If you even have to question it it’s a no if someone is interested or not 9/10 ?

[Anonymous]

If it’s unclear or you even have to ask yourself if a person is interested in you the answer is no. At first she started the conversation with me now a days it’s like she wants me to talk to her. But i never asked her to talk in the first place so me not making a move on this doesn’t matter she is taller than me yeah it’s noticeable I’m literally up to her shoulder. So with that being said I highly doubt she would be interested in me kinda comon sense and a pretty cute girl so what am I thinking honestly. Talk briefly here and there but I usually just walk off after a couple words exchanged kinda nervous. Majority of girls don’t like guys shorter than them and plus my friend tells me it looks goofy as hell I agree. And I also don’t want to be desperate trying to just take anyone yeah 24 year old virgin no girlfriend ever begged can’t be choosers. Her smiles at me from a far seems to only do this when I’m with my boys so I kinda think that’s obvious bs because she knows my friend will more than likely try to gass my head up.

[HollyK21]

I don't know, it sounds like you’re trying to talk yourself out of doing what you wanna do which is acting on a crush. If this is someone at work you like, I’d really suggest not making a move unless you plan on leaving that job. Mainly because if this is how you’re acting before even doing anything then I couldn’t imagine how things would be if you did and she rejected you for whatever reason. In any case, I think you should go for it. You’re the one stacking the odds against yourself with the height thing, and for all you know you could be surprised. Some women just aren’t worried about that.

[Asker]

Just curious on the (if this is how you’re acting before even doing anything then I couldn’t imagine how things would be if you did and she rejected you for whatever reason.) part what does that exactly mean tho just asking and I think alott of women are worried about it in my honest opinion but go ahead.

[HollyK21]

Basically I’m saying that you’re already in your head a lot about this situation and you haven’t even made a move yet. Imagine how you’d feel if she were to reject you, then you’d be even more in your head, except things would be awkward on top of that.

[bobalife]

Social norm: yes. Depends on circumstances tbh such as yourself, which is clear you’re not sure and that’s more than okay. It sounds like you’re overthinking a lot with self-doubts, insecurities, and image. Sometimes, we wonder why someone so good looking would smile or talked to us. But you just gotta have faith that maybe they noticed you for a reason and potentially attracted to you. If she keeps talking to you, she most likely is into you. Don’t beat yourself so much and be open to the opportunities infront of you when it’s given. Give yourself a chance. Give her a chance. Give love a chance. Build your confidence :) Goodluck annon.

[bobalife]

And if it doesn’t work out, don’t beat yourself up, be proud that you took a chance, and found out the outcome. There will always be another opportunity with someone new.

[slatyb]

Stop guessing. If a woman engages with you and you are attracted, ask her out.