Are women with multiple baby fathers a risk when dating?

[Anonymous]

So I have dated several women with kids from different dads, and loved them unconditionally (the woman wasn’t the reason I broke up, but rather her habits and addictions broke up the relationships). I’ve noticed though that several of my guy friends recommend staying away from any woman that has kids with multiple men, citing drama from the previous kids’ fathers and potential for her to get back with one of the fathers. I haven’t experienced that myself but am constantly getting warned. Are women with multiple kids with multiple men a red flag to you?

[WindAtMyBack]

They've established a pattern. Do you have reason to believe that pattern has been broken? To me, a person's past is their past. Who they are now matters. But if it's recent, the question is whether their past is really in the past. Was it a year ago or ten years ago?

Last year? A red flag. Five years ago, a yellow flag. Ten years ago, give them a chance. Who they are NOW matters. But a year or two is still now.

[Finchie40]

It can be a red flag , considering she has a track record of failed relationships , but it doesn't necessarily mean she was the problem but a good chance she was. Just know you are playing eith fire if you think she is going to love you more than she loved her exes. You are better off finding someone else that doesn't have so much baggage

[HawkPerception]

I personally wouldn't do it, as they've established a pattern and I believe in accountability in life. But all the power to you if that's the dynamic you want.

[HollyK21]

Doesn’t matter what your friends say, you’ve actually dated women with kids therefore you can answer this yourself.

[beenherebefore]

I see that as a red flag. I wouldn't get in a relationship with a Man that has kids from multiple women.

[HighValue]

Single mothers are low quality people most of the time. Single mothers that have kids from multiple men are very low quality and only very pathetic low quality desperate men would consider being with them.

[Berethor]

All single moms bring too much baggage, I don't want a ho with kids from different dads.

[Nikki1989]

Only for the very immature and extremely insecure.

[Staximus]

Every woman I've ever met who had three kids by three different dads is bat shit crazy

[Anonymous]

To the NBA they are...

[Zionne]

depends?