hurting you, I’ll hurt myself over you. I promise to never break your heart and stay by your side until we die or until you break mine.”

I kept my word.

I have met lots of wonderful men, but I have never thought of anyone but him while we were in a relationship and my live was probably a bit too altruistic because I ended up being very hurt, but I feel good with myself knowing that I kept the promise I gave him and never hurt him.

Monogamy might not be our most primal characteristic, that’s why we need commitment as an integral part of what makes LOVE.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I was the life of the party, party queen and a flirt before I met him, I would never imagine I’d end up being that loyal actually.

But I ended up being loyal and committed. Not because he was the sexiest man in the world, but because he was MY man.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That though was something that ended up being a mistake. He trusted me so much, he knew the depth of my loyalty so well that at some point, he realized I would be there no matter what and he started taking me for granted.

[DaySpring]

I didn't read your comment long. And you mean well but you're ignorant. "I promise to love you and even if I ever feel like hurting you, I'll hurt myself over you." That's not realistic. That's not how the subconscious works. If your subconscious is promoting some behavior strong enough and you've never been taught self control and about the mind and what it does... There is no way you can guarantee that. You kept your word because your subconscious never promoted you doing something strongly enough for you to act on it.

He didn't start taking you for granted because you were loyal... You sound cynical. He messed up because he lacked awareness or self control. It always comes down to those 2 things. He isn't perfect and nor you. You don't sound like you have commitment at all. Sounds like you two broke up and that you two just gave up. You don't just let go of your vision because you fell down. You don't even sound like you understand why it failed. You think it is because he is evil or something lol. As if you made it too easy and so he did that... No that's not why. You are not in charge of controlling his mind. That's what it sounds like you want. You want him so scared you'll leave that he submits to you out of fear.

[kylee2437]

Only if two people ignore each others needs to the max. It seems that way because people get too comfortable in relationships and stop putting into the relationship what made it great in the first place

[smilelots]

Yes, relationships are a lot of work. Sex is fun but there’s lots of work to do to get to that part so communication is the key the desire to make one happy and yourself just takes imagination and a little bit of time.

[AviatorTom]

To be fair, yes, monogamy sometimes does get boring. In a good relationship, though, the partners work together to get through the boring times. Liven it up sometimes.

[OlderAndWiser]

All relationships get boring. . . if you allow that to happen. This doesn't mean that polygamy or open marriage is the answer.

[coachTanthony]

Monogamy is the worst. It's like having cheerios every morning when you are craving some Coco pebbles (wink)

[CrypticMoon]

Nope. I'm always happy to get off work and see my husband, and he feels the same. 6 years in so far and I have absolutely no desire for anyone else. If I did, I'd speak to my husband about options. But honestly, communication and positive growth with your spouse doesn't make monogamy feel so suffocating.

[smilelots]

I agree with you. Communication is the key honest communication enjoy

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah eventually, as unfortunately our human minds get bored when something is too comfortable.. Keyword "Comfortable".. If people get too comfortable, then they get bored.. If couples are devoted to one another and keep the spark going, then the relationship won't get boring..

[smilelots]

Only if you let it, there are lots of things a couple can do to keep things interesting and fun and for the most part, he just have to enjoy each other if you’re in love, and truly enjoy the person you’re with all of that will take care of itself and good communication is the key

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, but being single or around others that aren't likeminded gets boring.

The main reason I want a wife is to never be bored ever again. Its one reason why she has to share my hobbies, interests, and talents, so I always have someone to do fun stuff with.

[Jersey2]

It hasn’t for me. We have been together over 3 decades and its a blast the majority of the time. Pussy is pussy, they all feel the same, I’ll keep what I have as its fantastic and I don’t have to deal with the morons, nutjobs, unstable, control freaks and other negative types. F that.

[provokeesmokee]

Not necessarily. There's plenty of long lasting monogamous relationships.

There's so many ways to spice things up without breaking monogamy.

That said, monogamy isn't for everyone and that's okay too.

[OfMiceandMen]

It is what you make it.

I'm sure Polygamy can get boring after awhile too, it would become routine with the same people.

So would one night stands. Do anything over and over again and it can become boring.

[Anonymous]

Sexually it can get a little boring. I've seen some men that in theory, I'd love to have sex with. But my partner and I have been together for nearly 5 years, I wouldn't fuck someone else because I love him.

