Never been on a date, still a v, never been asked out. No attention given men dont even look at me. Im 5”2 i live in a white country most peoeple taht are worthy are white , slim nose , lots of blondes tall I've tried very hard to beautiful enough but still nothing.
I always wanted a family but it seems highly unlikely this will ever. Happen.
Ok first things first. Ugly only comes from the inside. Your eyes tell me you have a beautiful heart. So that word can't even be involved
2nd thing is we are all made of energy trillions and trillions of particles that all come together depending how we treat ourselves. Our cells rejuvenate , after so many days , our skin rejuvenates after so many days same with many things in our body
If you\nTalk to yourself a certain way , if you believe in certain things , that's exactly who you're going to become so
Start talking to yourself. Better start believing in the words that you're telling yourself, because that's who you will become. That's who you are right now through your words. You are the person that you are right now. If you want to change , change your words , change your beliefs , change your happiness
If you worry about getting married and having kids , then it's never gonna happen because you're so worried about it that you're putting a block up
Just live your life and be happy. Become the best you can become let life happen. Each and every day to you don't try to reprogram things or program things because it'\nS the opposite of what happens
Have you ever played sports God in a zone to where nothing can go wrong? Try to feel that feeling that you had then and understand it
There's not one thing that can stop you, you're in the moment you're in that zone and things, everything happens so perfect, so beautiful, that's how you have to live, your life become that moment. Don't let other people put you down, keep negative things out of your head do be. The best you can be and everything in this world will happen for you.
If you don't believe that then it will never happen if you don't allow it, it will never happen. If you put yourself down, that's what's gonna happen, try it, the opposite way, try changing everything about you to make you become that beautiful flower growing blooming being nurtured. Smile and be happy people are drawn to that people love that
If you walk past somebody and you're smiling, do they smile back at you? Of course , they do , and vice versa
It's the same way with life become who you want to become, and a person will walk by you at the same time. And they will be drawn into you, and that's when things start happening. But if you said ugly, that means you believe in it one way or another And that's who you become, so stop it, change right now.\nDo it? And then , in two weeks from now ask another question about happiness and who you have become , how you can feel the change happening
The problem is not your appearance, you are definitely cute looking.
I don't know if it's your attitude, how you carry yourself, where you hang out or what. I can't see any obvious reason why you haven't been asked out.
On the suggestion from someone else... if you see a guy who you think might be of interest... approach him, even ask him out. I did that around 14 years ago, I asked a guy to a coffee date... 18 months later, we were husband and wife, we have two beautiful daughters, a nice house and a wonderful life together... I couldn't be happier. Don't knock it girl... give it a try !!!
You're not ugly at all. You have a lot going for yourself. I'm not sure if you're trying to get validation from people on the internet and I hope you're not, but if you are then that's really sad. You're a beautiful girl. Own it. Go for guys that may not be in your league but that will get you. The problem with a lot of beautiful women is that they want the tall dark and handsome guy. That's what almost every woman wants but you're more than likely not going to get him because they are all gunning for him. I promise you go for the guy that will get you. You won't be sorry.
Extremely insecure to the point of delusion about your own looks.
Fishing for validation from strangers online.
Or a troll getting off in some weird way.
If that is really you in those photos, you are a 9/10. I can't believe guys aren't hitting on you constantly unless you're trans.
As to being White. You appear to be Latina AND White to me. Yeah, same thing in my mind.
So you're a brunette. A lot of guys prefer brunettes over blondes. So forget about that.
You're 5'2" that's on the shorter side but a lot of guys prefer petite women. 5'2" is within the height range that most men find attractive. The average height for a woman in the USA is 5'3.5". So you can forget about that.
So after eliminating all the stuff you think is holding you back, I have to come around to you yourself.
What are you doing to meet guys? Other than the apps you gave up on.
How picky are you?
Are you severely introverted or shy?
Friendly?
Mentally healthy?
Ultra religious?
Can you carry on a conversation with another person?
Do you have female friends?
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5 mo
I tried dating app. Got ghosted. Asked a guy out. Never again. Got ghosted. I need my dignity. I got out. Nothing. Not even a look. At this point yes im extremely insecure to the point where im almost ceratin I've got to be repulsive in some way. Sonce im almost 30 and nothing. As for picky. I just want someone on my level it would be nice to higher but again just not lower because biologically as a woman i find lower to be a turnoff. I can't force attraction. Im athiest. I am friendly. I am introverted and shy yes because i have no confidence except in my work and skills. I can carry a conversation if im iterestrd in the conversation or the person. I used to have female friends but they gor married and stopped communucating with me
There's nothing wrong with having goals and standards for yourself. So I'm not gonna criticize you for that. It's a bad idea to settle or try to force attraction.
