Is it a red flag if a girl is a virgin past 30?

[Anonymous]

I'm not saying there is anything wrong with being a virgin but after a certain age especially for a woman isn't it kind of a red flag like something is wrong with her?

Yes its a red flag

Nah not red flag but its weird to be that old and still a virgin

Nah women over 30 can be virgins and it's completely okay

[DaveJord]

I would not want to say its a RED FLAG because these women over 30 that are virgins get really defensive about it.

But let me say that I have seen this question before and I did some research on it I am not going to post the links and site any of these numbers you can look it yourself if you really care that much.

So approximately only 5% of women regardless of age are virgins when they get married.

85% of women loss their virginity by the age of 20, and 95% of women lose their virginity by the age 30... and the numbers go as low as 99.7% by by the age of 40.

So a 30 year old virgin is probably a virgin for a specific reason its not something they choose or did by accident. So to me that is a huge concern. Even die hard Christians they are married and having sex by the age of 30. So if you're virgin by the age of 30 the indications are that you have serious commitment issues or are other wise highly insecure about sex. Yes, yes... I get it you have a deeply committed to your faith, morals, values and religious believes... but even Christians get married and start fucking by the age of 30.

So to me its a definite pass, I mean she's a virgin at 30 and she is single... so she can't be the much of a catch. And for all these guys that say its not a concern, well I would question their motivation as to why they find it sexy.

[Asker]

Oh wow those numbers are surprising so it is a very small amount of women that stays virgins past 30. And yeah there is definitely some issues and any guy that thinks it's attractive is weird like a virgin at 20 is fine but by 30 they should have lived their life a little or gotten married. Those leftover 5% must be girls that are no good

[DaveJord]

No I am not saying they are no good... I never said that. I am just saying sex is literally a very natural thing so someone that got into their 30s and is still a virgin must have some type of suppressed issue about it or at the very least asexual... which is not a something I think most guys would find attractive.

Maybe she gets her first sniff and 30 plus and turns out to be sex bomb... I have no idea. But I am 45 and I would feel really weird taking someone's virginity' at 30. Because I don't date women that are not having sex with me until marriage... and taking a women virginity before I know I am committed for the long haul at 30 plus is weird to me... I would feel guilty because I am not looking of marriage and I must assume that any 30 year old virgin probably is. I have been in so many seriously committed type of relationships... and obviously if she is virgin she has not bein in a sexual relationship ever... so I am not comfortable with that.

But lots of guys have some type of virgin fetish... so the ones that are totally into I think are into it for the wrong reasons.

[DaveJord]

Plus I think I am pretty good when it comes to sex. Like I put out a lot of effort and do very well for myself. So I admire a women that has a little experience. Last time I had sex with a virgin I was 22 and she did not tell me until after the deed was done and I felt pretty terrible about it. Because it was just sex to me and nothing more.

The good news was that she choose me to lost it with because she was 20 and was ready and wasn't looking for a relationship anyway... so I dodged a bullet there. She was nice girl do not get me wrong, but it was one night stand.

[Asker]

Crazy she lost it on a one night stand and didn't say anything but I guess was ready for it

[U4ea0]

It means no other man has been there. It means statistically she is least likely to fuck around on you. You want to see a 40 year old virgin? Take a look at recently graduated female surgeons. Lots of them. You also have to understand that their aren't exactly many American men that are actually MEN any more. Most of the best quality men are married right after college.

[DaveJord]

@U4ea0 you ain't lying about these wannabee real men this generation is producing. The women are more like men and the men are more like little girls.. lol

[U4ea0]

I know. I'm a white South African who immigrated here during high school. I have never seen such vile women anywhere else on the planet (and there was no shortage of savage women where I came from).

[Lliam]

It would be a big yellow flag for sure, because I'd naturally wonder why she was still a virgin.
Is is fear of intimacy? Low libido? Religious hang ups? Some physical or mental problem? Saving it for marriage?
All those things would be unacceptable for me, personally.

I wouldn't automatically reject her for being a virgin. I don't have anything against virgins. Everyone was one once.

If we liked each other enough to go steady, I'd be willing to see if she DID have a strong libido and wanted to revel in unbridled sexuality. Who knows, she might be a wanton little freak who had never had a chance to live life before.

[Asker]

I also wonder why. And yes not hating on virgins at all in this questions. It's more of a age issue like why wait so long

[Thatgirlcvp]

I am 28 and still a virgin 😶 I don't see it as a bad thing. I am waiting for marriage. I am religious.

Why I am not married yet. I literally only get approached by dirty old men who are 40s 50s and 60s. I'm not interested in them and I can tell they see it as a notch on their belt than an actual relationship.

I never really met a guy my age that respected that I am waiting and they ruin the relationship but trying to get me to sleep with them.

Even though men tell me I am really attractive I don't get approached that much. I see guys checking me out all the time and I can tell they find me attractive but I rarely get a guy approaching me. Except for a older man lol they'll always approach me.

I feel like the guys in my area are really afraid and it's hard to meet people here. I've been to other states where guys have had more guts.

It is a little embarrassing that I'm not married yet and I'm like waiting for marriage and everything. But at the same time 30 is young. Getting married and having kids shouldn't be my main priority. Like I am getting my masters right now so at least I have goals and things I am achieving right now. If I happen to meet someone, I'll meet someone. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. Thats what I like to think.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Thatgirlcvp Are you very traditional? Do you believe that women need to wait to be asked by men?