[havingfun2023]

Do you wonder is the secret that, other couples burn out from too much too faster, and before year 1 of the relationship, they're already bored as you mentioned? 👀👀

[havingfun2023]

Maybe couples should've paced themselves at once a week or once a month lol 😁😆

[Opinion Owner]

@havingfun2023 I don't completely understand the question, but me and my boyfriend have sex maybe 2 or 3 times a week... more if I'm drunk. I don't think too much sex is what spoils a relationship half the time

[havingfun2023]

I meant the boredom of being overly-used to each other physically romantically could be lol why the boredom starts lol. Good to know though you're no cheater, have an awesome day 🥳

[havingfun2023]

I'd also wonder how couples spice things up as I wouldn't be sexually adventurist with any girlfriend of mine if I had one let alone wife. I'm a boring soul lol. It's probably why I'm still single so long. Lol peace ✌🏻😉😁

[Opinion Owner]

@havingfun2023 could be. ah yeah you'd need to find someone as equally non-adventurous, we do try to keep things interesting to a degree. On valentines day we had sex in the woods, I give him random blowjobs, wear lingerie and have sex in the car, etc.

[havingfun2023]

Fair enough. Doesn't sound like my type of cake, well, have a good day, and here's to hoping you two last the distance. Anyways, peace ✌🏻👀

[havingfun2023]

Anyways, I wouldn't like working in the divorce industry or couple therapies industries. Have a good day ☺️

[havingfun2023]

Opinion Owner, attraction probably also plays a role too. E. g. did couples settle for less than they desired looks, average looks, or above average looks 👀 and how aging over time. Lol. I'd like to think sometimes that couples who settled for less, lol. Or couples who are hot but easily lose that hotness with aging and start to sag/gain weight/lose hair, whether they also factor in lol 👿😈 anyways cya ☺️

[havingfun2023]

Glad I'm single, peace out 😊😀 ✌🏻☮️☮️☮️🤣😅

[MikeTheBartender]

Is the sky ever blue? Of course it gets boring but so does random babes night after night. It's more who you are and what you want than anything else. If you want long term bonding and love, there's gonna be some boredom.

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, it DOES take a VERY long time to play that game! We usually end up quitting before the game actually ends. Then it becomes a bored board game.

[Bricealan]

Yes. I wanted to fuck my girlfriend's mother, and my best friends, mother, and all of his sisters and his SO.

[Sonorous]

jEsUs cHriSt

[Bricealan]

@Sonorous Just bullshitting, of course 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[exitseven]

Sometimes but i found that dating multiple people was worse.

[Lady_Heart]

Nope, if that one isn't working n tried a lot to save it then better to leave that do other shits. Move on n find the one

[smilelots]

Are you saying it’s better to move on in a relationship because the sex has become boring or because the two people that are involved don’t make the attempt I believe if it’s worth fighting for you do everything you can communication from the very beginning is the key to having a much better relationship in my opinion you talk about things that you want things that you desire things that you might not think your partner would be interested in and vice versa and always be willing to be adventurous to try something new as long as nobody gets hurt Is a good thing you don’t always eat the same meal every day right you don’t always wear the same clothes you don’t always go to the same movies

[Anonymous]

Life in itself can get boring after a while. But no, monogamy doesn't have to get boring ever. But it has to be a conscious choice on both partners part to keep it crackin. One person alone cannot do this.

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

It's waste of time... u only need one loyal women that's it.. multiple girls is waste of time yes it's fun ur focus should be on raising good kids , having healthy family

[Dargil]

It gets familiar, but that is not monotonous. Monogamy is stabilizing for men.

[Cubus]

The whole case of relationship is to have new and new goals to aim. If you set new goals from time to time, you won't get bored.

[Lokiion]

I mean I guess at times it can but dating multiple people is just more work and overall bot worth it

[007kingifrit]

yes but boring isn't bad, boring means familiar and safe and calm. which are things you will want as you get older

[Kristierose]

I think that being open and express your feelings about having a other person join us in bed together is such a erotic naughty thing to explore with your partner

[Anonymous]

This is why I've always preferred sex with a friends with benefits over monogamous relationship sex.

[Twalli]

Not if you also respect the person you're with.

[havingfun2023]

I'd wonder that too 🤔🧐

[havingfun2023]

If it were not for the STDs, cancers and other sexually diseases 😄 plus infections, plus HPV causing eventual type cancers, or worse 😀

[WhitneySnow]

Sometimes, but the good parts are magical

[sheikalana]

Never got boring to me.

[Minahh]

If you're a narcissist it surely does

[LiamJHayden]

Not with the right person.

[KrakenAttackin]

Not if you are with the right person.

[jahaims]

Nope, gets better unless you are lazy

[Anonymous]

Not if you like to be monogamous

[managerofnothing]

sometimes its boring

[blairbear99]

Probably

[Longshanks1968]

Absolutely

[dudeinohio]

Nope