Do you think every marriage ends in monotony?

[red-lipstick-girl]

Even if I marry a man I love very much, will my life become monotonous after years? Will love become boring?

[Sangita93]

In our Indian Hindu Traditional Culture, marriage is based on trust and loyalty, lasting for seven generations, and both the partners never do anything sexual outside marriage. So, there is no question of having sex with anybody outside marriage. Are you talking about monotony in sexual pleasure? No, it is not inevitable that every marriage ends in monotony in that sense too. Some couples experience a transition from the initial excitement of the "honeymoon phase" to a more stable routine, the relationship does not become boring or bland. With time they find out more ways to enjoy, more pleasant positions and became shameless in expressing their desire and feelings – in close doors of bedroom. Monotony usually stems from a lack of effort, poor communication, or unrealistic expectations, not from the marriage itself or family-oriented life. Most long-married couples enjoy each other still being deeply in love, enjoying each other's company, and actively finding new ways to connect and share experiences.

Loss of novelty is main reason of the natural fading of the initial infatuation and it can lead some to believe that the love is gone, when in fact it is simply evolving into a deeper, more mature love. For most couples, stability is a pleasant comfort. Work stress, financial issues, and the demands of raising a family can overshadow the relationship, making quality time difficult to find, but there are some easy escapes from it. Ultimately, a marriage is what the couple makes of it. With mutual respect, intentional effort, and a commitment to growth, the relationship can evolve and remain fulfilling throughout its lifespan.

[katiesmuff]

No I do not believe that at all and have witnessed a good many examples of that with people that I have engaged in business or recreation with and my parents would be a perfect example.

[Curiousboy01]

No I don’t think that’s true at all. I’m pretty sure it’s a known fact that in today’s world more marriages end in divorce than ever before but there are still plenty of good healthy marriages that last forever and if you asked them I’m sure they’d say they’re happy with it. When you say you love someone you should be willing to fight for that love and you should already understand that just because you love each other doesn’t mean everything gonna be perfect. That’s a fantasy and will never happen! You’re gonna have fight and you’re gonna disagree on stuff and that’s why it’s not right to just spit I love you out like it’s nothing because it should actually mean something. If it’s true love then you’ll both fight for each other and build each other up and if one of y'all makes a mistake it won’t mean the end of the relationship but I believe a lot of people in today’s world don’t know the meaning of love and think it’s just some word. But yes, love can last forever is the answer to your question. As long as it’s real and true love

[AviatorTom]

After a time, marriage becomes predictable, as any relationship does. That's why you have to occasionally do things different, to spice things up.
It can be a little thing. Yesterday, I put my coffee mug in the dishwasher in a place from where my always puts her mug. It led to an interesting discussion...

[ohsheeT]

Marriage is what you both make it there is no reason in the world for every thing to stop. No matter what you do in life, you have to keep it alive. You have to keep it going. It takes work. It takes 2 people, and it takes the understanding of both people to\nRealize what sex means to the other person. I think what really sucks is usually. One person is the wife or the husband for some reason, gets tired and doesn't want to do it no more. Well that's just tough s*** lmao. They signed up for it. No.\nIf you're both best friends you're both happy. There's no reason for it to ever stop issued , always just get better and better , at least that's what i'm all about

[OlderAndWiser]

Would you want to be married to a girl who is similar (personality, not physical appearance) to your mom?

[red-lipstick-girl]

Yes, my mother is a very good woman, very compassionate.

[egan3141]

The only thing that makes life boring is not living it. If you think that spending 10s of thousands of dollars every year traveling the world is the only way to have fun, then yes, life will eventually get boring. You can't spend 50-70 years traveling the world and expect to keep having fun, assuming you can even make enough money to do that. You need variety. Find other ways to have fun as well. If two people can get out and enjoy life without requiring large expenditures, drugs, or really anything, then they can have fun their entire lives. You don't even necessarily have to go out. You can have fun at home too.

[RavVid]

I was listening to a podcast which argued there were three phases. The honey moon of course. Then a period of lower intensity. Lets call that the stability phase.

Then there is a tailing off phase - infrequent sex less, loving interactions.

Marriage is more than sex & love. It is an economic unit. It depends on whether a couple allow their marriage to become monotonous but I would think most do.

There is the honey moon phase, a longer stability phase and a tailing off phase. A lot of divorces in the later phase.

[Keyboardkat]

Love is a choice. It is a choice which says, "I choose you today, and I will continue to choose you in the future, when neither of us is so attractive anymore." It is a commitment. It must be a decision you consciously make. If it's just based on "feelings" and nothing more, well, feelings are changeable. One day your SO feels one way about you and the next day it's the other way! Feelings alone are not a basis for building a long-term relationship. There will ALWAYS be attractive people out there who can catch your eye! But if the answer is no, it's no, and you put your attention back where it belongs!

[BCRanger10]

It can, and it certainly does seem so at times. After all, it is lifelong. You get distracted by work and kids, the initial thrill of beginning a new life together fades. You get into a regular rhythm of life. So yeah, it feels like a simple routine sometimes, your spouse seems more like a roommate sometimes, but the reverse is also true. There are episodes and seasons to life.

