I'm not saying there is anything wrong with being a virgin but after a certain age especially for a woman isn't it kind of a red flag like something is wrong with her?
I would not want to say its a RED FLAG because these women over 30 that are virgins get really defensive about it.
But let me say that I have seen this question before and I did some research on it I am not going to post the links and site any of these numbers you can look it yourself if you really care that much.
So approximately only 5% of women regardless of age are virgins when they get married.
85% of women loss their virginity by the age of 20, and 95% of women lose their virginity by the age 30... and the numbers go as low as 99.7% by by the age of 40.
So a 30 year old virgin is probably a virgin for a specific reason its not something they choose or did by accident. So to me that is a huge concern. Even die hard Christians they are married and having sex by the age of 30. So if you're virgin by the age of 30 the indications are that you have serious commitment issues or are other wise highly insecure about sex. Yes, yes... I get it you have a deeply committed to your faith, morals, values and religious believes... but even Christians get married and start fucking by the age of 30.
So to me its a definite pass, I mean she's a virgin at 30 and she is single... so she can't be the much of a catch. And for all these guys that say its not a concern, well I would question their motivation as to why they find it sexy.
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It would be a big yellow flag for sure, because I'd naturally wonder why she was still a virgin.
Is is fear of intimacy? Low libido? Religious hang ups? Some physical or mental problem? Saving it for marriage?
All those things would be unacceptable for me, personally.
I wouldn't automatically reject her for being a virgin. I don't have anything against virgins. Everyone was one once.
If we liked each other enough to go steady, I'd be willing to see if she DID have a strong libido and wanted to revel in unbridled sexuality. Who knows, she might be a wanton little freak who had never had a chance to live life before.
I am 28 and still a virgin 😶 I don't see it as a bad thing. I am waiting for marriage. I am religious.
Why I am not married yet. I literally only get approached by dirty old men who are 40s 50s and 60s. I'm not interested in them and I can tell they see it as a notch on their belt than an actual relationship.
I never really met a guy my age that respected that I am waiting and they ruin the relationship but trying to get me to sleep with them.
Even though men tell me I am really attractive I don't get approached that much. I see guys checking me out all the time and I can tell they find me attractive but I rarely get a guy approaching me. Except for a older man lol they'll always approach me.
I feel like the guys in my area are really afraid and it's hard to meet people here. I've been to other states where guys have had more guts.
It is a little embarrassing that I'm not married yet and I'm like waiting for marriage and everything. But at the same time 30 is young. Getting married and having kids shouldn't be my main priority. Like I am getting my masters right now so at least I have goals and things I am achieving right now. If I happen to meet someone, I'll meet someone. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. Thats what I like to think.
I wouldn’t say a red flag. Maybe she’s waiting for marriage or she hasn’t found the right person? Personally everyone has a different timing but I couldn’t picture myself waiting that long even tho I was a late bloomer since I had lost my virginity at 22. I’d be a little shocked if I met a girl or guy at work and we became friends or something and they mention being a virgin but I wouldn’t judge them, it’s their life it’d just be like a little shocking like wow they waited this long but everyone should have sex when their ready and comfortable.
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You have to understand that some women don't share the priorities of must people. When I was in medical school (just a couple of years ago), most of the a women were virgins. And more than a few of the men. Why? Well, dating is very time consuming and a distraction. If you plan to get into a field like ours, you have to sacrifice. Medical school is about the equivalent of 80 hours of regular university a year.
Who knows what the reason is. Men don't care about a woman's sexual experience. She can lay on her back and not move and he will stick get his.This reminds me of a segment on the news the other day about former Olympian track star Lolo Jones. She has made the news before about remaining a virgin for her future husband. I didn't even remember what the segment was about I think it had to do with fertility. But she was crying on camera because apparently she hasn't found her future husband yet. And she just turned 40. So she was saving her eggs.
I think it's always a good thing when a woman saves herself for her future husband. But part of me wonders what Lolo Jones's standards are. One thing life has taught me is all you can do is your best. Use your head, exercise patience, invest in and care for people who invest in and care for you. And sometimes it still doesn't always work out. Love is not always easy and at times can be messy. But try your best to not let it crippling you from being able to love.
