Why would someone not take No as an answer?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

So, this guy has been asking me out on dates and I told him that I have a hard period right now, I work 3 jobs and have to figure out lots of things and don’t have time for dates, he still messages, wherever I respond - I respond nicely.

Now he asked me when I can meet, I told him we can meet after a month, because this month I have a lot to figure out.

He’s still been insisting to meet as soon as possible. I tell him I am busy with work everyday. (Sometimes I am not, I am just not in the mood of dating)

He asked me if I am busy today, I made a mistake and said, finally I have a bit more free time to enjoy myself tomorrow, he said he wants us to go and have a dinner tomorrow.
I thought I made it clear, this month I want to be by myself.

I feel tired honestly, I told him many times I need some time to figure my things out, because I am a bit lost last couple weeks and I need some time to figure out where I am going to. I have like million job offers and lots of decisions to make in a very very short time, all while keep working my 3 jobs. I don’t know where I am going to be 2 months later.

Instead of giving me time as I asked, he now wants me to add a date to the list of my headaches and he seems to disregard what I told him about my hard period.

I said I have some free time and he wants to go on a date, I understand and appreciate that he likes me, but I feel frustrated, should I play dead?

What should I do, so I can have some time to myself?

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4 mo

I don’t know, maybe I am wrong. I just feel like trapped in the corner.

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4 mo

I know the post is a bit erratic, it’s just I felt really annoyed that he still asks me the same question after hearing my answer many times that I am really busy this month.

Hoe can I date anyone here when I have no idea where I’ll be 2 months later?

My priority is to figure things out and when I feel more settled, I can give him a chance. Why would he hurry so much?

[DaveJord]

Seriously, I am surprised this guy is trying so hard. I mean I would of totally dropped it the second you basically made it clear you are not wanting to date, and you work three jobs.

So, on some level it's flattering, but to me it sounds like he is too desperate. Whenever a woman does this to me, I tell her no problem you have my number let me know if you can make time or want to put out any effort... I would love to get to know you better.

Now I have never had a woman I told that to come back later saying she is sorry for putting off... on the same token I never came back around a month or two later asking how she was doing. I just take it as a major put off, like she is not interested, because if she was on any level interested, she would at least meet me for a 20-minute cup of coffee.

But some women do this to guys, they put them off by saying they are too busy... when honestly, they are not. I just don't play that game. So honestly, I don't know what to make of this guy... it sounds weird to me.

[Sam161]

First of all your time is your time and if you need time to get your life in the order then he needs to abide by that. If he can't and he keeps bothering you like you're saying and you need to just block his number. He was told if he can't take no for the answer then he needs to find that your phone does not ring for his number anymore.

[Pinay_ako]

You haven’t really said no straight up. You’ve been giving him signals saying I’m busy but yes if I have free time and that’s not a no. You really have to tell him NO, I don’t like you that way and I am not ready for a relationship with anyone right now and I want to be on my own figuring out what I really want. I am working on myself and thank you for being so nice but I don’t feel the same way you do. It will hurt for him but being honest will help him and you move on with your lives. Just give him that. So he can stop asking you out…

[MJackson1234]

Quit playing games. Some guys think they are showing you that they are really into you. Oh you got to work or problems bla bla I will wait. Not to mention who tells a guy "I am on my period". Just straight up tell him "hey I am not into you and I don't find you remotely attractive. I think you need to move on and find someone else."

[OlderAndWiser]

If he makes you feel this way now, imaging how he would disrespect you if you were in a relationship with him! You need to drop him like a sack of hot rocks!

[EricSummer]

You have to actually say no. You are worrying too much about the man's feelings, but you are still giving him hope that he can be your boyfriend soon after your tough stretch is over.

Best make it clear that while you are currently looking for a biyfriend it's not going to be him. This is unrelated to how busy you are.

[Keyboardkat]

Maybe it will be him. She said that when she figures things out, then she can give him a chance. She hasn't said she wants him to just go away forever. She wants some time and space to sort things out. That's not a hard "no." And it's not unreasonable.

