Is it OK to reject a guy because he's too old to raise kids with you?

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Curmudgeon · Accepted Answer

Yes, it is OK. After all, many oldsters like myself have either "been there and done that" or it never happened and so we are banking on earlier retirement and so we no longer want any. Or we lacked the confidence to do it until we were established enough, and by the time we were established enough, we were "over the hill".

However, *that is just the problem* today. How many younger men of your age are established enough to start a family? And that isn't just financially, it is probably also mentally and emotionally and spiritually.

Or even how many men who meet those crieteria who are now thirty somethings?

The answers are almost none and not enough, respectively.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

If you have any reason, no matter what the reason is, it's okay it's your reason that's all that counts, because it's your life. So you look far ahead and you balance things out

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

If he’s too old to raise kids with me, then he’s too old for me full stop. I view too old to raise kids as 45 years and up, and I’m not dating someone the same age as my own parents.

NoDecision · Accepted Answer

If that is one of your must haves, then yes. And also what you define as "too old".

Avicenna · Answer

A woman can reject a guy for any reason she feels like, but there can be big differences in the physical fitness level of people who are exactly the same age, let alone differences in wealth or income. If you meet one 50 year old guy who's in great shape and has good finances, who cares about the other 50 year old guys? The one you want to have kids with is the one that matters.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Fuck no! I have a vasectomy, and I'm surprised how many girls are upset when they find out. I don't want to have kids, it's like lady. I'm almost 45 years old! No nothing wrong with planning for your future.

Still-alive · Answer

You can reject him for any reason. he got an eye patch? reject! he eats candy with silverware? reject! He sings YMCA in the shower super loud while you're trying to sleep? reject!

deaddude7734 · Answer

If you really want to have kids, I guess you should reject a guy like me (50 years old here). However, if you are NOT sure if you want to have kids, at least keep your options open, because guys like me are sort of hard to come by these days (loyal, kind, intelligent, fun-loving).

Billlewis · Answer

As a superior female, You hold the inherent right to be as thorough and exhaustive in Your evaluation process as necessary. Furthermore, and I hope this isn't too plainly obvious, but just because You choose to reject an interested suitor as a lover doesn't mean that You don't have an alternate role for him to perform, such as an emotional and financial supporter, etc.

madhatters4 · Answer

sure. if a family is something someone wants then they should find a partner who is willing/able to raise children with them unless they plan to raise children on their own

Keyboardkat · Answer

If he's so old that you don't think he'll be alive to see the kids through to adulthood, then I'd say yes. Older guys should look for older women who have already raised their children.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

It totally makes sense to me, at 40 I'd also consider myself too old. I think, and it's utterly subjective, that following biological clock of women is quite reasonable

slatyb · Answer

That's a perfectly good reason to reject a man. You don't need a reason to reject someone. If you aren't interested for to whatever reason. then don't date them.

shortster · Answer

What do you think is too old? I don't think anyone is too old to raise a kid. However, if you are looking to start a family; someone over 60 probably is not the best choice. Ultimately though, who you want to be with for the rest of your life is a choice that only you can make and the criteria is yours to decide upon.

LuciusTheOdd · Answer

Anybody can reject anyone for whatever reason they want, People who say otherwise just feel entitled to affection In my opinion

Hagar88 · Answer

Seems reasonable enough. You are of the age at which you should be having kids. A lot of women prefer a man thats at least 3 years older so he can better support a wife and children financially

Apple1996 · Answer

Yep its okay to reject someone for any reason

Unycorn · Answer

Yes. Sure. If kids are such important to you. You made your decision. That is ok!

OneViewpoint · Answer

Sure. It's OK to reject a guy for any reason. Your life your choice.

4ngelic · Answer

why would it be wrong to reject a guy because he's too old for you

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Yeah… no one has to settle for someone they feel is not a good option.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, it is perfectly acceptable to reject someone because their age does not align with your timeline for starting and raising a family

blackeagle007 · Answer

Don’t want kids, at the age that I feel I’m too old for them. I don’t think it’s a match for me if she wants them

DonaldDarko · Answer

Yes because the entire purpose of sexuality is reproduction. If you can't reproduce as well why would you pick that person as your mate?

Texaskid1 · Answer

You're never too old if you can pay the bill .

qwerty2469 · Answer

Yes. Absolutely. I say this as an old man looking for a young woman that would trade her youth and womb for my wealth to have another child

Kaneki05 · Answer

You can reject anyone, based on anything you want

NathanDavis · Answer

it's okay to say No thanks, to anything that you don't want, it's fine...

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes. You have a right to be with who you desire to be with.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

It's ok to reject anyone for any reason you see fit.

Dullie · Answer

This is your preference and you have a right to your preferences if you don’t prefer older men then dont take them

Alex-Snow · Answer

If that is an issue for you then of course it is ok.

kaucky1 · Answer

If the guy could young real long time and honest✨✨💫💨

Nikki1989 · Answer

Absolutely.

Shy-boy53 · Answer

Totally , you have to do what’s right for you

Anonymous · Answer

You can reject someone for any reason.

queenofcardio · Answer

Yeah. Sounds reasonable

AngryCarl3 · Answer

Depends. You want to have kids or no?

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap

Anonymous · Answer

Probably. How old is he?

fish5505_87 · Answer

Sounds reasonable, it's ultimately up to you!

Brady · Answer

yes.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm still helping friends with their kids

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