Don't allow that insecurity to become defensiveness where you constantly perceive negative intentions from guys where none was intended.
The friend thing... yeah that's gonna happen over and over again in life after the high school and college years. Some friends get married and split away from those who aren't. Some move away for careers. Some just fade away. Get used to that. Start working at making new friends. Develop that as a skill.
Conversation... don't restrict yourself to ONLY a guy you're interested in romantically. That focus is way too narrow. Just talk to the guy or girl next to you. He introduces you to his friends who introduce you to more guys and girls and so on. Some will be throwaways. But a few will become friends. One may be your romantic interest. Far better way to meet people and safer than dating apps. It's best to do this in a place where people get used to seeing you around. You get to know them from a distance. They get comfortable with seeing you around and interacting with other people.
Basically get rid of the depression and insecurity and take charge of engineering the personal life you want. It takes effort and maintenance and time. But no one else is gonna make that happen for you.
“I asked a guy out but never again.”😆😆😆😆😆 when I was in the club partying. I would get shut down 10 times before it even got warmed up.😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆 That shit is weak
Frankly you seem quite comely enough. You are not ugly.
Equally frankly, you need to meet mate selection criteria to get a mate. A lot of women seem to think men have the same mate selection as women do and it is just not true. We want the classic feminine virtues. Physical beauty is part of it sure but there is quite a lot more.
Above all calm and peaceful, nice to us, cooperative. We are well untruly over demanding. Understand what men want in a partner and be that. Inherently we all have to be.
It does seem that most women want the top 1%tile of men and if that is were your sights are set it is never going to work. Too many women after too few men.
You also need to get out and be approachable. Talk to men so they see you that way. it is necessary to look happy and social. If I see a girl chatting easily with guys, I am going to feel it easier to approach her.
You are only late 20's so you have plenty of time.
Part of the problem is due to men being Tik Tok'ed if they simply say hello with out a written invitation nowadays.
WHY would you think you're ugly? You're very pretty AND cute!! Nice cheeks!! Maybe it's just pretty girl syndrome. Sometimes, a pretty girl, like you, can't seem to get a boyfriend because the guys are too shy and don't think they have a chance with a girl as pretty as you and mostly, because they feel that, she's so pretty, either she's already got several boyfriends waiting in line for their chance so, there's no point in even trying or, they feel you're so great that they're just not gonna be good enough for you, at least in your eyes. Have you tried asking one of them out instead of waiting for them to ask you? Sometimes a guy needs a little shove or at least needs to know that you ARE available and that you DO like him. If you were to ask me, I'd be thrilled and quite flattered! However, I've already got a girlfriend that I love VERY MUCH and I'd NEVER, EVER cheat on her!!
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5 mo
I've tried asking a guy out. He ghosted me. Will never do that again. I need my diginity at least!! Thanks for the kind words. I envy you
They say, once you fall off a horse, you need to get right back on and try again. You can't go by JUST one guy!! Thank you, I mean every one of them. I never got my first girlfriend until I was almost 25. We were only together for about 4 months. I went through 3 other very short-lived attempts before I found a steady when I was 34. After 10 years, she started cheating on me! She was a gold digger and I was between jobs and didn't have much money, at the time. (The place we both worked closed up & it took me a while to find a new job.) It's taken me until a year ago to find my present girlfriend & I'm pretty sure we're gonna both stay together! How did you go about asking him? Like you, I never thought I was much to look at but I've always been a very sweet, loving guy. But, I've actually had a few women practically "throw themselves" at me! I met one at a Fixx concert after the show. We started talking and got to be friendly. She lived about 3 miles away and I had to go that way to get to my house so, I walked her back to her place. We stood out in front of her place for a while and it started to drizzle very lightly but, rather than go in, she chose to stay there & talk with me & started hugging & kissing me rather passionately! We stood there doing that for at least half an hour in the drizzle before she went in & I walked another 6 or 7 miles to my house.
