Are your marriages getting boring?

[red-lipstick-girl]

Tell me about this feeling

[OlderAndWiser]

"Boring" is a word loaded with value and judgment. Wrong word.

Whether you are married or unmarried but in a long term relationship, time will make you more familiar with your partner and there will also be fewer surprises. If you are "bored" with your spouse of three years and you ditch him for someone new, that new guy will also be boring three years from now.

In addition, as you get older, your life will become more routine. You won't spend every weekend at luxury resorts or on Caribbean cruises. No, if you have a 9-to-5 job, you will probably have your alarm set for the same time every weekday morning. Every morning, you will have your coffee with sugar and half-and-half because that's the way you like it. Every day, you will take the same route to your work because you know which route involves the least traffic, red lights, etc. You will have four or five places you go to for lunch because you like their menu, the service is good, and you don't want surprises. You will shop at the same grocery store every week. And if you have kids. . . they THRIVE on routine and you will go into overdrive on schedules and routines.

So, the question is not whether your current partner is boring, but instead the question is whether you are prepared and sufficiently mature to accept an adult life that includes routines and schedules. Not everyone wants that kind of life and if that's you, don't ask what's wrong with your partner? Ask yourself why you got married since you don't want that kind of life.

[Summeroflove]

Even people in love can fall out of love the choice to stay married depends on what both people decide to do. If two people decide to put the effort into one another it can work. It takes brutal honesty, loyalty, and hard work on BOTH sides. Unfortunately, what can happen is that one partner ends up putting all the work in to fix a marriage while the other one seems to not care at all even expecting the other person to out the work in.

Many marriages however were never built on genuine love. It’s sad when one partner genuinely loves the other but the other not as much. Marriages that are based off financial reasons are common especially once children come along financial situations can change drastically. Even if someone does well financially eventually at some point one or the other maybe both spouses will crave something more… I’ve seen this happen. People may turn to having affairs if not leaving entirely once they start craving that to fill that void.

A true marriage is a bond. A partnership. Being one another’s best friends. Standing by one another no matter what. The only exceptions is abuse, affairs, and just being one sided. Besides that people can make it work if they CHOOSE to… Even if the sparks gone people can make it on mutual love and respect for one another. But that’s a choice they have to both make

[anon1903]

The idea of wanting to grow old with someone confuses the heck out of me

[Cormac995]

That's normal. Marriages aren't all excitement all the time and if you think that and want that you'll never be happy. That doesn't mean though that you shouldn't maybe start spicing things up a bit. If you marriage is getting boring this is my advice. Re commit and make more time for each other and start doing some of the things you did when you fell in love in the first place.

Rekindle and relive those memories and make new ones. Make a scrapbook too. Looking through it will help wonders when you're lonely, sad, angry or miss your SO. I actually think if you have and SO you should make it a priority to look through the scrap book at least once a day if they have to be away on a trip or something. Go on dates again and have nights now and again where you just let the "passion" flow as long and hard as you want if you catch my drift.

Also make sure you get a healthy amount of touch on a daily basis to help with the bond. You shouldn't kiss or hug your SO less than two times a day minimum for both. It's also important you snuggle at night in my opinion things like that go farther to maintain the bond than you think.

[Lliam]

It's not boring. It's more like comfortable.
It's not like the thrill of infatuation. You don't have to constantly seek thrills and excitement. You can have those things, but you are not under pressure to impress each other all the time.
You can both relax and be yourselves the way you did when you were single, and know that your partner accepts you for who you truly are and is there for you.

It's only boring if you feel like you can't do things you want to do. I guess if your idea of excitement is dancing partying and hooking up, you might be unhappy being married.

[RavVid]

I've heard wives refer to boring husbands so I think wives get bored and cheat for excitement. Or exit the marriage.

Every married couple will develop a sex routine that reliably orgasms the wife and ejaculates the husband. The only problem is that it becomes routine and the grand passion that once existed subside. So wife gets bored and dissatisfied husband is no longer all over her like a rash.

I'd appreciate any feedback on this conjecture.

[Shiprex]

Boring no, desperately sad perhaps, hopeful... wait and see. 🤔

[red-lipstick-girl]

Are you considering divorce?

[Shiprex]

Not if I can help it.

[Tarifa]

No, but daily routine can have an influence on things. Living together or married doesn't make any difference there.

[Bricealan]

@red-lipstick-girl A marriage or relationship will get boring if you let.

Keeping it ALIVE is easier said than done.

[BCRanger10]

Things become routine. You have seasons of passion and seasons of routine. It happens.

[jahaims]

If you get bored of a relationship you were in it for the wrong reasons but are too immature to realize it

[The-Stud]

Do not marry if you are not prioritizing your family and children over your entertainment

[FenixG45]

If you're going onto a third marriage or more, you're DEFINITELY doing something wrong!

[Anonymous]

I'm not married, but if I were, I don't think that I would get bored.

[exitseven]

Not boring but it is routine.

[BCRanger10]

That's a good way of putting it.

[Jeff51]

Yes but I'm dealing with it.

[FreyaRed]

Many of them. XD

[Sam1133]

I don't do n I don't believe in marriage

[CubaPirate]

Nope we're still very happy

[Bklynbadboy12]

I dont think marriage can ever get boring

[katiesmuff]

No not in the least!

[TheLovelyWoman]

Yes way too boring.

[Dongie]

🎶🎵🫰💥🕺💃

[wkhan_87]

No..

[yk9998]

I am unmarried

[Anonymous]

No..