[Thatgirlcvp]

@Jamie05rhs I'm traditional for the most part. I have asked probably five guys in my lifetime for their number before. Every single one if them never worked out. It's not for me though making the first move. It's so nervewracking. The guy will think you are desperate or slutty since he doesn't have to do any work and he'll be disrespectful/take you for granted.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Thatgirlcvp I understand the nervewracking part.

"The guy will think you are desperate or slutty since he doesn't have to do any work and he'll be disrespectful/take you for granted.". These are all myths, though. (I certainly wouldn't think ANY of those things!)

[Thatgirlcvp]

@Jamie05rhs are you inviting me to come hit on you 🤔

[Jamie05rhs]

@thatgirlcvp Lol! I wasn't; but you're not forbidden from doing so! :)

[Paulalove98]

I wouldn’t say a red flag. Maybe she’s waiting for marriage or she hasn’t found the right person? Personally everyone has a different timing but I couldn’t picture myself waiting that long even tho I was a late bloomer since I had lost my virginity at 22. I’d be a little shocked if I met a girl or guy at work and we became friends or something and they mention being a virgin but I wouldn’t judge them, it’s their life it’d just be like a little shocking like wow they waited this long but everyone should have sex when their ready and comfortable.

[Paulalove98]

I grew up in a religious home being pushed to wait for marriage and I never did lol.. not every woman has to or should follow what their family is teaching them to do or religion. Sex is when you’re ready and feel right in that time even if it’s before marriage.

[WhiteBoyChill]

So did you feel comfortable with the idea of having sex when you were 20? I mean my sister and I grew up in the same home, and she’s already lost hers at 19 and insists its totally fine, no regrets and yet I just don’t feel comfortable doing it myself

[U4ea0]

You have to understand that some women don't share the priorities of must people. When I was in medical school (just a couple of years ago), most of the a women were virgins. And more than a few of the men. Why? Well, dating is very time consuming and a distraction. If you plan to get into a field like ours, you have to sacrifice. Medical school is about the equivalent of 80 hours of regular university a year.

Who knows what the reason is. Men don't care about a woman's sexual experience. She can lay on her back and not move and he will stick get his.

[Asker]

I get those reasons but still sad that they didn't have any love in their lives. And some men Def do care My husband liked that I knew how to suck dick before him and prob wouldn't have stayed with me if I wasn't experienced with that. Also the girl needs experience for herself too for her learn what feels good. Sex is not all about just pleasing the guy

[U4ea0]

No, but I'm sure they know exactly what pleases themselves. I've always kept my chasing of women to moderate socially acceptable levels. I would be turned off by a woman who claimed to have lots of past experience.

[Asker]

It's stereotypical for a man to say they don't want a girl with experience but y'all actions are different then what y'all will say. Like my husband would say the same shit cuz he didn't realize before that I had any sort of past experiences. It was till much later on like in marriage that it came out and he said that my experience ended up being good thing and benefited him and grew our relationship. Men who claim they like women with no experience are really just fooling themselves. Especially when women start getting up there in age. No experience for them is really a bad thing

[U4ea0]

The flaw in reasoning assumes that prior experience actually means said prior experience will actually benefit ALL men. There isn't a universal technique and I have viewed most "technique" to be down right irritating. Most of my male friends have similar complaints. There is no one size fits all approach to this. And honestly, sex just isn't that hard.

[Asker]

Not sure what you mean by technique since sex should be different everytime there is no set way to have sex unless a couple is extremely boring

[Paulalove98]

@Apple1996 makes total sense! I agree with you.. I heard about a lady who was 40 and never had sex like that’s crazy. It’s sad in a way cause their missing out. It’s only fair they have an outside life out of a career or school but I guess for some women or men it’s not that important. To me it is and that’s why I didn’t waste much time after high school and college and decided to experience sex at 22.

[U4ea0]

I first experienced sex when a 22 year old woman took advantage of me (I was a native white South African new to tbe USA). She got pregnant then got herself killed leaving me a single father). I was 16.

[ChiTown33]

This reminds me of a segment on the news the other day about former Olympian track star Lolo Jones. She has made the news before about remaining a virgin for her future husband. I didn't even remember what the segment was about I think it had to do with fertility. But she was crying on camera because apparently she hasn't found her future husband yet. And she just turned 40. So she was saving her eggs.

I think it's always a good thing when a woman saves herself for her future husband. But part of me wonders what Lolo Jones's standards are. One thing life has taught me is all you can do is your best. Use your head, exercise patience, invest in and care for people who invest in and care for you. And sometimes it still doesn't always work out. Love is not always easy and at times can be messy. But try your best to not let it crippling you from being able to love.

[Asker]

40 and still waiting is just sad 😔 and yes love isn't easy but definitely worth it. Seems like waiting so long those people wouldn't be having much love in their life. This question is definitely deeper then the virginity part since most older virgins don't get into relationships either so no relationships or love then they are missing out on a essential part of life.

[ChiTown33]

"Essential" to some. Not so essential to others.

[Alwayreckles93]

I think you are pretty cool sweet person. But I don't agree with this question. I see nothing wrong about a 30 year old woman being a virgin , What if she want to save herself to her husband. This is one of the issues I have when I go on dates. Even if I'm divorce I am always honest and straight forward with guys I date I mean these man are 30 year olds and they want sex I tell them well that's not going to happen marriage needs to happen for sex to happen and they live. Yeah I don't agree in a lot of things with people my own generation.

[Asker]

I think it's fine for women to save themselves for the right man but past 30 and can't find a husband is also a red flag. Being divorced and trying to find someone new is totally different.

[jengeorge26]

@Apple1996. I agree with you

[WhiteBoyChill]

@Apple1996 Not necessarily. Good guys (and good women) are in very short supply nowadays. Some people just have a hard time finding the right one.

