Girls, would it be a red flag to you if a guy is 30 & a virgin & never kissed a girl or even held hands?

[Anonymous]

Yes that’s a red flag

No it’s not a red flag

[Anonymous]

No, I don’t think this is a problem at all. In fact I think it’s great. I myself am a virgin, but I have kissed and held hands before and been on dates. In time god will send the perfect one to you.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would doubt how much he wanted physical intimacy.. and I would really question if he would specifically want it with me, I am nothing special.

[Asker]

Why? Maybe he’s just shy?

[Opinion Owner]

Because it is many years. You don't get something you want by holding back. If he is that shy why would he tell he never kissed or held hands before?

[Asker]

Probably not but you might work it out from his awkwardness.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't assume such from awkwardness. I would go to the more common reason: he is not interested in me.

[Asker]

So would you then tell him you just want to be friends?

[Opinion Owner]

well if he is so shy I would doubt he had asked me out or something? So would not say anything. Friends is default when getting to know each other for me, if there is no dating then no need to specify that.

[Asker]

What if he asked you out but he never made a move on the dates?

[Opinion Owner]

If I was interested I would probably ask him if he is actually interested, and why that is so. Will not push something on someone holding back.

[Asker]

But you might have lost interest if he never makes a move even if you went on several dates with him?

[Opinion Owner]

what do you mean with a move? like physical?
if he does not flirt back with me then I lose/do not get real interest beyond a friendship.

[Asker]

How would you flirt with him?

[JosyJosy]

Is okay