I think you are pretty cool sweet person. But I don't agree with this question. I see nothing wrong about a 30 year old woman being a virgin , What if she want to save herself to her husband. This is one of the issues I have when I go on dates. Even if I'm divorce I am always honest and straight forward with guys I date I mean these man are 30 year olds and they want sex I tell them well that's not going to happen marriage needs to happen for sex to happen and they live. Yeah I don't agree in a lot of things with people my own generation.
Not caring for sex is not strange for the people who do not care about it 🤷🏻♀️ Totally normal. I would not care if I never have sex but if I’d do want sex id def wait bc people are crazy and I do not want diseases — even a paper w/ test results can’t tell you exactly the last time a person had sex.
Many people may also be waiting. You are young but mature and with an entire family, but 30 is still young for a lot of people they have not sorted out their relationships yet. Many are not mature enough and we’re lucky they are not having sex & making babies 😮💨
I wouldn’t say it is a red flag but it is something to question. As far as I know my cousin is close to fourty at this point and still a virgin and it isn’t that she hasn’t been seeking love she just has never found a guy that worked with her personality. It’s sad but it isn’t a red flag. And I think anyone interested in a a person would be more inspired by their resolve to save it until marriage more then concerned by why they might not have love.
No. People have put to much pressures on others to just have sex and get rid of their virginity instead sharing it with someone who's worthy of having it. They think waiting is a waste of time and that being a virgin is old school. To many people are bonding with the wrong people and wonder why their relationships don't work. You're soul tying yourself to every person you sleep with, that's why it's so hard for many people, man and woman, to truly fall in love or trust again.
No big deal. Some want to wait for right person.
One of my previous girlfriends was 26 when she lost her virginity to me. I think she was demisexual. Where you don't feel sexually attracted to someone unless you have an emotional bond with them. For some that could mean a bit of time or little further in a relationship.
It's fine.. Although, in the West where it's encouraged for women to have sex practically, I would have questions.. But it would be more of a pleasant surprise than weirded out or a red flag.. It would also depend on the explanation, like if she just had fantastic self control and wanted to do the act with the man she loves..
It's a bit unusual. Nevertheless, based on life circumstances: working on graduate or post graduate degrees, focusing on her career, or being committed to finding Mister Right and not interested in flings of one-night stands.
No. Why would it be? It’s their life and therefore their choice. Maybe they are waiting for marriage or simply don’t want to sleep with just anyone and are looking for a deeper connection/building trust with someone before doing it. Whatever the reason is behind it, it’s their business.
if she's waited until 30+ then it's likely due to moral or religious reasons on her part. but could also be that she had less chances due to lack on interest in her for verse reasons. could also be she was focused on her career and lost track of time for dating or hookups.
although prime breeding range for the average women to naturally have her first child is roughly 16-35 if she's healthy. so if she desires a family it's best she tries to get something going during that window. otherwise it may require medical and/or pharmaceutical help for her to get pregnant.
I hate these double standards, but in this case it really is more often than not true. Women over 29 who are still virgins are more often than not virgins by choice (usually religious)! If a man is over 29 and still a virgin, more often than not, it is NOT by choice, and if he were given the opportunity, he would have taken it!
(I am only referring to people in 1st world western democracies) As I am not familiar enough with non western democratic nations to opine on them.Maybe a little. But having a lot of sexual experience isn't what men serious about an ltr are generally looking for.
Everyone has different life experiences and situations. There can be many reasons why someone has remained a Virgin for so long. I would not hold it against her
Ofcourse not.
But it opens the question, why?
Is it because she is saving it for the one?
Is it because she can't find a relationship because of her attitude?
It is a huge red flag if a woman is not married by 29. Virgin however, save it for marriage.
I wouldn’t think something was wrong. I would think she would have good reason. She could have had rotten luck with men. Broken trust. Fear of the unknown or something more personal.
Unmarried virgins are desirable until about age 21 or maybe 22. After that, if they are still virgins, they are undesirables.
I don't bother myself with what other people choose to do with their lives as long as they're not hurting anyone. If people want to be virgins or celibate or whatever that's their business.
Someone got married and had kids by the age of 25 and now all the women who doesn't must have something wrong with them.
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