Either that or they’ve just become very busy with work and family and haven’t had enough time to search.

[Asker]

@WhiteBoyChill that's just being picky lol

[jengeorge26]

@Apple1996 good answer

[VIVANT]

Not caring for sex is not strange for the people who do not care about it 🤷🏻‍♀️ Totally normal. I would not care if I never have sex but if I’d do want sex id def wait bc people are crazy and I do not want diseases — even a paper w/ test results can’t tell you exactly the last time a person had sex.

Many people may also be waiting. You are young but mature and with an entire family, but 30 is still young for a lot of people they have not sorted out their relationships yet. Many are not mature enough and we’re lucky they are not having sex & making babies 😮‍💨

[Asker]

Very true might be a maturity thing

[VIVANT]

I mean there can be many reasons— I’m just saying for people who are not ready it’s good they wait. Waiting doesn’t necessarily
mean being not ready tho. Some people wait bc they know exactly what they want having met it and won’t settle. Illness can get in the way. Abuse. Work schedule. Spiritual reason. Location. Caring for a sick family member. Just not being into anyone they met.

I don’t think not having sex in itself means much. The reason can just be anything. But it’s best not to stigmatize it and have people feeling they should rush —bc there people out there who should not have sex lol

It is pretty weird when I think about it how we’d becomes a thing other people care if you do or not it’s like caring if someone gets massages. Just a kind of intimate thing to be a public concern —-tho obviously if you’re gonna sage someone, you want to know id they like sex.

[Asker]

Eh I definitely care for these people cause in my eyes it kind of seems like a delay like they aren't developing the same as other people their own age. Which is a problem just because it is unhealthy. Not that everyone needs to do things all at the same ages but there is a general age range like teens-early 20s that is normal to be getting sexual experience. Any later then that I'd for real want them to go to therapy and see what is holding them back in life.

[TonyMetal___86]

@VIVANT if you are a virgin girl, it ain't no surprise to me skyscrapper girl but i'm wondering if someday you got married, how you're husband will able to reach you, maybe he must climb the skyscrapper's girl leg 🤣🤣

[VIVANT]

@Apple1996

Not very one is going to want to have sex in their life and many people will be very particular about it. My guess is there are going to be far more people regretting who they had sex with than who they didn’t have sex with. People having sex just to get it done it’s no problem but not everyone wants to do that and people end up doing just that. The amount of Turks I hear people having gruesome first times or just doing it to appease the other person. I wonder how much sex people Wouk’s when if having relationships without sex was normal. I don't know how much of the sex people have is bc they enjoy it is obligatory. I’m not saying people only have sex for obligation but you bring up that maybe something is psychologically wrong them. I think a person who is waiting for their own radian is probably healthier psychologically than someone having sex with someone they don’t want to have sex with or out of obligation.

[VIVANT]

The fact people have sex by a certain age doesn’t mean they wanted to or liked it. Or the fact someone doesn’t want to when sex with people they are not into, doesn’t mean there is something wrong with them. Some people knit want love-sex (independent of marriage) and it is very possible to go through life without meeting someone you love. Some people will never meat or drive cars or drink beer. Some people don’t have sexual organs for it either get can still be adults. Just way too much pressure out in sex and what about people who simply can’t, and will never, are they some kind of alien no. Just living their life 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t care for sex bit I like physical contact and can become somewhat Into sex I’m in love and the guy is really into. In sexual contact. That is RARE most guys can enjoy contact but with sex and I also very rarely fall for people in general and I didn’t see sex as something I need to do so who knows. I may very well never have sex in my future and I’d feel disgusted if I had sex with someone who was only touching en to get sex even if they genuinely likes me. I really hate the way sex becomes the be all end all of touch— I’d rather have no sex at all than have it as a means to an end. So I really may never have sex. What would be holding me back is incomparability.

[VIVANT]

Also @Apple this is just discussion I didn’t ema this argumentatively 😊 I know you are coming from a good place and I respect you.

[Jamie05rhs]

@VIVANT I agree with you completely. I've got your back, girl! ✊

[Th3ft]

I wouldn’t say it is a red flag but it is something to question. As far as I know my cousin is close to fourty at this point and still a virgin and it isn’t that she hasn’t been seeking love she just has never found a guy that worked with her personality. It’s sad but it isn’t a red flag. And I think anyone interested in a a person would be more inspired by their resolve to save it until marriage more then concerned by why they might not have love.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Exactly man. Some people just want to wait for marriage

[Asker]

Sad to hear about your cousin😕

[Th3ft]

@Apple1996 thanks! I don’t know how she is as sweet as she is at this point. Lol! Like she is a total catch! And somehow no one has scooped her off her feet.

[BlueScorpio]

No. People have put to much pressures on others to just have sex and get rid of their virginity instead sharing it with someone who's worthy of having it. They think waiting is a waste of time and that being a virgin is old school. To many people are bonding with the wrong people and wonder why their relationships don't work. You're soul tying yourself to every person you sleep with, that's why it's so hard for many people, man and woman, to truly fall in love or trust again.

[Kabluie]

No big deal. Some want to wait for right person.

One of my previous girlfriends was 26 when she lost her virginity to me. I think she was demisexual. Where you don't feel sexually attracted to someone unless you have an emotional bond with them. For some that could mean a bit of time or little further in a relationship.

[JDavid25]

It's fine.. Although, in the West where it's encouraged for women to have sex practically, I would have questions.. But it would be more of a pleasant surprise than weirded out or a red flag.. It would also depend on the explanation, like if she just had fantastic self control and wanted to do the act with the man she loves..

