Would being a virgin at 21 and never kissed be a red flag to a guy? Reason due to controlling mom?

[Anonymous]

[Rei13]

I feel like that’s normal tbh and anyone that treats you weirdly over it isn’t worth your time anyways. The controlling mom is more of a red flag than anything but you’re at an age where you’re able to create boundaries and hopefully enforce them

[Asker]

She doesn’t let people create boundaries that’s why she’s single and I move the hell away from her

[OneViewpoint]

Question. Can you put the controlling mom in the rearview mirror and become your own person? If the answer is yes, then you're not a red flag. If the answer is no, then you are a failed relationship waiting to happen and a red flag.

[NathanDavis]

a 21 year old "virgin" is not an issue for me... my college girlfriend was almost that age

HOWEVER... a 21 year old controlled by their mother, I would avoid that situation like it's the plague

[Asker]

I totally understand she had cause so much conflict

[NathanDavis]

yeah, I would not have time for that...

[Asker]

That’s why I’m not contact with her but she still tries to harass me

[FunkyMonkee]

Mom had nothing to do with it but, I never got anything from a girl until 3 weeks before I turned 25!

[Asker]

Actually she sheltered me and when I tried dating she’ll destroy the relationships

[Asker]

She controlled my whole life and tried controlling my sex life trying to make me remain a virgin Im not even Muslim

[FunkyMonkee]

She sounds highly religious.
I wonder what she'd say/do if you told her that you had sex a few weeks ago?

[Asker]

She’ll slut shame and she had a kid out of wedlock

[Asker]

And she had sex before marriage and Slept with over 5 guys. She got issues

[FunkyMonkee]

Ooooh!! One of those!! "I don't want you making the same mistake I did!!'
In a different vein, we had one of those across the street from us. When she first moved in, she was the singer in a rock band and, from what I hear, dressed very scantily on stage. I guess it was her band because she had loads of PA and lighting gear at her house and, every year, for Halloween, she'd get the house really made-up like a witch's house and entice all the kids to come in and get their candy and see the haunted house and she'd play the part of a witch!!
Then, one of her band mates knocked her up and then left her and she chose to keep the baby. So, she broke up the band, found religion and not only never did her witch bit on Halloween but wouldn't even stay home that night!!! She'd run off to a church a dozen miles away and spend the whole night praying!! Halloween was evil!!
She started wearing very bland clothing that covered most of her body, from the shins down, it was okay to be naked. After her daughter was born, she was forced to take on the same way of thinking and dressing!! If the girl did the slightest thing wrong, she'd SCREAM HER HEAD OFF at her!! When the girl got older, she met a guy, probably at church, and they started dating each other but he was at least 10 years older than her!! She's 17 or 18, he's in his ate 20's, or so!! And, if they decided to take a walk together on the street, mom would follow them a few yards behind!! I have a feeling he didn't 100% like her because, one night, I heard him call her a bitch when she was out of earshot!
After the wedding, because the girl was an only child and hated always being alone, she had quite a few kids!! Last time I saw her, a few years ago, she had 5 and was waiting for number 6 to pop. But, mom was ALWAYS the queen!!! Even her own boyfriend did what she told him to do!!

[slatyb]

No, it's not that unusual. If a woman is a virgin at 40 I would be wondering whether she had any sex drive.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

You do understand that guys see that as a positive thing, right

[Asker]

Nope they question it

[Shrimpenjoyer]

Most guys don't darling

[aceleon]

preferable.

no one likes sluts aside from hook ups.

[Shrimpenjoyer]

You are a slut

[aceleon]

@Shrimpenjoyer what did you gain from calling me a slut?

[Shrimpenjoyer]

The point wasn't about gaining stuff

[aceleon]

@Shrimpenjoyer my pardons, i meant, what was the point of calling me a slut? bored and needed some shitty trolling to feel good about your misearable existance?

[Shrimpenjoyer]

Do you hook up?

[aceleon]

@Shrimpenjoyer yes, does this make me a slut? well good, then i am a proud slut.
but i won't hook up with you sooo... why does it even matter to you?

[Shrimpenjoyer]

It's hypocritical how you calling women sluts but you hook up yourself

[aceleon]

@Shrimpenjoyer yeah yeah how sad it is.
world is a hypocrticial place honey bun why would i ever bother with not being one too? what's in it for me? a miss guided sense of fairness? naah no thanks. while even biology itself supports my sluthood while it does the opposite for girls i see ABSOLUTLY no reason WHATSOEVER for being a proud male slut while treat woman who does hook ups as not sluts, i'm not gonna go with a guy so male sluthood has nothing to do with me, the sluthood that interests me is the girls since i am hetero and not a cuckold who gets off on that.

[aceleon]

@Shrimpenjoyer now if we are done, i'm going

[HighValue]

Not at all. It is much better than being promiscuous like the majority of women are.

[Shrimpenjoyer]

Women tend to be more judgmental bitches towards males in your situation, not the other way around.

[wkhan_87]

No ,,, it would be a plus point for your upcoming husband

[Kaneki05]

Nope not at all

[serious]

This is not a red flag at all.

[Imjustagirl1520]

No all men want virgin innocent little girls

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I think most won't care.

[Alex-Snow]

Not at all!!!