If one if your friends of the opposite sex tried to warn you about someone you were dating how would you take this information?

[Still-alive]

They got bad vibes or maybe even have bad info on whoever they were dating and decided to warn you about them. How would you take this information. If you are a girl, it was a guy friend warning you and if you were a guy it was a girl warning you.

I would listen to this information and consider it

I would be suspicious of this friend trying to warn me

I would immediately suspect they were jealous and not listen to them, maybe even stop talking to them altogether

It just depends on what they say and/or how they say it

I have a different opinion on this (share yours)

[Apulu_backagain]

Okay so I have a big big tea with this as the complete context.

So I was a lonely 15 year old sophomore girl who just lost her best best friend and had a gap in her heart. Like she was that kind of friend whom I would share every single detail of my life, when she died I wanted to tell her that I lost my friend and realized that she is no more.

I desperately needed someone to fill that gap, someone who allows me to be a yapatron and all. And in 9th to 10th grade I used to go to this coaching centre for physics, chemistry, biology and math. We had online classes 3 days a week and offline classes 3 days a week, mondays were holidays.

So there were other kids too. In that centre I was the kid who went to the elite school so half of the students clinged to me because I had the McDonalds money all the time. Few were genuinely good friends though.

Anyways, so I was the THAT girl, good grade perfect skin rich parents good car in 9th grade. In 10th grade my mental health worsened due to loneliness and I heavily sucked on the attention of the people who didn't care about me. Then I was just a rich bish who was easily available.

And then I made the worst mistake of going to the grocery store hungry, in essence starting to look for a boyfriend just for the sake of attachment. I had 2 guy friends, lets call them Kale and Sand. They were both friends with each other too.

I developed a crush on Sand and even texted him all night every day. I texted him my confession on whatsapp one morning and left for school. When I came back home and checked whatsapp, I was left on read. Then we talked and all and he suggested we just 'play around', before he decides whether he wanted to commit or not. And as a fool I said yes.

Kale knew from the starting that I had crush on Sand. I told him from way early. But he was upset when me and Sand were 'playing around'. So as soon as he knew this, he revealed that Sand wasn't serious about me and had a girlfriend back in his school and he sent me Sand's texts with his school girlfriend. Kale knew this about Sand from star and never told me even though he knew I was crushing on me, only told me once I was dating Sand.

So I stopped talking to Sand. And Kale out of nowhere started giving me extra attention and special treatment and one day said he liked me from the moment he saw me in 9th grade. He even remembered the numbers of both of my cars and my cousin's bike and knew my address. That time I was like awww he is obsessed with me. Now when I think about that I am like... shit he was obsessed with me.

So we started dating. When Sand knew about this he out of nowhere proposed me. And he and Kale had a bad bad fight. I was overwhelmed and broke up with Kale and Kale would contact me from like 15 other numbers, he had insta of one of my close cousins and contacted him too.

In the end I completely pushed away Sand, stayed in a situationship with Kale because it was impossible to cut his off. As soon as 10th grade was over, I dumped him and kept blocking all the new numbers he contacted me from and now he doesn't bother me much. The coaching centre only tutored students till 10th grade.

So my take on this is question to not trust anyone, if you see anything suspicious from any side, run. Think with your brain. Toxic people always have show signs, watch out for those.

[Still-alive]

First of all sorry about your friend. thats gotta be tough. 2nd wow what a crazy situation you were in. a 'situationship' is definitely one way of putting that.

Anyways as crazy as that was. its still high school. so i would say maybe once you reach your 20s you might find it a bit easier to be able to trust friends... but again thats on like a case by case basis.

However i agree you should definitely think with your brain. and also trust your instincts too. if they're telling you 'no. stay away' then listen to that.

[Apulu_backagain]

Yeah, like I am listening to that advice if it is a guy who doesn't have motive, someone I feel safe with and someone who is actually a friend, not just someone I hang out with.

[Still-alive]

yes safety i know is big with a lot of women. i understand :)

[Apulu_backagain]

It should be a big thing for all guys too. I know a guy my age who was approached by a pedo woman who is conventionally attractive and he said he had butterflies in his belly when he talked to her, my guy those ain't butterflies, that's your guts screaming at you to run. He is safe now though.

[Still-alive]

Wow!

yeah safety is definitely something i want too but i guess its not as high of a priority for a lot of guys as it is for women.

[Apulu_backagain]

Maybe but we all deserve a world where no one feels unsafe in the first place.

[Still-alive]

Yes. thats a world i want too.

[Apulu_backagain]

Thanks for the mho!

[DishLady]

Funny this question is around today. I told this one guy hat the gal he was with is KNOWN to be nuts. He said "don't worry, I know she's into cars, that's all" and ended up following her around and ignoring the many lovely women who were all over the place.

[Twalli]

I'm lucky that my sister and parents don't have issues with me dating, well anyone. It's specific people they may have issues with. I know that they're only interested in whether or not that person is good for me. It's pure happenstance and dumb luck that my first girlfriend is the perfect person for me, which is probably why we're engaged.

[Confusedpenguin]

My guy friends are all bisexual and have no interest in me, (they have very specific types and I’m not it and they’re not my type either so no possibility of jealousy, if anything I’m their wingman trying to find femboys and dom women for them LMAO) if they got a bad feeling I would listen to it, I would come to my own conclusion but take their advice to heart

[petitedollbabee]

I would listen and take it in to consideration. I trust my friends more than I trust a partner that I’ve been dating short term.

[queenofcardio]

Yes, I would listen and consider the information.

[douride2]

I didn't listen & I learned a valuable lesson years ago. I would listen to what they have to say. Then check it out for myself.

[LiamJHayden]

I would trust my friend.

[BigD210]

Use your own judgment