[MTC29]

It's a bit unusual. Nevertheless, based on life circumstances: working on graduate or post graduate degrees, focusing on her career, or being committed to finding Mister Right and not interested in flings of one-night stands.

[whereismyjohnny]

No. Why would it be? It’s their life and therefore their choice. Maybe they are waiting for marriage or simply don’t want to sleep with just anyone and are looking for a deeper connection/building trust with someone before doing it. Whatever the reason is behind it, it’s their business.

[Anonymous]

if she's waited until 30+ then it's likely due to moral or religious reasons on her part. but could also be that she had less chances due to lack on interest in her for verse reasons. could also be she was focused on her career and lost track of time for dating or hookups.

although prime breeding range for the average women to naturally have her first child is roughly 16-35 if she's healthy. so if she desires a family it's best she tries to get something going during that window. otherwise it may require medical and/or pharmaceutical help for her to get pregnant.

[CrazyGirl2]

I hate these double standards, but in this case it really is more often than not true. Women over 29 who are still virgins are more often than not virgins by choice (usually religious)! If a man is over 29 and still a virgin, more often than not, it is NOT by choice, and if he were given the opportunity, he would have taken it!
(I am only referring to people in 1st world western democracies) As I am not familiar enough with non western democratic nations to opine on them.

[Paulalove98]

What IS messed up though if some of those women were raised in families where it's awful and disgusting to have sex before marriage IF that woman chooses not to wait instead which i did even though my old fashioned father thought i should save myself for marriage, even tho he didn't at the end of the day its our bodies and choices to make and even if i wasn't raised like that i probably still wouldve felt this way because im a sexual being naturally i think it is wrong if some of these women want to have sex but will feel ashamed and bashed if they do deciding otherwise due to fear perhaps. Anyway im glad i didn't let any of that hold me back and chose to lose it when i was 22.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Paulalove98 Personally, I would have just liked to have HAD that choice for myself! I was raped on my 13th birthday by an uncle! I must say though, I am REALLY confused that your father was upset that you had sex before marriage? HOW THE FRICK DID HE EVEN KNOW? I mean at 22, the only way he could have known was if you told him, ESPECIALLY given that you were 22? I guess I’m confused as to why any woman would ever talk to her father about sex? First, it’s not like you are so close that he would have understood and supported your decision no matter what! But second, I really AM close with my dad, he’s always had my back, and been my biggest supporter, but talking to him about my sexuality… Ewww!

[Paulalove98]

@CrazyGirl2 he definitely doesn’t know but he will probably be bringing this up about marriage under the eyes of God with whatever guy I’m serious about in the future even tho it’s NONE of his business! For real. I’be just said it’s everyone’s individual choice to decide not their parents

[Thatgirlcvp]

This is random and something I would like to add to something you said. But guys I have kind of dated in the past, it was like who ever I dated my family hated and they would go hardcore out of their way to make me break up with the guy. It was always like I was settling for him, he wasn't hot enough for me, I'm too good for him or they just plain didn't like him even though they never met him. They just saw pictures or overheard the nice stuff I was doing in the relationship and then they would be like well what is he doing for you since you are kind enough to do that for him. My family wants me to get married but don't want to meet the guy/are against it even though I'm like almost 30. They're too toxic. Just annoying to have family like that in your life. I keep my dating life private now.

[Jamie05rhs]

@CrazyGirl2 I have to take issue with your original statement, respectfully. Religion isn't tied to gender. Guys can be religious, too. (I am one.)

[CrazyGirl2]

@Jamie05rhs Jamie, I never said, wrote, or even inferred that religion was in any way tied to gender… AT ALL! Jesus I have a very Jewish Mom and a Very Protestant Dad, I’m well aware that gender and religion are as connected as chocolate cake and an onion! All I did was mention that in the OVERWHELMING amount of cases, women who are over 30 but have never had sex, chose not to have sex because of (usually) her religious beliefs. Obviously there are exceptions, and I’m only referring to people on average, not specifically!
I am certain that men and women can be equally religious, just like they can be equally against religion. My POINT is that the MAIN reason for a woman to still be a virgin after age 30, is most likely her religious beliefs! Men, on the other hand, despite their religious beliefs, if given the opportunity to have sex, especially with a beautiful young woman… yeah, they’ll usually take it… Especially if he is approaching 30 and still a virgin!
How on Earth does that even come close to insinuating that men are not as religious as women? It’s just that we women have so much to loose from an unintended pregnancy (Including opportunities to find a husband) that religion offers us the perfect “Excuse” Also in OUR society, if a woman is 31 and still a virgin, she is actually MORE desirable to religious men. Whereas a 31yo man who is still a virgin, even religious women start thinking “what’s wrong with him, that like nobody has been willing to have sex with him?” It’s one of those sad double standards I mentioned my dislike of earlier, and I still dislike it, but none-the-less, it’s still true… On average!

[Jamie05rhs]

"Men, on the other hand, despite their religious beliefs, if given the opportunity to have sex, especially with a beautiful young woman… yeah, they’ll usually take it… Especially if he is approaching 30 and still a virgin!"
"How on Earth does that even come close to insinuating that men are not as religious as women?". LOL. It's insinuating EXACTLY that! You make it sound like religious males don't care about their religion At All. That they would just take a huge steamy dump on their religious beliefs just for the chance to "get laid."
That is PRECISELY what You JUST SAID. 🤷

[Jamie05rhs]

"It’s just that we women have so much to loose from an unintended pregnancy (Including opportunities to find a husband) that religion offers us the perfect “Excuse”"
But that's not what you said before. You said the women are virgins by CHOICE.

[Jamie05rhs]

But I agree with you on the double standards!