Another time, I was in a store downtown one afternoon and just as I left, this girl went zipping past me walking rather fast. Being very tall, I decided to see if I could keep up with her. She noticed and started talking to me. She was trying to get to the Greyhound station several blocks away to catch a bus back home, near Youngstown. She asked if I knew where it was, I did because my uncle Wally used to drive for them. So, I walked her over and even sat with her while she waited an hour or so for her bus. We had a nice long chat and, when I went to put her on the bus, she gave me a big hug and kiss and her address to write to her but, I just never knew what to write. (Bun E. Carlos, drummer for Cheap Trick, gave me his address once and I never wrote to him, either!) One afternoon, we played a gig in Oberlin, Ohio (I'm a drummer, too) and went to a house party after the show and some girl there seemed quite interested in me! Sadly, before we even got the chance to talk, we had to leave in a hurry and I never saw her her again. Anyway, you never know when or where you're gonna meet someone and hit it off so, don't give up the ship!! Sometimes, you just get lucky without even trying! I met my present girlfriend right here just over a year ago! I posted a comment, she responded to it, we started chatting, fell in love and now we're planning marriage and kids!! DON'T give up, pretty girl!! You'll find someone!! Just make sure he's worth it!! Now, GO GET `EM, tiger!! ;-) Good luck!! If you feel like it, keep me updated.
Lol. Sorry. I wasn't trying to, I've actually been VERY unlucky in love (25 years before I got my first, 8 years between the 3rd and 4th and 25 more years between the 4th and 5th.) but I was just trying to tell you that you never know where you're gonna meet "that" guy so, don't give up! I met my ex-fiance after a gig I didn't even want to play but got talked into it at the last minute! The girl in the drizzle was supposed to meet me the next day at noon and I went there meet her and she blew me off!! When she finally DID come back, she said she was gonna be moving immediately!! I never heard from her, again! That's pretty close to what happened to you but I kept trying.
Let me put it this way: There are women out there who pay thousands for surgery just to have lips and cheeks like yours
And that’s only a small part You’re not ugly at all.
If you’re single it’s gotta be something else How social are you. How often do you respond positively to a man talking to you in public What do you ask for on first dates What are your standards for a man
All these things can contribute to being left single and alone
Usually it means you’re asking for something that’s completely unrealistic so you never find it
That’s what you should look into Because looks-wise you’re good to go
shut up, stop fishing for complliments, plenty of people would kill to look like you or to be able to date you. not sure who gaslit you into thinking so badly of you, but those people are your main problem in life, not your looks. your looks help you find nice people, these other people are keeping you from doing so, even in your mind
Number one problem is if you live in a predominantly white country those most men are going to want a woman that looks more like the women in their family as you described such as natural blondes, its a natural thing.
My advice is just don't sit around thinking men just must approach just because you think they should.
If you haven't had a boyfriend yet is mostly because you are not engaging socially at all.
It all can start with a simple hello or how you are doing?
Eventually you will run into a man that you find physically attractive and that will find you attractive back and go from there.
Never settle nor rush to be with anyone that just pops up into your life that shows interest as that can seriously turn out wrong.
Be picky and selective yet being realistic and good luck finding the right man for you.
I am make good money, and have education and im in good health and fitness. I would want someone at my level or above. But regardless no guy is pursuing me. I dont date online because I've tried and its the dumbest riskiest thing I've ever tried.
I can't help what turns me on. You can't force attraction. I am a woman. Its bioogically engrained into my wiring to find men at least of my level to be a turn on. Online dating is risky and stupid. I am a woman. I am vunerable simply due to my size, and ability. You won't be able to see my point of view because you are a man.
Guys tend to care more about girl's looks than her income. I already told you that I don't think that you ugly. The guys you find attractive are far above your level I believe.
If you think this will make me lower my standards and message you out of desperation you couldnt be more wrong. Ill just get plastic surgery and cosmetic treatments. No probelm I've got money.
@Hardon-Collider naw, men who complain about it could be anyone, such as: some of the best powerlifters, mma fighters, special forces combat veterans, football players, wealthy men, entertainers, etc have been metooed, divorced, alienated from their kids by mom and family court, etc.
One of my main purposes was to raise and love my kids, as was many of theirs.
I just thought someone was comparing her attitude to those incels - having too high of standards
The chart you posted clearly shows her problem. That is, she rejects guys within her league, believing she deserves and will only accept a guy well above her league.