[EricSummer]

She wants a guy who is as manly as her ex was and who sort of sweeps her off her feet. This guy does not seem to have the potential.

Also, the question was why he doesn't understand "no". She means to reject him.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Tell him you're taking a sabbatical offline then just stop engaging.

No more he said this so i told him this, but he ignored it and took it as this.

There can't be any of that if you don't engage back, which is why he's not taking no for an answer.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Lady you could be dead two months from now. Take it from someone who's been there a good number of times.

You're trapped of your own doing. Stop talking to him. Boom. Problem solved.

[Friendlybro79]

This is so simple and you're overcomplicating things for yourself. If you don't want to go out tell him please stop asking the answer is no. If he doesn't stop you can say, "I've given you an answer multiple times, but I will not be responding to you anymore. Please stop contacting me. Thank you"

He should get the picture but he's not because you're not direct enough. If you want it to stop tell him to stop. Otherwise get used to this until you do as he asks.

[msc545]

He Is more interested in his well-being and his comfort than he is in yours. I think you should probably avoid this guy. He sounds selfish, persistent and inconsiderate.

[msc545]

I can't imagine that you find the kind of begging that you described attractive

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I find it extremely unattractive and irritating.

[msc545]

So if you for some reason DID decide to date him I doubt he would become any more attractive. Perhaps worse if anything. You deserve better.

[Screenwriter]

Girl, don't allow this guy to message you in any capacity. BLOCK HIM! He refuses to RESPECT YOU AND YOUR NEEDS. Something is seriously wrong with him. RED FLAG all over the place. Don't allow yourself to be pushed around. He is scary wrong. STOP RESPONDING TO HIM...

[Andres77]

If he’s this inconsiderate now, what makes you think that he’ll get more considerate later?

this is harassment, pure and simple. You are under no obligation to say yes to anything. Block him.

[Grond21]

Your free time is your own. You don't need to justify to anyone how you use it, and they cannot take it from you. Tell him you appreciate his offer but you are going to use your free time in a different way and you are not interested.

[Grond21]

He may be afraid of losing you, but he is being disrespectful. Which ironically is driving you away. However, if he can't respect you, then he isn't worth investing in.

[Sparkie460]

He is too pushy. He doesn't respect your boundaries. He wants what he wants and when he wants it. You can do what you want but if I was in your shoes I'd dump him. He's giving you a few red flags already

[justabuddy]

If a girl likes a guy she will make time. Sadly, it's one of those situations where one person likes the other way more than it is reciprocated. Sadly, you are going to have to tell him you are not interested.

[lightbulb27]

Just schedule a date for 1.5 months ahead and tell him you don't have tie right now.

I don't know. People like this are aggressive and probably thinking about himself not you.

[Keyboardkat]

In answer to your question, it sounds like he really likes you and he's afraid that if he gives you all that time, he'll lose all chance with you.

[Fireguy17]

because they are not listening to you or respecting your boundaries.
You do not need to be around those kinds of people.

[slatyb]

Stop answering. You have no obligation to him. Them tell him that you don't think it would work, and wish him a nice life.

[Vikkrram]

Ok all fine , but i don't get why you said to him that you have periods. And do say to him that it's no and over. That's all

[bowenw]

I suggest you tell him you do not want to date right now and you will let him know if you ever want to date him. Do not give him any reasons. If he keeps bothering you block him.

[Adam1978]

Because you aren't saying no, you are just delaying. Guys know how to remove blockers, so you just get him to problem solve his way to a date.

[RHK36]

Sounds like you haven't said no clearly and since you keep caving in when he keeps pushing. Why would he stop when it works? You are sending mixed signals based on your actions.

[serious_miss419]

Remove being polite, he’s not listening. He’s gone too far.
Tell him he makes you uncomfortable and that you are not interested. Then block his number.
Guys like this don’t understand dialect or boundaries

[Actor3]

Either he is truly in love with you.
Rich and wants to marry you
Or he is a stalker and call the cops