[CrazyGirl2]

@Jamie05rhs Yes Einstein, women actually have so much more too loose through an unplanned pregnancy… So that COMBINED with her faith, make her Just THAT 🤏🏼much more hesitant to loose her virginity. That’s all I meant! You are clearly looking for a goddamn fight, you’ve been trolling me from the beginning!
You accused me of implying that men don’t have as much faith as women, even though I went out of my way to type the words that I DO NOT believe that! Now your just being a troll, especially when you start cutting and pasting my words, out of order, removing the context just to somehow “prove” you know MORE about what I’m thinking than I do! I’m done playing this bullshit game with you!
Saddest part about this, is that I used to actually like and respect you! Enjoy your new life as a troll 🧌 I’m done with you!

[Jamie05rhs]

@CrazyGirl2 Hey.
Hold on.
I'm not trying to fight you. :)
We're just having a discussion here.

Ok?

We have been friends for a long time. Nothing has changed. I still respect you. I still think you're cool. Just because I disagree with something you said does NOT mean I hate you, nor does it mean you are my enemy! Neither is true! 💛

[CrazyGirl2]

@ @Jamie05rhs Anyone is FREE to disagree w/ me, but that wasn’t just disagreeing, you were badgering me all through this! Once I told you that I did NOT believe that women or men had any more faith than the other, that SHOULD have been the end of it! I was clear, I was not saying what you thought I was saying, and I clarified it for you, as far as faith goes, we are the same! But anyone who believes that men & women have the same self control sexually, or even just making out, where it could become sexual… is crazy! Girls win there! No man is pushing girls’ hand’s away every 3 ½ mins, telling her “Stop, I said NO, don’t ruin such a great night, by getting TOO handsy… Please?” But EVERY guy I’ve EVER made out with has at LEAST tried up my skirt, up my shirt, down my blouse, & down my panties, after I said no. I understand debate, I love debate, but that felt like an attack. You ignored my explanation and carried on as if I said nothing to you, except “women have more faith than men!”

[CrazyGirl2]

@Jamie05rhs Like we both acknowledged, we’ve been friends for a long time…. Let’s not let ONE disagreement destroy that! It’s late, we’re both tired, and. I’m putting this down to a misunderstanding, because I choose to believe the best of you, and I don’t think someone should be defined by ONE disagreement.

[Jamie05rhs]

@CrazyGirl2 I believe the best in you, too! ❤️ I just didn't like what you said, because you were talking about people like ME. And it was incorrect. So I had to correct it. Does that make sense?

But I won't talk about it anymore if you don't want to.

[Jamie05rhs]

I understand you relating your personal experience with men, and how that can shape your view of how they are. I get that. I'm just trying to help you see that not all guys are like that.

And I'm sorry you have had to deal with those immature assholes.

[Jamie05rhs]

But yes, I would be the one to physically push her off of me. And I would even end the date if necessary.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Jamie05rhs Right, which would make YOU the exception I mentioned when I wrote that obviously not everyone, but “ON AVERAGE”, when I discussed that guys would most likely go for the sex over the religeon. Jamie, as far as this goes from a women's standpoint I can talk about me, possibly my closest friends, and ALL the guys I’ve made out with in my life! You can discuss YOU. (And possibly some of your closest friends” and that’s it, because YOU don’t make out w/ guys! I on the other hand do, and I have NEVER kissed a guy, who did not at LEAST touch my boobs repeatedly after I already said no, and most took it much further than just my boobs. My closest friends all have exactly the same experiences. That’s what on average means… it means that on one end are the guys who never took it seriously at all! At the other end are the guys who absolutely mean it and are DEF not having sex until marriage! Everyone else lies in the middle, the average zone, where a few won’t have sex, and most will! It’s how averages work. Look, the average age for America boys to loose their virginity is 16½, and the average age for girls is 17¼ . There are very few married 16 OR 17 y/o in America and if that isn’t specific enough to the church for you, I have a true story about purity rings and hand jobs! Care to guess which one won, the purity rings, or the hand jobs (on church grounds)?

[Jamie05rhs]

@CrazyGirl2 Sorry; I just saw this comment!

And okay; I suppose that makes sense. I gotcha.

Oh my goodness...

[CrazyGirl2]

@Jamie05rhs Well I certainly thank you for your courtesy in reconsidering your stance on what I wrote, and the intent behind it. I am glad you now understand what it was I was actually trying to covey, and that I clearly was not suggesting that either sex has more faith than the other.
Thanks again, Laura 😘

[Jamie05rhs]

Absolutely! :)

[ArtemisSilver]

Maybe a little. But having a lot of sexual experience isn't what men serious about an ltr are generally looking for.

[Asker]

Not saying the other option is a girl with experience. Like a younger girl 18-25 that is a virgin is still a option. I'm saying that past 30 seems like there is a issue

[ArtemisSilver]

Yeah, I'd think there's something odd afoot probably but I'd give her a chance

[exitseven]

Everyone has different life experiences and situations. There can be many reasons why someone has remained a Virgin for so long. I would not hold it against her

[qwert1234]

Ofcourse not.

But it opens the question, why?

Is it because she is saving it for the one?

Is it because she can't find a relationship because of her attitude?

[GeneralContractor]

It is a huge red flag if a woman is not married by 29. Virgin however, save it for marriage.

[Asker]

Yess im talking about marriage, relationships and love too. Seems like all red flags if they can't get a guy or are so extremely picky

[GeneralContractor]

A woman can be picky as she wants, as long as she meets the standards of the type of man she seeks.