Kelley sweety hunny why do you assume that? To be frank no one even asks me out , in my league or higher they dont ask me out, not even below my league. No one. So you chatting shhiiittt
No, just be patient and eventually you’ll meet someone. The thing about us girls is that sometimes we just don’t notice when someone is interested or checks us out lol. It’s also body language if you seem approachable or make eye contact. My friend kinda mentioned the same concerns, and I really think that’s just what it is.
You are attractive so it is likely your personality or you are wanting too high quality of a man for what you would bring to a relationship. And asking out ONE person then giving up? Seriously? Women have no idea what rejection is. At least try it a couple hundred times before giving up. lol
I do not think you are ugly and I don’t know you so I don’t have to lie. I think you have no reason to think you shouldn’t deserve a boyfriend if we are going just off looks. I’d go as far to say you are quite attractive. If where you live isn’t working for you it is okay to expand your horizons. Send a DM I’d be happy to elaborate.
Not true, I guess your problem is that you're in a predominantly "White" country so, unfortunately in any homogeneous country, you'll probably have a harder time.. But yeah you're a nice looking young woman.. I'm sure some guy out there has wanted you..
You are white by American standards. I think you’re fishing. The world’s strongest man got with a five footer, so did the last heavyweight boxing champion. Both men are extremely tall and white.
Alpha Widow Depression should be in the DSM
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5 mo
your worth is not defined by a narrow, regional beauty standard or a lack of romantic history; many people find their person later in life once they step away from environments that don’t value.
Shift your focus from trying to be beautiful enough for others to creating a life where you feel confident and visible, as genuine connection often happens when you stop performing for a demographic that isn't looking and start showing up for yourself.
You're not. But if you're too picky and full of yourself, of course you won’t find a man. Maybe try being a bit more humble. After all, you’re not royalty.
If those are your photos, you are asked a lot. However, the men who ask don't count toward being asked due to your extremely high and unrealistic standards.
No, absolutely not. You look great. You have a really nice body. As for you not getting attention and things not having worked out, I think it is just bad luck. That's all.
You are gorgeous! Your eyes are bright and your smile is beautiful. Your body - what I can see of it - is beautiful. If I were younger and not married, I would be thrilled to have a chance to date you. You are special and worth a handsome man who will love you and remind you daily how pretty you are - I would do that if I were that man in your life.
You are kind of cute. I could see you finding a nice man to be with, with no real issues. Dress the way you feel comfortable, and the right man will find you!!
My opinion is never let your self down, your self-confidence should be active all times. And to be frank, you're not ugly, you look beautiful, give yourself a chance. This is coming from a guy that's been single his whole life. I believe we'll all find our other parts.
F27. You are to old for a boyfriend. Unless you meet the man of your dreams and get married in less than a year and he only wants one MAYBE 2 kid you have a chance... Other than that your best eggs are behind you.
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5 mo
Oh wells. Ill die alone with my cat and enjoy my wealth
Perhaps dating and marrying within your own race would be preferred then? You would have more in common culturally, religiously, linguistically. There is nothing wrong with that.
Feeling you are ugly makes you ugly. Work on that and you're set.
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Anonymous
(45 Plus)
5 mo
Yeah and Pamela Anderson is a virgin.🤣 Like the others said GTFO troll. Nobody is buying this bull💩.
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5 mo
Wtf why are do you assume im lying
Opinion Owner
5 mo
It's called common sense. @oneviewpoint hit the nail on the head. Except you cannot be an extremely insecure girl. You might be either of the other two bullet points. You're either a dude that is trolling for fun. Or you're a woman seeking validation. Any woman that looks like that is single would be because she is ridiculously picky or she's an absolutely terrible person. Possibly both.
Asker
5 mo
Dont judge so fast. If you knew my life you wouldn't think this way trust me.. im tired
Opinion Owner
5 mo
And based on the 2nd pick I'm leaning towards terrible person.
Asker
5 mo
Why terrible person?
Opinion Owner
5 mo
Yeah this person exists like the guy who's rich, muscular and fit, CEO, faithful, loyal, has lots of friends, in high demand, etc, etc. And just doesn't know what a catch he is.😆😆😆 Neither one of those people are a reality. Sell this to someone else who's buying it. No sell here!😆
Well I can answer why you can't get dates : 1) You have attitude 2) You are rude 3) You feel sorry for yourself and guys don;t want pitty pooper 4) It doesn't matter if you went out on a date because you would blow it 5) Guys can sense things like that
So when you go to parties , do they end early or what?
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