[Anonymous]

For the couples I've seen that have made it together for decades, it's push and pull. There are periods where they are just going along, surviving, doing what they need to do, and there are periods where serious effort is being made to travel, to join activities that provide variety in life, and surprise one another, and to really cherish each other. It is not uncommon, however, for couples later in life, after 30, 40, 50 years of marriage to call it quits because they just get tired of the same old same old---same fights, same boring old or infrequent sex, and same day to day. It really shows how impressive really it is, especially in today's world, for couples to make it to the grave because social influence says, every moment must be interesting and fun, and some really buy into that.

[Ferngully2000]

I really think it depends on the dynamic of the couple, if it’s built on compatibility and friendship then I think it definitely could, but if it’s from physical, emotional and intellectual connection then no I think it could sustain without being monotonous

[Staximus]

Excitement of a new love and then the "honeymoon phase" doesn't last forever. Love is not like trips to Disneyland where you keep going and then it gets old. If somebody's good to you, you don't leave them because you want that new relationship excitement. The grass isn't in the greener on the other side of the hill, it's just different grass

[HighValue]

Find someone with similar interests so you can have new experiences together, whether that is going biking on different trails, camping and learning/practicing survival skills, or maybe someone into gaming if you are too so you can game together.

[Grond21]

No, not every marriage. Only the ones where the spouses stop investing in each other

[red-lipstick-girl]

Does sex become monotonous?

[Grond21]

Not usually, especially if you focus not on the pleasure as much as on the connection. Because the deeper the emotional connection, the greater the pleasure will be.

[red-lipstick-girl]

So marriage isn't a bad thing, right? Are you happy?

[Grond21]

It is a good thing with the right person, and a bad thing with a bad person. Just like following the right God is good but following the wrong god is bad.

I am mostly happy

[loveslongnails]

Perhaps you've heard the expression: "Bored people are almost always boring".

The exception would be someone who is so darn smart and knows so much, that everyday life presents no challenges.

[lilBigPotato]

Not married so don't know but I believe you it's up to you and your partner what you make out of it

[LazerBean]

Marriage is what you make of it. I am married to a fun and wonderful man, so my marriage is fun and wonderful. If someone's marriage is boring, it simply means that they are boring. And that is their own fault and problem to fix.

[exitseven]

No, married life is really what you make it. If you go into it with the expectation that it will be boring, then it will.

[Shiprex]

If they let it. If they're willing then it's always possible to keep things working

[c704710]

Boring? I prefer the words stable, comfortable, consistent, cozy, safe, enduring, reliable, secure. None of these mean we can't occasionally do something bonkers together.

[DJB72]

No. It only gets monotonous if you let it.

Marriage ends one of two ways. Think about it.

[Anonymous]

Love is peace and discipline. It’s not fun. It requires discipline someone who gets high every night can’t do that

[hafinjun]

No not necessarily, depends on how much work you put into it to prevent that

[KostasKouvalis]

Possibly. I hate to say this, but researchers have found that humans aren't naturally monogamous and the average person gets bored with their partner after 12 years

[beefcakebradybatson]

Some folk grow apart which causes many divorces.

[Twalli]

It doesn't need to. A relationship doesn't always need to be exciting. My fiancée and I have no problem hanging out together doing nothing. We do it every evening.

[MikeTheBartender]

If she stays a dirty little whore in bed, and I do the same for her, we will never be bored.

[Jersey2]

Nope. Some people just don’t know how to live.

[Anonymous]

Maybe to women. But then again when are women EVER satisfied, happy?

[Anonymous]

I suppose many of them do, you have a good point.

[GeorgePulchri]

Thats why I have delayed dating girls I have liked for so long. I want to build a far more exciting life than I have access to right now.

[AngryCarl2]

Boring? Of course it's boring. Marriage isn't a form of entertainment, it's a commitment. If all you want is entertainment, stick to TikTok.

[David318578]

What do you want to do and experience in life? What adventures do you want to have?

[TonyMetal___86]

When you truly love a person than you will never get bored!

[jahaims]

No lol. You aren't emotionally healthy if you think that.

[Bklynbadboy12]

If you marry the right guy you'll never ever get bored plus you seem adventurous so it should be a lot of fun for you

[Snakeyes7]

If you made the right choice, I don't think it will ever be boring.

[LunarEclipse433]

Totally depends on the couple and how hard they try to keep things interesting

[robocop666]

lawyers/solicitors and accountants leave comments on youtube saying not to get married, take their advice

[NathanDavis]

that's up, mostly... to you

[Angelbabylips]

No. Some do though.

[Ironco]

You'll get what you put into it.

[queenofcardio]

It's a possibility

[spartan55]

That's one of the challenges of marriage.

[wkhan_87]

No, it is misconception.

[wkhan_87]

Love increases by time

[cavedweller1973]

Nope not at all

[Raydergman26]

It depends