[dustybiker]

I wouldn’t think something was wrong. I would think she would have good reason. She could have had rotten luck with men. Broken trust. Fear of the unknown or something more personal.

[KelleyNice]

Unmarried virgins are desirable until about age 21 or maybe 22. After that, if they are still virgins, they are undesirables.

[RedThread]

I don't bother myself with what other people choose to do with their lives as long as they're not hurting anyone. If people want to be virgins or celibate or whatever that's their business.

[Labelleame]

It's not a red flag. I don't know why being virgin is shamed on this site but incest and gang bangs are normalized.

[Asker]

Incest isn't normal. Gangbangs is prob normal tho. I'm not shaming any virgins I just think it's concerning for a woman of that age to still be a virgin/have no love life

[TonyMetal___86]

@labelleame i admire and encourage every virgin girl...

[Labelleame]

@TonyMetal___86 Then I'm glad people like you exist amidst all the conceited f**ks you find here.

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks miss labelleame and i'm glad because precious girls like you exists 😊

[WhiteBoyChill]

@labelleame Hopefully you’ll find a great man someday. I’d love to have someone of your type.

[Labelleame]

@WhiteBoyChill Thank you :)

[VIVANT]

You can have “love life” without having sex. In Most often sex is not connected to love at all.

[Lonestarryzky]

Like someone else has mentioned, she is a green flag, she is waiting for the right person. In a world where abortion, sexual orientation, dress code etc. are all not to be judged, people keep on judging virginity.

[Asker]

Everything will always be judged. That's just the way life is lol. And being 30 and still waiting isn't healthy. They should have dated sooner and found that person earlier on

[Lonestarryzky]

Lol 30 and still waiting is not healthy? There are people who choose to stay alone and still find happiness and satisfaction. Everyone is different and has their own preference. If she isn't so eager for sex then she can stay virgin as long as she wishes.

[Asker]

It's not healthy to do that. It's literally depriving themselves from a essential part of life. Love, relationships and sex is something that everyone needs. If someone is content without that then I'm a concerned for them and their mental health

[WhiteBoyChill]

@Apple1996 Not necessarily. Some people just have goals and education that they are working towards. What about doctors? Many of them have to go to graduate school for 8 years on top of 4 years of college.

[WhiteBoyChill]

It doesn’t automatically mean something negative about a person just because they’re a virgin. It simply means they find themselves in an unfortunate situation if they’ve had to wait that long, for whatever the reason may have been

[Asker]

@WhiteBoyChill doctors tend to ignore all their relationships (friends/family) in there life which isn't healthy. But still even a good amount of them eventually find love before 30

[WhiteBoyChill]

And that isn’t because they don’t necessarily want those things. Its just harder to achieve when you’re busier than the average person

[Kontrvnote]

Someone got married and had kids by the age of 25 and now all the women who doesn't must have something wrong with them.

[Asker]

This question is about virginity not marriage and babies. Women that are 30+ virgins tho shouldn't be having childern unless she's using frozen eggs from when she was younger just to prevent any issues in her kids

[Fuentes]

Lol it's a red flag and weird af if you ask me

[Asker]

For sure is very weird

[FilmGuy93]

It's not a red flag, but it's more just a curiosity to me. I have to know why she's still a virgin.

[FictionalCharacter]

Because she didn’t settle for less

[FilmGuy93]

@FictionalCharacter that can mean a lot of different things too though. Some women don’t settle for men who are genuinely deficient, other women are refusing to settle for fantastic men who just don’t meet an insane “standard.”

[AviatorTom]

No, could actually be a green flag... she's waiting for the right person. And there's nothing wrong with not being virgin.

[Anonymous]

Good duck finding a girl who is a virgin past 20years old. By that time, they’ve had at least 2-5 partners and have done a bunch of crazy sex stuff. Virgins are good because you have a sense of security they don’t have std’s and carrying emotional baggage from previous relationships. You also get to experience everything for the first time with them.

[Asker]

I don't think that's the issue. There are a lot of virgin girls in their 20s and only want one partner. The issue is when these girls hit 30+ and still never been on a date and are hoping for Mr. Right to magically show up. So they claim to be saving themselves. Something seems off about those girls. Like they are the leftover women that nobody wants type of thing

[Opinion Owner]

Usually in those cases I’ve noticed these women are actually a bit special in the head, so naturally they either don’t want a relationship until mr perfect comes or they just don’t have the capacity to date. Even though women can easily find a man, it must be a problem with themselves. I know a lot of women who may not be virgins but can’t hold a man because they are crazy or have other serious issues.

[Anpu23]

Unless there is a religious reason its pretty odd. Not a red flag but odd.

[Sixgunsound]

I’d want to know why for sure, and assume there is a story.

[jengeorge26]

Yea it is kinda weird to never have had sex at 30 years old

[RealDaveThomas]

Uhhh, I'm a virgin at 33. Does that make me weird?

[jengeorge26]

@RealDaveThomas maybe? But you are still sweet

[Paulalove98]

I’m not trying to sound mean but I agree with you… sex isn’t everything but it’s a really fun, exciting pleasure I don’t know how someone could wait so long. Maybe I just have a high sex drive and very in tuned with my sexuality but sheesh those people are missing out.

[genericname85]

i wouldn't say a "red flag" but it would certainly make me curious why a woman would wait for that long.

[Alwayreckles93]

Maybe she want to save herself for marriage. Women shouldn't be sexual active until for marriage and only to her husband no one else.

[genericname85]

@Alwayreckles93 yeah maybe and if that's the case, that was the first and last date.

[MikeInHawaii]

If she has morals, it’s fine. If it’s involuntary, something is wrong.

