My ex boyfriend used to call me ugly all the time and now when I talk to a new guy I have a fear that they find me ugly too, how to stop it?

[Tigress1039]

[heyhey321]

Why do you believe him? I’d say him calling you ugly is just part of the problem here, and that’s his part. Your part is to examine why you also believe that to be right. If I call you a bad bus driver, (I hope) you won’t feel offended 🤣 because that would mean that in your own mind there’s nothing tied to that statement, that criticism has nothing to hit in you. In your case something did get hit, a belief or hope you had that he sees you as beautiful despite him saying that and you tied your self worth to that (or someone else in the past gave you a lot of compliments for your beauty) . So, is there more to value in you than just your beauty? (Wild guess, you’re actually more beautiful than you think and he was maybe just insecure and tried to keep you humble and obedient)

[WonderingManII]

You showed pictures of yourself on GAG. It is clear that some people think you are beautiful and some don't. If the guy does not find you beautiful, then He is simply not the right guy. That is the frustrating part about dating, is finding the right person to marry.

[DishLady]

If you can't look in the mirror and see yourself for who you are, go talk to a professional until you can.

[Anonymous]

You don't. You swallow it and let it burn. Learn to make better choices. You don't want to do that? Then you probably deserve to be called ugly. Men do not exist to make you feel better about yourself. The sooner you learn that. The better off you're going to be. Don't want to learn that? Then expect life to be hard for you.

[ilistengood]

So I'm curious if you're so ugly, why was your boyfriend with you? Screw him or unscrewing, I guess.
I have no idea what you actually look like. But I doubt you're ugly.

[exitseven]

You are not ugly. Take my word for it. Tell yourself that exitseven does not think you are ugly and he is always right.

[fish5505_87]

Your Beautiful, you made a bad choice with your ex, learn, move on!

[CuriousMufuxka]

You got with a guy that called you ugly? Have a backbone! Remember you have the sweet prize.

[zombiewoof]

Your ex was an ass