[TacosRAwesome]

For me it's neutral but the reason behind it might be red flags.

[Likes2drive]

It’s unusual and makes you wonder why they are waiting so long but not weird

[Anonymous]

It's not a red flag. Most people probably find it odd for someone in their 30's to still be a virgin.

[byrdman89]

I think it would depend a lot on why she was a virgin at 30

[OddBeMe]

Yes red flag, but not a bad one.

Its really why she's a virgin thats the red flags.

[dolemite89]

ya i’d assume past a certain age if they were a virgin they have social problems or a disorder of some sort.

[Chthou95]

No. But i would wonder why considering that losing your virginity as a woman is much easier than it is for men

[WhiteBoyChill]

The opposite. It means she has self control and had higher life priorities she’d been pursuing

[Asker]

To a certain age it's self control but past like mid 20s it's either they are asexual or have mental issues

[WhiteBoyChill]

What’s wrong with being asexual?

[Asker]

That it's not normal for humans to asexual

[WhiteBoyChill]

It occurs naturally, its just uncommon

[Asker]

And honestly I'm more talking about women that have opportunities to and want to be with a man but choose to stay a virgin cuz they are being picky. Not a sexual or one's that are legitimately busy in life with other goals

[WhiteBoyChill]

What’s the big deal about losing your virginity? Some people just really don’t care that much compared to their desire for a spouse

[Asker]

Then they should find a spouse earlier on in life to have a relationship and for sex. Waiting till 30+ all their good years of life are behind them

[WhiteBoyChill]

I agree they’re in a much worse spot but who am I to judge them because of it?

I dont know what went on in their lives

[poneglyphs]

I have no I'm almost 30 and still a virgin 🥺🥺🥺🥺

@Apple1996

[Asker]

For a man it's a little different. Men take longer to mature so I don't have any judgmental towards men and virginity

[Fundraising]

For someone who is married you have no maturity or understanding of life

[Asker]

@Fundraising I'm probably more mature then most people my age

[Fundraising]

No you are not. You are delusional with no understanding of life

[Thatgirlcvp]

Wow I would be so happy to find a virgin guy to date. You guys are so rare. I am a virgin too but I'm waiting for marriage. Don't feel bad about being a virgin. It's a smart decision to wait since that is what God wants in the bible. Keep it up and find the right girl! :)

[Jamie05rhs]

@Fundraising Do you have any basis for your attacks on @Apple1996, or are you just being rude out of spite?

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh, nvm. She deleted her account. How convenient. 🙄

[Jamie05rhs]

@Thatgirlcvp You are awesome.

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs what's weird is her account was super new and she only was ever on this question. Makes me think someone just wanted to troll me 😂

[Thatgirlcvp]

@Jamie05rhs
Thank you kind sir

[Jamie05rhs]

@Thatgirlcvp You're welcome!

But, I think you blocked me? I don't know why, though. Lol. Did we ever have an argument? Maybe lol I don't know 🤷

[Jamie05rhs]

@Apple1996 Yeah. I think you're right!

[Thatgirlcvp]

@Jamie05rhs

Yeah I noticed that too. I was going to say something about it. I blocked you on accident. What I did is, I get f/rs all the time. And I don't want any friends on here, I just want to fly under the radar and answer questions here and there. It's nothing personal against you or anyone out there. Plus you are really nice and you are a good man. There is this fast way with declining a f/r that I discovered. You can block and unblock someone and it just gets rid of their f/r faster. So I did that to your old f/r but I forgot to unblock you lol. Sorry about that.

[Thatgirlcvp]

Maybe I should write in my profile I am not looking for friends? Maybe I'll get less f/rs

[Jamie05rhs]

@Thatgirlcvp Okay; thanks for explaining. I apologize if I offended you by sending you a follow request. I won't follow you if you don't want me to.

[Jamie05rhs]

And thank you for the compliment! That's very kind of you.

[Thatgirlcvp]

@Jamie05rhs Oh don't worry you didn't offend me at all.

[Thatgirlcvp]

@Jamie05rhs You're welcome as well 😌 you deserve it.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks! :). I'm going to answer your comment now. Please don't be offended lol.

[Berethor]

I prefer a virgin over a ho so it's not weird to me, but she might be running out of time for children.

[Guy13]

Well look here, the Virgin Apple finally comes clean ;-)

[Asker]

Not asking this for myself. Everyone here knows I'm constantly pregnant and ain't no mother Mary

[TonyMetal___86]

Chose C
In my opinion a woman should stay a virgin till she's married, no matter how old she gets!
I'll find it weird if she ain't virgin and not married!

[Asker]

Here in the US only 3% of women get married as virgins so it's pretty rare

[TonyMetal___86]

I know and it's becoming rare worldwide but that's the right thing to do...
A girl should give herself only to her husband!
What's the difference between a h*e and a woman who had sex with multiple men before marriage?

Still there are special cases, a girl who was raped is still a virgin in my eyes and women who are divorced can't be blamed too!

A girl's virginity is important to me because it says a lot of things about her...

[Asker]

Eh I gave my virginity to my husband before marriage and I don't think it really made any difference in our relationship. Virginity really isn't anything special

[TonyMetal___86]

Well in your case there ain't no difference cause you still have given you're virginity to the man whom you married...

Don't have a problem with that, still you did the right thing!

Maybe it ain't special for you but it's special to us men!

If a man doesn't appreciates the virginity of his girl than he ain't a real man because a girl needs to feel appreciated and admired for her virginity and to show her that it's something special cause it's truly something special especially in this era unlike the past when the majority of women were virgins cause that was the norm...

[Asker]

My guy doesn't see it as special either. Just happened to be that we lost it to each other then stayed together. Wasn't planned that we'd get married and have kids

[Asker]

I had some experience with oral before him and he thinks it's hot that I was a mouth hoe before him lol

[TonyMetal___86]

That's pretty weird!
Why you're laughing miss apples? Did you enjoy being a mouth h*e 🤔

Don't make yourself cheap, you know that you have some good sides but also have some bad sides and now some weird sides 😏

A man who thinks that it's hot for his wife to be a mouth h*e with guys before him...🤨

That's some weird sh*t 😂

I think that you like being naughty sometimes miss apples and having some wild imaginations haha

[Asker]

I didn't enjoy it was just neutral for me
And no it's not weird lots of guys are into naughty girls and think they are attractive

[TonyMetal___86]

A naughty girl is attractive only when gets naughty on the man that she loves and a girl can be naughty as much as she wants with her husband but other than that nope...

Respectful girls who are decent are the girls who attracts me, also funny ones!

[Hardworkingguy]

I would be very curious to talk to her and understand why she's still a virgin

[TallAnon]

It would strike me as odd, maybe not a red flag, but yellow for sure

[Drumlin2001]

Your not saying anything negative but your saying it's a red flag. Seems a bit contradictory

[Asker]

Cuz I have nothing against virgins. It's the age thing that is the red flag

[Drumlin2001]

So you are saying that being a virgin at the age of 30 is a negative thing?

[Asker]

1000% yes. There is something wrong with that especially as a woman. I mentioned this in another comment but it shows that person is behind in life and probably needs therapy to work towards getting back on track

[Fundraising]

Since when is sex important and needing therapy? You must be a slut who sleeps with everyone i guess

[Asker]

@Fundraising I've only ever had sex with my husband. I just started at a proper age that is healthy

[Fundraising]

@Apple1996
No you didn't. You wrote you already knew how to give head. And you are saying you only slept with your hubby?
And you are 25 and have a hubby? Omg

[Asker]

@Fundraising oral doesn't count as virginity and yes I've been married since I was 19

[Fundraising]

@Apple1996
You must be crazy then and gotten pregnant eary on. Typical.
Not everyone has the desire to produce like rats adding to the worlds population
And 30-35 isn't old. Past 35 is getting older. Past 37 is older.

Grow up a little. Imagine having babies and being this immature and clueless

[Asker]

@Fundraising there is nothing wrong with having babies young. That's the right age for women to have them. Having babies past 30 is risky. And yes 30-35 is old I'm planning on becoming a grandpa in my 30s

[Asker]

Grandma*

[Asker]

@Fundraising you don't know me irl so you don't know my maturity or how I parent

[Fundraising]

Wtf grandma at 30 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Which world do you live in? You are 4 years away from 30 so you are turning old too soon
1996 borns are 26 this year lmao 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Fundraising]

You are really delusional because even your child won't get pregnant in 4 years omg wtf 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

@Fundraising uh it's possible I will have grown teenage and 20 year old sons when I'm in my 30s

[Fundraising]

In 4 years 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 your sons will turn 20 omg 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

@Fundraising I'm saying in my 30s not when I'm 30. I will have a 12-13 year old when I turn 30

[Fundraising]

Omg this is insane 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you got pregnant and trapped the guy into marrying you didn't you? @Apple1996

[Asker]

@Fundraising my husband is more into the idea of marriage and wanted it especially for his job. To me it's just a piece of paper. I'd be happy with or without marriage

[Drumlin2001]

Not quite sure how this got hijacked. Anyway, sorry if it seemed I was having a dig, I wasn't. It just felt like you were originally sitting on the fence rather than being completely honest.
I agree, being a vrigin at such a late age is unusual, and in some cases it will mean that people haven't had the experience with relationships that give them a good understanding of how to handle a proper one. There maybe some who have had relationships but just chosen to abstain from sex.
I was a virgin till 35, no experience what so ever, not even a kiss. I went for therapy for other reasons but this came up and my shrink helped me. I've had one failed relationship, some casual dating and am now engaged with kids. I still make mistakes, my OH is pretty forgiving.

[Asker]

Sorry about that. Hate taking over someone else's comment. That's great you went to therapy and talked about it. And very good that you have a sweet wife. I am happy for you!

[Drumlin2001]

Not your fault. There are some difficult people on here.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Nah women over 30 can be virgins and it's completely okay

[MCheetah]

No. If anything, that's a green flag. (Not that it matters to me, either way.)

[Marked_Man]

Check out all the manwhores and sluts voting that it's weird. Of course it's ok to be female virgin.

[Anonymous]

Society and the media finds it more shocking for women to be that way than for men since women normally don't have to be the ones to pursue or go after a guy and hence why Hollywood and the media stigmatizes adult male virgins but not women

[JPresidente]

Not necessarily. There could be good moral reasons.

[Titanic1912]

If a girl is a virgin over 30, that’s not a red flag at all.

[scooogy]

Do you know any? 🤔

[Asker]

Only online

[scooogy]

On here? 👀

[Asker]

Yess

[scooogy]

names please? 👀🍿

[Zygum]

It is her choice, how long she want to keep her virginty

[nawtee_me]

Saving yourself until marriage is a commitment.

[bigpauly]

I wouldn’t view it as one. Some are because they want to wait for the right person.

[Kingofkings1992]

Not a red flag or weird. It’s perfectly fine. They are free to do their own thing.

[Lucy68]

No why would it be

[TheFlak38]

Communist parade red flag.

[Zoi03]

Completely ok maybe she asexual.

[Sandeeppingping]

Maybe she's not as hot as you are